Wedding bring out the worst in some ppl?

stefwells23

Is it just me, or do wedding tend to bring out the worst in people? 

kimmykupcakes

*Jumping up and down and waving arms*- Have you read the stories of my future monster-in-law?

stefwells23

Ha ha!! Yes, I have.... she is CRAZY! 

I am beyond irritated, and just want to scream!!!   Apologies for the below rant:

Family for me has been ok, it's just friends that are driving me insane... and being in the early stages of planning and having a bunch of drama to deal with already I can't only imagine how much worse it's going to get. 

One friend blew a big spaz over not being asked to be my MOH, and ended our friendship. Now she keeps sending me message saying how bad of a friend I have been. WTF??

Now I am just dealing with other one that keeps asking why she isn't in my bridal party, and going around to most of my good friends complaining about it and asking why.. then to top it off she went to my mom to ask her what was going on and to get advice on how to talk to me about things. Once she knew that only bridal party was invited, she started dating my FI's best friend and is no expecting an invite after all the save the dates had gone out. She is being a total bag, and I can't even stand the thought of her being at my wedding. 

Seriously thinking about sneaking away this spring and tying the knot with J!!

*Rant over!*

loramarie03

OMG so crazy!! But yes weddings seem to bring out the worst in people, I don't know if its because it can be so emotional or what but its NUTS. Just hang in there... stick to your guns and remember the end goal -- a beautiful day for you and your future hubby!

stefwells23

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-theme-boards_destination-weddings_wedding-bring-out-the-worst-in-some-ppl?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Theme%20BoardsForum:54Discussion:8d5a0e68-7462-46ef-a8c9-1409823f5730Post:667f3714-c490-4edd-adbd-d2a58d1274fc">Re: Wedding bring out the worst in some ppl?</a>:
[QUOTE]OMG so crazy!! But yes weddings seem to bring out the worst in people, I don't know if its because it can be so emotional or what but its NUTS. Just hang in there... stick to your guns and remember the end goal -- a beautiful day for you and your future hubby!
Posted by loramarie03[/QUOTE]

<div>AGREED!! I don't know what it is either, but she has brought all of my friends and now my family into it and I am sick of it. I have confronted her on all of these things, and she denies every talking to anyone about it... (so two of my best friends, and my mom are lying?).  </div><div>
</div><div>All I want is a fun, happy and romantic wedding day with J..... I will stop at nothing to get it, even it that means no one is invited!!</div><div>
</div><div>Thanks for letting me vent ladies :)</div>

jtoly

I'm so glad we eloped, it was the wedding of my dreams!!! People are nuts, don't let them bring you down in your time of happiness!

kimmykupcakes

Nothing like a wedding to bring out the crazies! I have daydreams of eloping all the time.

nicolej518

And people always say the bride is crazy....

txdz14

you know...when my SO and i planned to do our wedding in mexico we secretly hoped no one would come. and as it turns out we have more people than we thought coming.

we would have been just as happy with it being just us because after all, that is what the day is all about anyway.

my advice? elope if you want to! 

and yes i think weddings do bring out the worst. my partner's mom has never been to cozumel and now she is trying to extend her stay for the whole time we will be there and i'm like um hello can i have a honeymoon??

vsnoberg

YES!! I will never understand why but YES it brings the worst out in people.

Case 1) My ex best friend told me good luck in my marriage cuz it wasn't gonna last and my SO was gonna cheat on me. All because I told her I wasn't comfortable paying(we payed for everyone to go to our wedding) for her boyfriend of 1 month (who i'd never met) to my very intimate wedding because he was still legally married. Not even separated (jury is still out on if his wife even knew or not). I removed her from my wedding party and haven't talked to her since. Really your gonna give up a free trip to Costa Rica and miss your best friends wedding, well I guess lose your best friend all over a guy u've been dating 1 month who's still married and living w/his wife. Crazy b**ch.

Case 2) Like txdz14 my parents wanted to stay longer, I was fine with this as CR is big enough we could all be there and not see each other. My dad happens to mention the name of the hotel they are staying at, It was our honeymoon hotel(not a Sheraton or anything like that but a VERY private intimate place with ~30 rooms). Yea, I called and talked to her about it. She didn't understand why she couldn't stay there too because "well the pictures you showed us of it are just so nice we want to be there too". Uh hello its my honeymoon, the 1 time I shouldn't have to worry about my Mom trying to follow me is my honeymoon. I told my dad and he made her change hotels but I STILL hear about it all the time (wedding was April). "Yeah, I wish WE could've stayed at the Arenal Nayara but we weren't allowed".  Every time though I say "damn right you weren't gonna stay at my honeymoon hotel, any normal person will agree with me" (and they always do, Mom on your honeymoon is a no go).

BMcLeodTeam

Most definitely, I even lost a friend over it because apparently wearing my ring and answering when people asked how wedding planning was going at work (I worked at the time with one of my readers, one of my ushers and one of my BMs) meant I was purposely rubbing her nose in the fact I'm happy and she's not.

stefwells23

It blows my mind how people can just take someone so special and make it all about them!

Mom's being on the honeymoon, is a NO GO!!! Sorry to hear you ladies had to deal with that.

It's interesting to me that best friends can behave this way? My friendship of 10 years ending simply because she thought it was unfair that she wasn't MOH? Who is she to decide who I am closest with?
Oh, and I get the same thing 'why are you rubbing it in everyones face that you are engaged?'. Um, this is one of the happiest moments of my life, I can't help share it with everyone!
This coming from someone who married her 'apparent' soul mate in 2009, divorced in 2010, re-engaged to her new soul mate and married in 2011?! She threw her being engaged twice before me in my face all the time, and that's not hurtful?

Ugh!!

Thanks for sharing/venting with me ladies. As much as I hate we have all experienced things like this... I really do feel better knowing I am not alone!

stefwells23

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[QUOTE]Nothing like a wedding to bring out the crazies! I have <strong>daydreams of eloping</strong> all the time.
Posted by kimmykupcakes[/QUOTE]

Having these everyday!!!

Erinkathleen84

Yes this is why I sometimes wish I would of eloped. But as the wedding gets closer you will be very happy I promise. Just get things done early and try not to sweat the crazies