Confession Thursday!

venus909

YAY!  It's Thursday and the weekend is almost here! 

This is the place to let your confessions out! 

1.....2......3.... GO!

jtoly

I confess after all this Christmas time off issues with work, I don't even want it now! They can take it and shove it somewhere the sun don't shine : ) Nothing should be this difficult. I want a new job so bad but I have 4 weeks vacation now so I don't want to loose it. I just hope my supervisor quits!!!

Julyet06

I confess that before TheKnot I would come into work and first check my facebook...now the first thing I do is come here to see what everyone is up to and if something new was posted 

minionlover

I confess that even after my father's apology with regard to his drunken phone call on tuesday, I am still mad and confused but he doesn't think that I should be.  He told me that I need to get over the fact that I feel uncomfortable that he is still friends with my XH.  This also make FI unconfortable too. He also kept telling me that family was very important to him but then he said that it was unfair of me to make him choose between XH and I.  So basically he is saying that he is not going to change but I have to to save the family since I am ruining it for everyone.  Oh and aparently FI & I make my dad unconfortable because he feels that he needs to "tip toe around us" with regard to talking about my XH.  Are FI and I the only ones that see the common denominator here?

So in the end my dad wants me to choose and I think that its so I can be the bad guy and as a futher confession, I think that I might be ready to be the bad guy. 

My last confession for this post is that FI and I are having major second thoughts about getting married in FL.  I think that we are at the point of being ok with losing the deposit on the photographer.

jtoly

Cathy, it's so hard for me with my friends and my XH that if my family was still friends with him IDK what I'd do. I'm almost re-thinking hanging around with my friends because of it but you can't do that with your family. That is so hard and I think you dad needs to realize its ruining your relationship w him and bonding with his new FSIL. How long we're you with the XH?

minionlover

XH and I were together for about 12 years, married for 3 of those years.  I understand that it was a long time but at the same time like you said, he needs to start seeing how this is affecting me and FI.

venus909

Jenn - I can totally relate to the job, bad supervisor and not wanting to lose the vacation time...  Hang in there....  hopefully your supervisor quits too!

Cathy - what a crappy situaiton that your Dad is putting you in...  He needs to realize how he's making you and FI feel.  Your family should always come first.  If you don't have your wedding in FL are you going to pick a different destination?

I'm really trying to come up with something to "confess" this week but I've got nothing... that may change during the course of the day though...lol

jtoly

It is a long time and I was with my XH for 10 years so I know how close families can get. My XH goes quad riding all the time. My mothers bf is friends with my XH so once in a while they go along with my XH but she keeps that part of her life separate. Meaning she doesn't discuss him with me or anything even though me and XH are friends. Can your dad still talk to ur X but not discuss it with you and not think you and ur FI Should be friend? Tell him you want to keep him out of your life which is why your divorced and you'd rather them not even bring up his name to you. I'd hate to see you change your wedding plans over this but you should also not have to deal with this so you Should do what will make you happy and less stressful!!

murphanzo

Cathy, do you and XH have kids?  If not, then it shouldn't be hard for your father to respect your wishes of cutting ties with XH.  Or at the least stop throwing it in your face.

I confess I am flat broke!!  Like so broke I'm freaking out about not having money for Vegas, HM, BM?FI's gifts.  I have no idea where my money went, all I know is it's not in my checking account anymore.  All those little purchases added up and drained me dry.  Seriously freaking out!!!!!

minionlover

My dad tries to keep things separate but deep down he wishes that we could all just hang out and be friends.  This is exactly what he said to me.  The funny thing is is that like I said before, it makes him unconfortable that he can't talk about seeing my XH and what not in front of me.  Plus my dad says that when he does call my X, he does return his call and my dad has to call several times.  Doesn't this tell him that the X doesn't really want to be in the situation.  I get the feeling that my dad pesters him enough that he feels guilty and calls him back.

If we do decide not to get married in FL, it will be at a resort in the caribbean where it is really easy to get married.

murphanzo

Cathy- weird.  he really should move on and use the opportunity to get close with your FI before he causes more damage to their relationship.

I also confess I'm getting super peeved at my photographer.  FI and I did our e-pics on Monday and she said that she would have a sneak peek up Monday night and nothing!  She also took 2 days to respond to an email, but had plenty of time to post on FB.  And I just checked her site, she posted a blog about a kid she took pictures of.  I really want my photos!  It's Thursday and I want to see my sneak peek!

jtoly

Lindsay, I want to see your sneak peak too! I hear ya about the money. Can you try putting $50 a week in a savings acct? FI did his taxes and owes $3000! Yikes, where do you pull that from. He also is supposed to pay for the hotel in Hawaii since I paid the airfare. I feel bad for him. He pays a lot of child support and has a huge loan cause his B XW drained him in their divorce and then took credit cards out in their name and ran them up and didn't pay them. FI can't have bad credit for his job so he has to pay those credit cars off too. Ugh. I wish we all would win the lotto.

minionlover

Lindsay, we don't have kids thank god so you can add that to the wierdness factor.

I am with you on the money thing and the photo thing.  I am worried about doing my taxes (a) because of the cost of doing them and (b) because I did an estimate wrong and I think that I am going to have to pay the State.  I don;t understand your photog...why can't they even do one photo to send to you.  One photo is not that hard...Or at least they should have given you a different time frame.

murphanzo

Ummm Cathy, that's weird.  I'm out of suggestions.  that's just really weird.  Did you dad also want a son?  does he have a son?  That's really weird.

I have 3 paychecks until we're in Vegas (HOLY BAT BALLS!)  and here's what I have:

paycheck 1- finish paying off photog and possibly get BM tote stuff

paycheck 2- rent & 150 left over for 2wks.  save as much as possible

paycheck 3- get stepdad a thank you gift, $100max. and use rest for Vegas.

still need to get: FI's gift ($200 pac man game, he spent $200 on me) dad's gift ($60 bottle of crown royal or a card, he's been really messing up my life for the past year)

11beck

Jenn- I wish your supervisor would quit too!

Cathy - Your father needs to realize that he needs to choose his daughter and find a new friends that isn't someone's ex.  I can't imagine my parents practically choosing my ex over me.  I'd be soooo ticked!

Lindsey - I'm sorry about all the money issues and your photog.  Hopefully it all works out!

I confess that I'm soooo happy that FI got the new teaching job!  BUT he still wants to keep working on Saturday's at the store.  We'd have enough money for him not to work and I want to have a "normal' weekend for once!  Since we've been together (3 years) he's had maybe 5 weekends off.  It's so frustrating to never have that couple time. And now he wants to work more, ugh!

I also confess that I'm sooo happy that we have next week off from grad school, no late nights! yay!

minionlover

Yes I actually have an older brother.  He has it right though...he lives in California.  Would you believe that he only speaks to my dad every once in a while and that my dad and his wife have only been out to see him 2 times in the past 6 years.  My dad's excuse for not going to see him more often is because my brother didn't have a steady place that he was living and was even living in his car at one point. On the other hand, tey go out to see my step brother in Oregon at least twice per year....I don't get it. 

Man does my dad sound like a big a-hole.....

jtoly

Did you ever have an alone talk with your dad About this. Maybe that's what's needed.

BMcLeodTeam

I confess that when filling out the application/questionnaire thingy to become mod on my month board, I realized how badly I am addicted to TK lol! They ask how often you come on the boards and when I actually thought about it I was like oh, wow.... lol

I also confess that I have been seriously struggling as of late with nightmares, and not sure why. I am EXHAUSTED because I haven't had a nights sleep in ages. They are SO real, and I end up sitting up reading by book light to avoid going back to sleep. On Sunday night I dreamt I was in the hospital, with the IV in the back of my hand, and everyone was talking around me but no one would listen to me as I tried to tell them I was fine, so I started clawing at the IV to pull it out so I could get up to tell them... woke up and I had been clawing at my hand enough I actually clawed a small spot of skin off and was bleeding...

jtoly

Oh no Britt....you better rest up this weekend or take some sleepy pills. I have crazy dreams but when I take them I dont seem to dream. Um ya I am on TK all the time! Maybe cause I don't use fbook so this keeps me in contact with people I actually like! Lol

BMcLeodTeam

Not a ton of time for resting this weekend, its pretty packed lol