My finance and I live away from both of our families. We live in the south east. His family is in the mid-west and mine is in the great lakes area (several states away).
We're planning a very small DW to south Florida and inviting immediate family, grandparents, and a few close friends. We were going to have an AHR for each of our families in the cities where we grew up (2 AHRs total, and not do anything where we live right now). So we're traveling a lot do and taking a lot of time off to accommodate everyone.
My Mom and I got in a huge fight last night about the AHR near them. They're hosting it and paying for it. She has family that live near the DW site (3-4) hours away. It's closer for them to come to the wedding, but we've agreed not to invite extended family. She's mad that we'd make them travel to an AHR 1000+ miles away, but I'm worried about causing drama in our families by inviting them.
She yelled at me, told me she was going to tell her family to just show up at the wedding. I told her she is being disrespectful to my finance and I. We're paying for the entire DW ourselves!!! She said she's disappointed in me and the wedding. Not sure what to do! We can't afford to invite everyone to the wedding.
Do I invite these 3 extended family members because they live so close to the DW, and potentially make 100+ people angry?
Or do I invite them to the AHR by the rest of my family, and make my mom, and the 3 extended family members angry?
Please help! Any advice would be great!! I'm so stressed out, and I need to send out save the dates soon!
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