Advice....

stefwells23

So I am going to try to keep with somewhat vague, just to avoid any confusion.

Would you allow someone to guilt you into being invited to your DW wedding?
Also, would you invite someone strictly out of obligation (casual gf of FI's friend) over one of your close friends to your DW wedding if you had a limited amount of space?

Thx!

kimmykupcakes

Oh, hell no! It's your wedding. Invite who YOU want there. Isn't one of the reasons to have a DW is to not have to invite those you don't want to? I know it was for us. Just say you are only inviting family and best friends.

bbuckner984

What Kimmy said. 

jtoly

Agreed. I have no problem telling people no....I wish my sister directed her FMIL to me for this same reason, but for her shower.

stefwells23

This is the exact reason why we wanted to do a DW wedding!

I have been told it's rude/bad etiquette not to invite an SO (been casually dating for 2 months) of a friend of groom. I just want to be able to let the people know that we are inviting to barbados so they can start savings cash etc....

Thanks ladies, I just have to stand up for what we want... and that everyone who doesn't like it will have to suck it up. My Fi's friend has already questioned why we haven't extended the invite to her now that they are together... ugh!

kimmykupcakes

It's not rude to not want to invite someone's latest flavor. It's rude to feel forced to do so. If someone is not in a serious relationship then there is no obligation to invite whoever they are casually dating. 

stefwells23

Thanks Kimmy!! I will just keep going the way we are, and if she thinks I am rude... so be it!

kimmykupcakes

And just in case you are told you are being rude, wedding etiquette even says you don't have to.  

stefwells23

Lovely, thanks again!! I have been by a couple people

Erinkathleen84

I think you should invite who you want ! However if the person is traveling alone it may be polite to let them bring a guest. I know I probably would not want to travel to barbados by myself. If he is traveling with a group then I would not worry about inviting his girlfriend if you do not have the room.

stefwells23

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[QUOTE]I think you should invite who you want ! However if the person is traveling alone it may be polite to let them bring a guest. I know I probably would not want to travel to barbados by myself. If he is traveling with a group then I would not worry about inviting his girlfriend if you do not have the room.
Posted by Erinkathleen84[/QUOTE]

My FI and his friends have known each other for over 20 years :)  I also have a few gf's that are coming down without a guest, I mentioned to them that there just isn't going to be room for their newest beau and they all understood. I just wish this guy would stop complaining about it, and stop pushing. My FI has offered to talk to him about, not too sure how that will go.