Bummed about fi's fitting

hmacsine

Yesterday, fi and I went to men's warehouse to decide on the attire for him and his groomsmen. My fi decided on a white tux with a iris ( pale purple) vest and tie. Our colors are red, pink, and purple. My fi made his own color. I didn't make it a big deal because it is his day too. Now I keep wondering how the pics will look. Do you think it's going to be a big deal? Edit: The rest of his groomsmen and my ring bearer will wear black with a red vest. My brothers(walking me down the aisle) will wear black with a purple vest and tie

Nancy00714

I'll be honest that I'm against men in white tuxes.  I feel you should be happy with what he wears and he should want to make you happy and take your ideas and feelings into consideration. Maybe you can compromise somehow.

If you are worried about how the pics will look with him and his groomsmen, well, IMO what you're describing doesn't sound good, sorry to say it...it sounds like 2 different weddings...your GMs are wearing black and red and your FI is wearing white and purple, hmmm.  It's not very cohesive...if he wore white and red maybe or they wore black and purple...You've got a lot going on. 

Sorry if this didn't make you feel better. 

There are other ways to bring in your wedding colors other than vests and bowties...such as their boutonnieres.

Madisonpenny

I think thats going to look fine. I actually love the red/purple combo. I'm going to assume that the purple you guys have in your color combo is a deep purple vs. the light purple he chose for himself.
If your really against the light purple, could you ask him if he'd be willing to do the deep purple instead?   But I really think him in a white tux with the other guys in black will be fine.
Think of it this way. All BMs in one color dress while the MOH is in a different color.  This usually looks fine.

penny12986

If he is happy with what he is wearing, then I think it's fine. Did he ask your opinion on it? Most grooms don't give any input on what the bride wears.

hmacsine

I was thinking the same thing. I wish I could have shown his a picture of everything. I was trying to persuade him in a different direction but he was persistent. He also wanted to buy the tux since I brought my dress. He's being a complete diva! Why would you choose a random color? Then on our way home he shirt he wanted to buy a "iris" shirt. Ugh kill me now I hope we can find a compromise.

BeachLover2885

Did your FI already purchase the tux? Can you maybe switch it? If he's going to buy one, I feel like he would get a lot of use out of a black tux rather than a white tux. Maybe you can explain that to him also. It's really nice that you are giving him a chance to pick out what he wants,  but in this case it sounds like he needs a woman's touch! GL 

littlemoments324

I don't think the white is so bad...have you seen them all together?? It does seem a little random having the white with the purple, and then everyone else wearing red (except for your brothers)...What shade of purple are your brother's wearing??  FI should match them and still wear the white tux.

mekiakoo

What color is your dress?? If your dress is ivory- it will not go good with white tux. My dad was going to get a cream colored tux and the workers said it will look funny with my very white dress.

Otherwise, I think your FI could stay with the white tux but maybe he should change the color of the vest?

My FI is wearing black tux with white vest/tie while the GMs are wearing black tux with red vest/tie. I don't think it will look too strange if your FI stands out wearing white while everybody else is wearing black.

What are you worried about though? That his purple vest/tie will look funny or worried about him wearing the white tux?

BrightFirefly

FI asked me what type of tuxedo that I want him to get - and honestly...I don't care.

I want FI to be comfortable, happy, and confident on our wedding day. If he comes home with a zebra stripe tuxedo - good for him. It's his day too. He didn't dictate what type of dress I should get - he just urged me to get something that would make ME Happy - and ignore everything else.

If it looks a bit off, it looks a bit off - but it'll be something to laugh about later. ;-)

I think white would look okay - I think white tuxedos are pretty sweet. Lol.

hmacsine

@ beachlover he won't wear a tux again. We don't attend formal events. @mekiakoo& little moments. I'm wearing white. I don't have am issue with him wearing white. I have an issue with fi wearing a random color I'm also scared the rest of the wedding party wont coordinate with him. I wish they had a "build your wedding" party for groomsmen. (David's bridal has One for bm) Do have any ideas on how to coordinate his wedding party? I don't have a clue and it's obvious fi doesn't either. Lol

BeachLover2885

If i'm correct, I believe Men's Warehouse offers the groom either a free tux to rent for the wedding or a free suit for purchase if you have 5 tux rentals in your WP. I like PP suggestions about him wearing a black tux with a white vest to match your dress. This way, he will stand out as the groom but your brothers and the GM will wear the colors of your wedding. Also, maybe look for pictures of WP that have different color vests, etc. and see what he thinks?

What color are your BM dresses?

sara814

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[QUOTE]What color is your dress?? <strong>If your dress is ivory- it will not go good with white tux</strong>. My dad was going to get a cream colored tux and the workers said it will look funny with my very white dress. Otherwise, I think your FI could stay with the white tux but maybe he should change the color of the vest? My FI is wearing black tux with white vest/tie while the GMs are wearing black tux with red vest/tie. I don't think it will look too strange if your FI stands out wearing white while everybody else is wearing black. What are you worried about though? That his purple vest/tie will look funny or worried about him wearing the white tux?
Posted by mekiakoo[/QUOTE]

<div>I am being really careful with the color of my dress being as close as possible to the color of FI and wedding party's shirts. I have been told that if the white of the dress and the white of the shirts do not match, the pictures look weird. I know you said that your dress is white, just thinking that maybe you could take a swatch to make sure! </div>

michelle11988

I think that if he has a deep purple that will look fine with the red.  I'm not sure what you mean by pale purple but all I can think of is a light purple that you see for Easter things or baby things.  Do you have pictures or links to the vests and such that we can see?

Madisonpenny

I only have men in my WP(My borther standing for me, and FIs BFF on his side). No one is wearing the same color although they will all be in black suits.  Although we haven't chosen who will be wearing which color tie/vest someone will be in Royal blue, Another in Emerald Green and another in Bright Yellow. 

Like I said before,i really don't think it's going to look that bad.  Is it possible to have everyone meet at the store and get dressed in their suits and the colors theyw ill be wearing so you can see what it's going to look like?

hmacsine

Iris is a light purple. My colors are deep purple, and red with hints of pink. I can't post any pics because I'm on my phone. Also,Only one of our groomsmen are local. I just found out men's warehouse offers the wedding party simulation. My fi and I will probably play with it tonight.

littlemoments324

awesome! Play with it and see!  I think the purple will be fine...and I believe that DB does have it for the guys too>...it's been a while since I messed around with it.

MeaganR12

I think it's weird honestly. I know that probably won't make you feel better but I just dont get it. Can't all the groomsmen where a similar color? I don't think light purple and red match at all.

Heather Wood

I picked the color and then I let him pick from that. But lite purple sounds like it will befine because the other colors are purple too.