So I think we're going to elope now...
Sorry, this will be long...
We are about 5 months out from our wedding and invitations have been sent but I think we might elope now.
No one seems to be going to our wedding. I booked a place that I wasn't even in love with to accomodate my guests. (We originally wanted to go to Barbados but it seemed too expensive and inaccessible for everyone so we switched to the Bahamas instead.) Neither one of us really wanted to get married there, but it was the most affordable place for our guests we could find. We've had about 40 people say they would go to the wedding in the Bahamas back in June when we first sent save the dates. Since then everyone, has been saying their going. But only seven people have put down the initial depsoit of $25 per person. The second deposit of $200 per person is due on January 5th. I hardly think anyone is going to put down money. What sucks if we don't have enough people by that date, we'll lose the group rate. Of course, we call people and now everyone wants to suddenly act like they didn't know about the first $25 deposit. We still have people saying they are going, but now I think they are all talk. Not even his mom and brother have put down a deposit yet! (We do know they are definitelly going though).
I understand that dw are expensive for some, but I really wish people would stop leading us on to believe they are coming and not put down a deposit since we told them in JUne. Just tell us you aren't coming! We won't hate them for it!
On top of that, the wedding coordinator at the resort is terrible. She likes to make appointments but not actually call then come up with some dumb excuse on why she can't talk to me.
At this point me and the fiance are so through with this. We picked a location that we weren't too thrilled about to please our guests after they said they would go there and can afford it and now no one is coming. We are really thinking about telling everyone the wedding is canceled so we can get married in Barbados like we originally wanted.
People will be mad but I don't care at this point. I know that sounds bad, but if enough people don't deposit by January 5th I think we might actually consider it...
WE were thinking of hosting an AHR but I don't know if we even want to deal with it since we can't trust people to even RSVP or give a truthfull answer even with nearly a year notice!
I wish we had stuck with Barbados like we originally wanted instead of changing for our guests' sake. I guess this is what we get when we go against what we want to please our guests.
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