A little annoyed...

kimmykupcakes

So, we have these friends... Friends who were so excited to be going to our wedding. Friends who said they would absolutely be there. Friends who said they couldn't wait to go to the wedding. Now that has seemed to change.

They recently came to us and said that they don't think that they will be able to go because they don't think they can afford it. We were bummed, but we got it. I mean, we've been having financial issues, too.

Then I find out that they really can afford it. They are going on two different trips that they booked AFTER they were invited to our wedding AND said they were going. One is about a month before our wedding and the other is the month after. Both places they have been to before. More than once.

So, yeah, I'm a little annoyed. Don't lie ppl, just tell the truth.

jtoly

Oh Kimmy I'm sorry! I'll take their place : ) Friends suck lately! Don't they realize you will know they are going away? I hate liars. I'd feel better if someone were honest and just said, we decided to take our own vacation, I hope your not upset. But lying gets people nowhere, and eventually friendless if they always lie!

nicolej518

I say while you're in Hawaii, you send them a nice little "Wish you were here" postcard, and a bundle of sarcastic love: "Sorry things didn't work out financially. Can't wait to get back to hear all about BOTH of your other trips though! 

Attach an ice scrapper!

venus909

Kimmy I totally feel you!!!!  It's sooo dissapointing...I've had this happen to me a few times so far... all family too.. OH and my MOH...

Just today I received a FB message from my Cousin.. who also has been saying since I got engaged that she would be there no matter what...  well today she said that she doesn't think they will be able to afford it because they don't have anyone to watch the kids and to take the kids would be too costly... BUT they are going to Cozumel next week... They went to cozumel like 8 months ago too.... so I don't get it.. BUT each their own... 

minionlover

I am not sure what you are annoyed at since I can't see, but I hope that its not me for a change.

minionlover

Yay I can see it and its not me!!!

Anyways, I agree, why couldn't they just come out and say that they decided on something else.  There is really no need to string somebody along and get their hopes up when you know that its not going to happen. 

loramarie03

Ah I hear ya, we asked one of our friends to be a groomsmen and it's up in the air if they can afford to do it. Meanwhile, they are planning a trip to Europe. That's fine if you don't want to come, but don't lie because in today's age with FB and the way people are connected, you are going to be busted. 

marriedonmaui

I just don't get it. Why not go to Hawaii? A.) It's beautiful B.) The wedding only takes one day, the rest of the stuff is optional, so if you really want a vacation, going to Hawaii counts C.) I'm sure they can afford it.

Bullhockey.

Sorry Kimmy

goodine11

I abusolutly understand, that is what happen to be with two bridemaid and my MOH. And then after they called together and decline. One called two months later telling me she was getting married with no engagement..

jtoly

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-theme-boards_destination-weddings_a-little-annoyed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Theme BoardsForum:54Discussion:f10b0c72-94f4-457c-8b7d-bd7533f212a6Post:907fce09-bdee-48b7-abae-0ab75bd8f550">Re: A little annoyed...</a>:
[QUOTE]I say while you're in Hawaii, you send them a nice little "Wish you were here" postcard, and a bundle of sarcastic love: "Sorry things didn't work out financially. Can't wait to get back to hear all about BOTH of your other trips though!  Attach an ice scrapper!
Posted by nicolej518[/QUOTE]



Bahahahaha......love it, attach an ice scraper!!

kimmykupcakes

I can't see any of the replies on here. Stupid TK! 

kimmykupcakes

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-theme-boards_destination-weddings_a-little-annoyed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Theme BoardsForum:54Discussion:f10b0c72-94f4-457c-8b7d-bd7533f212a6Post:907fce09-bdee-48b7-abae-0ab75bd8f550">Re: A little annoyed...</a>:
[QUOTE]I say while you're in Hawaii, you send them a nice little "Wish you were here" postcard, and a bundle of sarcastic love: "Sorry things didn't work out financially. Can't wait to get back to hear all about BOTH of your other trips though!  Attach an ice scrapper!
Posted by nicolej518[/QUOTE]

I may just do this!

kimmykupcakes

I am finally able to see everything now. I get not being able to go, I just wish they were honest about it. Plus, it's not like they are going to some great places. It's just the tiki conventions in Palm Springs and San Diego. The Tiki conventions that WE introduced them to. The tiki conventions that happen EVERY year.

Oh, well they are the ones missing out. You've all seen what we've been doing for this wedding. We have a nice group of guests going with us and I know it's going to be a ton of fun.

Plus, on the bright side of things, less money we have to pay for the wedding!

ashleyjgetsmarried

I'm so mad for you! Are these good friends? Why couldn't they just tell you the truth!  

XML&MrP

It must be common lack of manners now-a-days bc this happened to us with 3 of the invites, they "couldn't afford to go blah, blah, blah" then have the NERVE to post on FB that they are taking vacations one to the Turks & Caicos, with the whole fam in tow... Yeah I smell something.... Smells like BS! But look at it this way, those who DO come are those who really love & support you and you don't need the others & their BS excuses with that negative energy on your big day.... xx

BMcLeodTeam

I totally understand you being frustrated if they were already telling you they were going! I would be upset too! Sorry you're having to deal with this

WinstonsGirl

I'm with you Kimmy.  We have a friend who did that too - he has been buying crazy high end speakers all year, yet stressing about how to find the money to come to Hawaii.  It sucks that you can't tell people how to spend their money, cos boy would I have him sorted out!!  And at our wedding!!  

Erinkathleen84

I am so scared of this happening and being really upset. I do not understand people not wanting to take an awesome ass vacation where they get free food & booze ??????????????????

jessj336

Kimmy,

I so can relate. We had friends of ours do that too. My best friend from college was all about coming and then she pulled the "we can't afford it" card but she has no problem buying designer clothes and traveling all over the world for yoga retreats plus she & her husband are both on wall street. It is a load of BS!! But at the end of the day I know that the people who care about us the most and who are truly are friends are going to be there. Hell the Best Man has been having financial issues and another friend of ours lost their job yet they are doing all they can to make sure they are there.

Besides what matters most is that you & D are getting married in Maui!! and you two are the most important ppl so....

ehlerss

Ugh I'm so sorry Kimmy!  That is so frustrating!  Especially when you know they can afford it and are just being a** holes.  One of FI's friends since childhood is probably not coming, we don't know for sure, I just have a feeling.  What annoys me about that is that he lived at home up until a couple of months ago!  He was working full time and could have already paid off his darn trip!!!!!! Instead he slacked and didn't save even though he has known about the wedding for over a year!  Ugh one of the more annoying parts of a DW!

HappyMaddie

We had two people do this too! One was my cousin, he said money was an issue, so I was bummed but I completely understood. Then just last week on Facebook his GF put up photos of their trip to the Mayan riviera (where we are going)! And the other was FIs best friend, they are trying to save for the wedding in July 2013 - which we totally understood because we are doing it too. Then he called FI on the weekend saying how much fun he had in Jamaica (they stayed at sandals which is more expensive then our resort!) So yeah people are awesome but like previous posts said, it's about you and your FI, it would be nice if additional people came but it's only important if you two show up!!

kimmykupcakes

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-theme-boards_destination-weddings_a-little-annoyed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Theme BoardsForum:54Discussion:f10b0c72-94f4-457c-8b7d-bd7533f212a6Post:4bc09fb5-083e-46b6-9c3b-a5094cf010b5">Re: A little annoyed...</a>:
[QUOTE]I am so scared of this happening and being really upset. <strong>I do not understand people not wanting to take an awesome ass vacation where they get free food & booze ??????????????????
</strong>Posted by Erinkathleen84[/QUOTE]

BAWHAHAHAHA! I know, right?!