Ladies need your help!

milfette

I've had a hellava day a work and just realized that my stress leave may end up being extended indefinitely. Then I come home and try and arrange with my MOH and Mom about going to my first ever dress shopping appointment tomorrow and my mom is a selfish person, I know that but it hurt me a lot when she said she didn't feel like coming. She basically didn't care.

I'm not a cryer but lately everything pulls tears including this.

My MOH hasn't ever been married or dress shopping either and we're going to a brand new David's bridal so I'm not sure if they have had to deal with many destination brides who don't want destination dresses SO:

What advice can y'all give to keep me sane tomorrow.

P.s. I don't know if I'm going to buy a dress or have my mom in law make it for me(she offered). This is to help me envision a dress that I would like.

Britj1030

Hey !

Dress shopping was one of the most difficult experinces for me starting out. I wasnt a cryer until recently now that it is soon approaching and so many loose ends to tie. My advice would be just have fun and try on dresses:you have plenty of time!!!

Jules1112

Hey girl, try and stay positive. I'm sorry your mom is causing you so much heartache but i do know what it's like to be upset throughout the planning process. I was married before and because if this i feel like I've been dismissed from the need/want to feel like a bride. I've had no shower, no engagement party, no help, and barely any excitement. I couldn't care less about gifts, just want to feel special. Anyway, sorry to take thus of track, my intention behind my rant is that as it gets closer and your planning is underway you'll realize peoples selfishness and lack of consideration really isn't worth your stress and tears. All that matters is you are marrying your best friend and love. As for dress shopping, I'm not sure where you are from, but they have a lot more expertise than you may realize. Also usually when they open a new store they staff it with a lot of experienced sales people to help. Just be clear on what you envisioned,if you want something lighter, the length, if you have preference to a fabric or neckline. DW are becoming more and more popular, do I'm sure it will be fine! Hope that helped, and please let us know how it goes! I'll be there in thought lol!

milfette

Thanks ladies! I do have time but you think that if you only daughter gets engaged... Meh. Nice long shower and I have that "what did you expect" feeling. Jules I hope you get your day in the sun! Not getting excited for a second marriage is like not getting excited for baby #2 in my eyes!

Meg&Austin

Good luck with your dress! When.I went to Davids bridal they made it very easy! So sorry about your mom as well. I hope she comes around and starts getting a little more excited for you! Let us know how it goes!

rach2686

Sorry about your mom. Sometimes I wish people DIDNT want to be involved. I keep getting the " I feel left out" guilt trip. LOL I am sure your dress shopping experience will be great. When I went I told the girl just a couple of things, and she brought me options that were exactly what I said. Try to just have a good time!

harr0610

Did you just get engaged? Give your mom some time to come around. My mom was the EXACT same way. The weekend after I got engaged we went to breakfast. I was talking about what I wanted for the wedding. She basically told me she didn't care, she isn't "into weddings", wasn't going to help (financially or otherwise) and rolled her eyes and said "ok then princess" sarcasitaclly to everything I said I wanted. She even made the comment "Why do you even want a wedding dresss?" to me.

We're now getting married in 3 weeks. My mom cares FAR more about this wedding than I do. She is MOMZILLA and driving me insane, and has contributed a ridiculous amount of time and money to this thing.

I feel for you. I know it's hard. I went to my MOH's house the night of our ill fated breakfast crying hystarically and got ridiculously drunk. But she came around. She might surprise you

As far as dress shopping,. have fun! I was super nervous too. Try on stuff you think you might not like (what I ended up with was nowhere near what I wanted). Listen to opinions, but go with your heart. It'll be fun. Just keep an open mind, try and relax, and remember at the end of the day, it is just clothes shopping

milfette

Thanks again everyone!

That night i talked to a friend, woke up to all your comments and had some random amazing guy buy my coffee in the morning. I was so calm when i went in there!! I didnt find the dress or anything i really loved too much but i did discover my love of shopping again.

My mom has her moments but she is family. I guess at the end of the day, I have to remember that. Wether she appears to not care or someday turns into momzilla, she is my only mom and i am her only daughter. Enjoy this time is the one mantra that ive seen time and time again on here.