Gift registry...cash?

myoctwedding09

My fi and I have been living out since college so both of us have tons of stuff for our newlywed nest and really don't want to add more stuff. We want to ask for either gift cards or cash rather than wedding registry. Is that okay! How do we say it? Without sounding money greedy.

Irchik22

We signed up for Honeyfund.com registry which gives yours guests the option to give cash for your honeymoon...but technically it's asking for cash since they juts put send a check, give you check or put it into your account.Our culture has a custom of giving cash to newlyweds so we created it for those that don't know our traditions.

stephmwood

The best way to try and get money or gift cards, is to have it passed through word of mouth, so when people call your parents or fi's parents to find out where they're registered they can say. Please do not put it on the invites. :)You probably do need to register though, there will be some people uncomfortable with money, and if its on a registry there should be a better return policy. I fully see your position about having lots of stuff already. We are taking this opportunity to replace with nicer stuff. It might be a thought if you need to register for a few things.

anglyn

There is no way to say it and be within etiquette. Do a small registry and then hope once things thin out - you'll get gift cards/cash. Some people refuse to give cash/gift cards. Either give them options, or take your chances with what they want to give you.

anglyn

PS. We were living together too and had a lot of things - but we decided to upgrade. Nicer dishes, better quality items - You can get things like china or nice silverware/glassware too. Since you'll be unlikely to buy them for yourselves.

jackelbride

I second Angela. There is no way to just ask for money and follow etiquette. This is actually one of my pet peeves and I would personally not give money to someone that asked for it. I however have handed over cash to my more humble couples that needed it but didn't ask. We live together but we could use nicer dishes, more mixing bowls, better appliance, and cool stoneware baking dishes. We also registered on Amazon.com for a gps, lawnmower, camping gear, etc.I'm in my friend's wedding in September and she tried just to skip the registry and ask for money via "Wishing Well" for her bridal shower and wedding.She ended up with lingerie and dishes (that she didn't ask for or need) at the bridal shower because no one really wants to just hand over cash. It feels impersonal and "not enough"... so people had to guess what to get her and it was a pain! One of the other bridesmaids bought her ROLLERBLADES! Ha.I wonder what she's going to get for her wedding?!?!

adgenya

I agree with PPs. Pass it along through word of mouth and at least register for a few items. Otherwise, you may end up with random gifts that you'll never use. DO NOT PUT IT IN YOUR INVITES. That definitely makes it look like you are expecting a gift.

loanbpham

I second Honeyfund.com. That's what we're doing since we already have all of the home furnishings that we need.I saw on the Today show once where a couple set up a website and paypal service to have people contribute to their student loans instead of getting gifts. You can also set it up for a down payment on a home as well. 

hmschults

oh no..I think this is really tacky. One of my best friends registered at honeymoon wishes and only had a few people donate money to her cause. My mother refused to get her anything at all because she thought it was so tacky. Don't ask for money..people don't want to pay your loans or buy your house...JMO

myoctwedding09

THANK YOU EVERYONE for wonderful advise!  My FI and I talked about it and all of you guys are right...it is kinda tacky and rude.  So, we decided to create a registry but pick stores that have good return policy...just in case.You guys really helped us to decide and not worry about this anymore.  EVERYONE rocks!