invitation wording help, please

cecinoakland

ok, so i thought i had the invitation wording down, but my mom is fighting me on it, so i ask you ladies for your thoughts.1. my mom and dad are no longer married but have the same last name2. my FI has a different last name than his parents (so do i include his last name or both our last names even though mine is redundant after my parents?)3. we want to include his parents on the invite, but my mom wants it to be clear that she and my dad have helped us pay...4. my dad is remarried but i don't really have a relationship with his wife and my mom doesnt think i should put her name on the invite5. our design is modern/ not terribly formal, and in my opinion it looks better with all words (even names) in lowercase, but my mom thinks that is "just not right"how do i word this thing?? (in writing this post, i am noticing how bossy my mom is being!)

theatrebelle07

1. I think if you put your parents' names on different lines it will signify that they are divorced. 2. I have often seen invitations that use only the bride's first and middle name (or just first) and the groom's full name, so I think it would be fine to do that. 3. Listing his parent's on the invite (following his name) doesn't signify that they paid - unless you put both sets at the top, so you could say: ....John Smith son of Bill and Jane XXXX....4. You don't have to put your step-mother's name on the invite if there is not really a relationship there.Hope this helps!

littleseamonkey

I just put our names and then "together with their parents" so that it's understood that ALL of us are hosting. We did this to simplify because FI's family was the same scenario--parents divorced, mom still has last name, dad is remarried but not much relationship with stepmom. But, often parents want their actual names on there because its the traditional way to do it, and (dare I say it?) they want credit for raising you and for hosting. I  don't think that not capitalizing the names is a problem if that is the style/look you're going for, but, remember to choose your battles. If its going to cause an issue, this isnt like a guest list or ceremony problem--might be worth it to capitalize the names, IMO.

sm23

You said your parents helped pay. Did his parents help pay too? And you are covering the rest? In most situations like this, for the sake of simplicity I recommend doing "Together with their families/parents, cecinoakland and her FI invite you to the celebration of their marriage..."If parents are insisting on actual names appearing, and only yours helped pay, you could do something like this:Mr. cecinoakland's dadandMrs. cecinoakland's mominvite you to the marriage celebration of their daughtercecinoakland (no last name)tocecinoakland's FI with last nameson of FI's parents namesAs far as the lower case goes - it's a style/tradition thing. A lot of the more informal invitations today do that and I think it's fine. I would do it for more formal/traditional weddings.

adgenya

"together with their parents" is my best friend

anglyn

Mr. Dad Bridesname and Ms. Mom Bridesnamerequest the pleasure of your company as their daughter Bride BridesnamewedsGroom GroomsnameSon of Mr and Mrs. Dad and Mom Different Name on Saturday September twentieth two thousand eight at six in the evening at Place AddressReception to follow

anglyn

I know your parents are paying but thats a lot of restrictions. I think if you cave on the wording, she should cave on the lowercase.