RSVP mini freak-out...

jennbuen16

So we paid off the venue - yea! We confirmed for 100 exact. Now, 9 days out...my guest list has lowered to 93 confirmed, with 2 possible add ons... ???? So we have 7 or 5 open slots for people. I feel so bad for my parents who will not be getting their money back for those who have decided they cannot make it (despite sending back an RSVP accepting) or the losers who "don't know if they can make it anymore". How can you not know?? It's in 9 days! UG! This is by far - the worst part of planning. Thanks for listening.   =(

anglyn

I had that happen too. I just invited people I hadn't invited before.

jennbuen16

I have people I could invite who would love to come. The bad part is that my wedding is on a Friday @ 6pm and it is in Gilroy. People would have to leave work early to be there on time and then deal with the awful traffic on 101 southbound. So asking people at this late date, such a pain and many wouldn't be able to swing it with work.  Grrrrr!

hmschults

Ohh no! that sucks I am sorry...so far I have FI's mom saying "just put them down for a yes, not sure if they can make it though." REALLY..yeah sure mom and dad please plunk down $500 dollars because FMIL doens't think its that big of a deal to get exact numbers..grrrr I feel your pain

**Mutley**

Yes, ug!  RSVPs suck monkey balls.  I am very much over people who have not responded.  Yes, I understand that it is 4 weeks away.  Yes, I understand that it is out of town (and oh, so very far from So Cal.)  What I do NOT understand is that you received a STD 4 months ago and you have no clue about your plans.  If you cannot come, then just say that instead of hemming and hawing around the point.    What takes the cake though is my cousin.  Her daughter is getting married THIS weekend.  You would think that she of all people would understand the need for a correct head count.  I left a voicemail and emailed her saying that I know she is really busy but we need to have our count in to the caterer.      Her response: "I am not sure yet.  I am sorry to put this on you, but I have to wait a few weeks from now to figure things out.  I hope you understand." No, I do NOT understand.  In fact, I am having a hard time coming up with how to reply.  I doubt that the response "well, I am sorry that your daughter is a spoiled little brat who overextended your family for her wedding.  However since I need to get our guest count to the caterer, I need to know who out of the 8 people invited from your family is coming."Sorry for the threadjack.  Apparently, I really needed to get that out. 

jackelbride

Jenn - I actually went to Angela's wedding last summer due to drop outs! I was there with a few other knotties and it was so fun!Basically if you have open spots you can have people email you for them... and viola! Instant party with grateful guests. LOL.

cromero49

I just mailed out my first batch of invites so I get to look forward to this now! Mutley - I cannot believe that person would show so little understanding especially after dealing with a wedding!  I would just say since you haven't heard a firm answer then you are assuming they will not be there.  Your wedding does not revolve around her schedule so if she can't confirm then you'll just have to confirm for her with a no!

sm23

Yeah, you can always do a knottie table  ;)I feel your pain though. I'm not at that point yet where we need to let the venue know how many people are coming for sure. But still... 92 people invited, less than 30 RSVP's received so far, and my RSVP date is Monday?! What is the matter with people? I already told my mom and FI's mom that they will be getting a list on Tuesday morning of people who haven't responded and I need their help calling (and scolding) people who haven't RSVP'ed.

loanbpham

Oh....that does suck. That is something I fear and will really get stressed over. What I don't understand is that some people don't know if they'll make it? What's up with that? How do you not know when you've received ample notification?

**Mutley**

Yes, people suck.  I can understand a couple of our guests not knowing.  My uncle doesn't know yet, but my aunt is due in early November.  I can understand being unsure because he has no control over that situation.  Or FI's friend who lives in London and is trying his best to come. The rest of them can just not come for all I care at this point.  I suspect that several of MY family members are 'unsure' because it isn't in Southern California.  I did not grow up here and my mom moved to MARYLAND over 30 years ago.  So we chose to have our wedding near the majority of our guests and in the place where WE will be starting our lives together.  You got 5 months notice on the time and place.  Get over it and stop being selfish for one freaking weekend.  Or just don't come.   (It is not helping that I am going to have to see the offenders this weekend at my cousin's wedding, which ironically most of them are against but attending because it is in So Cal.)