October 2012 Weddings

FI/Groomsmen Vent

So our wedding party was originally 3 bridesmaids on my side and 1 groomsman on his side.  He finally made up with his best friend so now he's up to two on his side which I'm happy about because I knew he would regret not having him there.  Then he was talking to one of his old high school friends who was trying to talk FI into making him another groomsman, which I find a bit ridiculous but fine they've been friends forever so ok fine.  But then this friend was trying to talk FI into adding this other high school friend of theirs as a groomsman.  Now FI and this other guy did used to be very close but all FI does is complain what a flake this other guy is.  And the few times this other friend has come to visit he's expected us to pay for absolutely everything from dining out to groceries and all his beer which I found utterly dissrespectful to us, we have bills and a mortgage to pay, he lives at home! He's invited to the wedding but that is it!  And then this friend on the phone tells FI he should invite this other high school friend to the wedding which FI is now considering.  This other friend FI has said that they're not even friends they just hung out together back then because they had common friends. And previously before this conversation, FI specifically said he had no interest in inviting this last person, WTF!!  Soooooooooooooooooo annoyed!
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Re: FI/Groomsmen Vent

  • I would be pretty annoyed too.  Have you sat down and talked to him seriously about it?  I think there are some people who want to invite everyone they used to be friends with and sometimes we (yes I'm one of them) need a little reality check.
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  • FI was like that to begin with...he wanted to invite all the guys from the football and baseball teams that he graduated with because they played all 4 years together. I was like babe...when is the last time you've spoken with them. I've never even MET them...so I got him to take it down a notch and he's only invitong 5 or 6 people I don't know and none of them are from high school. They're people he sees regularly when I'm usually at work.
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  • He got home early from work last night so i was able to discuss this with him before I had nightsmares about it for another night and thankfully he has gotten past being talked into these things by that friend of his and we are back on the same page.. phew I feel so much better!
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