Thank you Question!

KittennDave

So I have a question here, recently finished my shower thank yous (except one, which is an overseas and I need to get her address) and mailed them (YAY!).  We also keep getting gifts in the mail (they're going to my parents since I don't trust our apartment complex), do we open the gifts before the wedding and send thank you notes?  Or after and send thank you notes?  I don't know which is expected/better and I feel so weird opening them before >_<  I also have some checks from the shower that I almost hate to cash before the wedding, but I know how annoyed I get if someone takes forever to cash one of my checks! Lol

islandmonkey8

I'd cash the checks and open the gifts to get thank you's out right away. I think if you recieve a gift before the wedding you're "supposed" to send a thank you within two weeks.

brainybrunette

Yes, open the gifts and send thank yous ASAP.  People will want to know that their gift has arrived safely. Unless someone has explicitly told you to wait until the wedding to open their gift, you should open and thank.   Also, go ahead and cash the checks because people need to balance their checkbooks.

achiduck

I would definitely open the gifts now, you want to make sure they're not broken and sending a TY note now lets the sender know it was received ok.

Cheques should be cashed and the funds set aside until after the wedding. There is nothig more annoying than having a cheque haning out there for weeks and weeks.

KittennDave

Yes, excellent! Just what I was thinking...but it's always so nice to confirm, since I'm not the greatest with etiquette!

amyelise25

I think there is a rule about not using the gift until after the wedding and putting the money aside as well.  This is all in the unlikely even that you don't go through with the nuptuals and so you can quickly/easily return all the gifts/cash.

KittennDave

Yep, I had planned on adding the money to our account for the down payment on a house some day, which wouldn't be touched until after the wedding anyway.  As for the gifts, they're being stored in one of our closets until after the wedding, no worry about using money or gifts :-) Just wanted to make sure thank yous were handled accordingly