omg, can't believe this is happening. HELP!

valerahd

We have been planning a September 2013 wedding and just had to change our date to October 2012.  I just went from 437 days to 94 days to go... OMG! (and no, I am not pregnant.. we keep getting that question)

So far we have the venue, photographer, dj, and wedding party selected.  HELP - what do I do next?!  I am thinking the next time critical things are invitations and wedding dress.  We won't have time to do save the dates so I guess we need to get our invites out there pronto.

Any ideas on how to get everything accomplished??  Thank you!!

LDubHawksFan

Why did you have to move up the wedding by a year?!  Yikes!
Yes, invites should be asap because you are going to want to send them out in the next month or so.  Wedding dress you will probably have to go with a DB or a sample off the rack because a lot of dresses take several months to custom order.  Mine will be 6 months if it comes when expected in Sept.  Also, take your girls dress shopping.  You may be best to find dresses not at bridal shops, but ours came in a matter of a month from DB.  Also start to think about floral/decor.  I'm doing my own centerpieces so I'm doing them slowly, but if you just pay for floral centerpieces from the same place where you will get your bouquet, etc, that will save tons of time!  Also, we just started looking at tuxes & wedding rings.  Also, you didn't indicate whether the venue has food, so if you need an outside caterer, do that asap too.  Unless you do a buffet, you will want to know your dinner selections to put on your rsvps. Good luck!

aro1589

deep breath - you can do this!!



by venue do you mean for ceremony an reception?  or are they at the same place? do you have bridesmaids dresses picked out?  sometimes they can take up to 12 weeks to come in so you need to start thinking about that.

yes, you need a dress and invitations pronto - also don't forget about shoes and veil.   you need to start thinking about centerpieces too.  and cake. 

honestly, you are in great shape!  having a photographer and dj is big!  don't be afraid to ask for help from you mom and wedding party. 

valerahd

We just found out that my mom has a medical condition which causes the future to be uncertain.  It is extremely important that she be involved in our special day so we moved it up a year just to be safe. 

Our venue is for the ceremony and reception and they will be catering.  It is a lakefront hotel so we'll have the ceremony by the water and the reception in the ballroom.  I am so scattered at this point that I forgot we also have our wedding bands and our baker.

Maybe this won't be so bad afterall?  I will just keep telling myself that!

LDubHawksFan

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[QUOTE]We just found out that my mom has a medical condition which causes the future to be uncertain.  It is extremely important that she be involved in our special day so we moved it up a year just to be safe.  Our venue is for the ceremony and reception and they will be catering.  It is a lakefront hotel so we'll have the ceremony by the water and the reception in the ballroom.  I am so scattered at this point that I forgot we also have our wedding bands and our baker. Maybe this won't be so bad afterall?  I will just keep telling myself that!
Posted by valerahd[/QUOTE]

I'm so sorry to hear about your mother.  I hope things go well for your family and your day goes off without a hitch!  I think you are really doing pretty good for only having 3 months now!  What is your new date?  I would recommend you make a list, start off of what PP have listed and the Knot's list, and try to take one thing at a time.  Really you don't have that much.  All of the details can just make for more stress, so as long as you have a place, someone to marry you, bands to slip on each other's fingers, & food drinks for guests (who get invited of course), you can get married tomorrow!  :)  Good luck and don't be afraid of posting on here often.  It's a good group that supports each other and will keep each other on track!

achiduck

Do you have a florist yet? A dress? Have you selected BM dresses?

Attires is something you need to take care of now. Be aware that you will need to buy off the rack or pay a rush fee to have the dress ready in time and some designers will not be available to you due to the short time frame.

You'll need to get your invites done and in the mail before too long (usually 6-8 weeks but a lot of girls are sending arount the 10 week mark).

In general, I'd take a look at TK's checklist and make sure you've done/get working on anything that is supposed to be done by the 3 month mark.

Good luck!

julie279

I'm so sorry about your mom!

I agree with the other people who have said about looking at checklists of things that need done.  Besides the one on the knot, some bridal magazines that I bought had some good ones.  I like the magazine "Brides" a lot.  I also bought The Knot Pennsylvania / Delaware.  I would assume they have them for your location too.  I actually found that more helpful for the general info that was in there, rather than the local stuff. 

xxjen015

So sorry about your mom, but I'm glad you have the time and ability to move up the wedding so that she can be involved in your wedding! Like PP's have said, post as much as you need, there are a lot of great girls with great advice on this board! I haven't been here long but I'm addicted!

You are correct, dress and invitations are probably two of the most important things to find right now! Call around some bridal shops to see if they have any off the rack dresses in approximately your size, or if there are designers that can have the dresses made with a rush order by the date you need. Same goes for the BM dresses. If you don't want to do the boutique shops, David's Bridal and Alfred Angelo I believe work the same way and they're a lot faster.

For inviations, I highly recommend Zazzle. They're quick and cheap and great quality. We're thrilled with ours. Don't worry about not sending a save the date, we've known our date for months and just managed not to send them. If you have any guests that will need to make travel arrangements, you may want to send them either a quick email (if you know them well enough that the informality is okay) or maybe one of the electronic save the dates from TK so that they can make travel arrangements sooner.

Other things to consider are rental items. It sounds like your venue will probably already have tables, chairs, linens, etc., but if not, a rental company should also be a priority to make sure you have enough items reserved for the number of guests. Centerpieces would be up there so you can determine if you need flowers for them and if so, what kind, how many, etc. but your florist will be very helpful there when you find one.

Take a deep breath!! You'll make it just fine. We're here if you need it!

lv2011

So sorry about your mom.

It sounds like you have a lot of the major things taken care of, just without the details. Those will come. Breathe.
 
I highly recommend posting lots of pictures, especially if you're not the visionary/ detailed type. There are a lot of great diyer's here that are a fantastic sounding board for putting ideas together for a cohesive look. Don't worry! We'll help in any way we can

lehc723

I'm so sorry about your mom, but you do sound like you should be okay. Best of luck with moving things up!

fishinflagrl

I am sooo sorry to hear about your mom.

I would check out TK's checklist, it is very helpful. The girls above also mentioned some really great "checks" to accomplish as well. Definitely a dress, your BP attire, jewelry, accessories, flowers, centerpieces, cake topper, BP gifts, favors, registry....just things I just thought of quickly. You can definitely do this...you seem to have the major things already. Keep us updated on your checks!! Good luck!!

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I did almost all of our planning in 3 months.  You can do it!!!  Prayers coming your way for your mother.