Not sure if I should be annoyed. Lol

Creyo

Im not actually mad or annoyed, but I'm just curious as to if others would be. Fi is a teacher and origionally said he could take time for a small honeymoon after the wedding no problem so we didn't have to wait to have the wedding until his next break. Then after I booked the church reception I asked him where he wanted to go for our honeymoon and he said he didn't feel like he should take off to go on a honeymoon. I said okay, we can go next summer. Yesterday he told me he was going to take the week before the wedding off bc his family was going to come sooner a few states away.. I'm all about him seeing his family, he doesn't get to often. Would you be upset that he didnt want to ask for time off for a honeymoon, but then decides a few months later to takes the week off before? again, I'm not upset. It just made me go "hmm" and thought I'd ask you guys what you thought. :

TheSlowskys

yep, I'd be pretty mad. Why would he rather spend time with his family before the wedding than with his wife after?  My fiance is in education as well so I know how tough it can be to get time off... but this seems like a mix up in priorities.

lehc723

I agree. I'd talk to him. I'd definitely be mad!

ccarrion77

I'm be pretty upset, you're about to be his family too and that should be celebrated. Just my view point.

AG2AF=2012

I'm a teacher as well, so I feel your pain.  FL and I are taking our honeymoon over Christmas.

I'm going to approach this from another side.  Yes I can see why you are mad but it's his family who he might see once or twice as year (I'm assuming because I have family like that).  He gets to spend the rest of his life with you.  I'd cut him a little break!  Plus after the wedding, they will probably leave which wouldn't have given him much time to spend with them.

Creyo

I'm def not mad, especially bc he doesn't get to see his family often. I guess I'm just a bit hurt that a few months ago he didnt want to ask for time off after the wedding for me but will now for this circumstance

hllokttygirl

I would not be mad since he doesn't see his family often. It gives you something to look forward to. We aren't doing ours for for another 5 years...now that's a long wait

aimee58

I'd be upset at first, but it is his family and he doesn't get to see them often so I wouldn't hold anger for too long.

achiduck

I'd be pretty ticked. I can understand a few days for the family but not an entire week.

violakat03

^ What the PP said. A few days, sure, but not an entire week when he won't take any time at all off for the two of you to celebrate your new marriage. Why not see if he'll split the time - take a few days off before for them, and a few days off after for a short honeymoon after.

My FI is a teacher too and he's decided he's going to "splurge" and use most of his vacation time for our honeymoon.

fishinflagrl

I would be pretty hurt as well. I think maybe a day or two to see his family...but have some time for you and your honeymoon. Its your big day and then your week of spending time with each other as husband and wife. I would be hurt for sure. I would talk to him and see if he could only visit for a day or two.