Dollar Dance ??

ktelizabeth86

FI and I are not planning on doing a dollar dance. They are very common in our area, but we just didn't think we would have one. Over the weekend we had a cookout with my family, his family and my uncle (who is also our officiant). Somehow the dollar dance came up, and when we told them we weren't having one they were all shocked. In fact, they seemed disappointed.

So my question is:

achiduck

Dollar dances are so uncommon in my area that I've been to 15 weddings and have never seen one. I had to join TK to hear about them actually. I think if we tried to do that people would look at us like we had 3 heads.

LDubHawksFan

They are really common in the Midwest where I'm from, but not where FI's family is from so I doubt we will have one.

ktelizabeth86

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[QUOTE]Dollar dances are so uncommon in my area that I've been to 15 weddings and have never seen one. I had to join TK to hear about them actually. I think if we tried to do that people would look at us like we had 3 heads.
Posted by achiduck[/QUOTE]


Lol. That's how our families looked at us when we said we weren't having one. Funny how things are so different in different areas.

AEPerpete

There is no such thing as dollar dances where I am from.
There are Stage and Does however, which are really common (party for the couple, drinks, prizes etc. proceeds go toward wedding or honeymoon.) So I guess that would be the closest thing around here to what you are talking about.

ericaandtom2012

Not common in my area at all.  Even if they were, I doubt I would be doing one.  I don't like the idea of having guests pony up money to spend some time with the bride or the groom.

minionlover

We are not having a dollar dance.  In our area I would say that some people have them and some don't. I have been to weddings that had them and some that didn't.

mlperkins12

They are not common in CT where I am from.  We are not having one, but I do know that my parents had one many years ago in the same area so the tradition must have shifted.

jessiflower

We are not having one...and turns out my family thinks its tacky anyway...but then again, they thought registering for our honeymoon was tacky and we are doing it anyway  
Do what YOU and your FI want...your the only ones that really have the right to make the decision!!!!  Good Luck!

tamrahelmer

They are very common in my area, or at least all of the weddings I have been at. I have never been to a wedding that didn't have a dollar dance. I voted we are having one.  I didn't really think about it and then a few people told me how excited they were to dance with me at the wedding for the dollar dance, including my master of ceremonies. Just seeing how excited they were about it left no question in my head that we had to have one. It's not really foer the money, but more for the time you get to spend with the guests who want to dance with you I think.

tracey525

We're not doing one. I don't think anyone does them here in Chicago (with the exception of some hispanic weddings - I think it might be more common?)... Only been to one wedding, in western PA, where they did it, and to be honest, I thought it was kind of weird and a little tacky. Sorry if that offends anyone... just my opinion.

NRod70

They used to be common in my area years ago...and I mean years (I'm 40) lol.  No one does it around here anymore.

We're not doing one.  I'm gald to see eveyone that has responded wasn't mean with their answers...I've seen poor girls get torn to shreds over there on the ettiquette board for asking the same question!

xxjen015

I've never heard of it! What is it? Obviously not a big thing around here, lol

ktelizabeth86

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[QUOTE]They used to be common in my area years ago...and I mean years (I'm 40) lol.  No one does it around here anymore. We're not doing one.  I'm gald to see eveyone that has responded wasn't mean with their answers...I've seen poor girls get torn to shreds over there on the ettiquette board for asking the same question!
Posted by NRod70[/QUOTE]

Unfortunately, what some of the girls on the etiquette board fail to realize is that etiquette is not universal. There is different etiquette for different cultures, countries, areas, etc. Like I said, my family was almost offended that we weren't having one, because here it is common, accepted and expected. Lol.

ktelizabeth86

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[QUOTE]I've never heard of it! What is it? Obviously not a big thing around here, lol
Posted by xxjen015[/QUOTE]

The DJ announces the dollar dance and plays a slow song. People line up to dance with the bride or the groom. They place a dollar (usually in a designated bag) for each time they dance with the bride or the groom. The money is supposed to be used for your new life together or for your honeymoon.

All of the weddings that I've been to around here that have had them, people really enjoy it and participate.

In other areas it is seen as tacky.

FI and I don't really want one, but I'm also not offended by them (since I'm used to them I guess).

NRod70

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dollar Dance ?? : Unfortunately, what some of the girls on the etiquette board fail to realize is that etiquette is not universal. There is different etiquette for different cultures, countries, areas, etc. Like I said, my family was almost offended that we weren't having one, because here it is common, accepted and expected. Lol.
Posted by ktelizabeth86[/QUOTE]

Exactly!!  Wise girl, you are!!
A while ago a bride had a posed a similar question but I don't believe it was a dollar dance.  Well, needless to say, they tore her up over on that board.  It turned out that the girl was Asian and it was something that was a tradition.   I got a good laugh out of that one!

fjw2012

We haven't decided yet. Dollar dances are very common where I'm from, I've actually never been to a wedding without one. FI Dad would really like us to have one, and FI is indifferent. However, I feel really uncomfortable with it for several reasons. First of all, I'm not the greatest dancer and I am terrified I am going to step on someones foot. Second of all, what the heck do you say while you are slow dancing with FI great uncle whom you've just met? Lastly, I feel bad asking people do pay money to dance with FI and I. 

lv2011

They're very common here, but we're not doing it. Neither of us likes the idea of the dance. As my FI said, "the only time anyone should pay money to dance with someone is at a stripclub...and you're no stripper." No offense to anyone that is doing one, though

NRod70

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[QUOTE]They're very common here, but we're not doing it. Neither of us likes the idea of the dance. As my FI said, "<strong>the only time anyone should pay money to dance with someone is at a stripclub...and you're no stripper."</strong> No offense to anyone that is doing one, though :)
Posted by lv2011[/QUOTE]

That's funny!

Heath66

I am having one. Though I really don't want to. My family is obsessed with me having one and won't give in. The only reason why I caved in and decided to do it was because my 87 year old grandmother said that she really wants to dance with me during the bridal dance. 

The bridal dance is very common in my area and in my family. I don't think I have been to a wedding where they didn't have one. They play traditional polka, people come to the dance floor with bells or with their napkins twirling them in the air. At the end of the dance the Mother of the Bride takes the bride away front he groom and the family members form a wall around them. The groom then has to break in and get his bride. It's really cute. 

BrittneyRN

None of the answers really fit me- It IS common in my area but we are NOT having one.

I really don't want to spend part of my recepton dancing with some people I may not know.

I also just really don't like them.

music11

I have never seen this before, and we have no plans to do one.

CFM102012

They're somewhat common in my area but I'm not having one.