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Familys opinion

OlichkaaOlichkaa member
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My aunts and mom are soo opinionated, its SOOO annoying i told my mom before we started to plan THIS IS MY WEDDING. ill take advise but dont force things. and she agreed, but once the wedding planning begun, OH NO different story. Im doing everything wrong and it should be her way. What do i do? How do i tell everyone nicely to calm the flip down. cause its killing me, my finace says just tell them to shut the heck up. but they dont get what that means..
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  • achiduckachiduck member
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    Families are so annoying. My father gave us some money for the wedding with "absolutely no strings attached." So far no strings but an aweful lot of F-ing opinions.

    He had complained that I handn't seen me in my wedding dress yet - no one has. I went shopping by myself. So to get him to back the F off I asked him to come to a seamstress that I'm thinking about using to get a quote so he can see me in it. Well my SM pipes up and says it's not traditional for the FOB to see the bride in the dress before the wedding and that he just wanted to see the dress out of the bag. Um, seriously? FFS, the dress looks like crap on the hanger and amazing on me. Why would anyone want to just see it on the hanger.
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  • CFM102012CFM102012 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_familys-opinion?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:251e4e5b-ce4e-4f32-8248-01c359ceed74Post:c32761d8-688a-41e0-9e82-db158293c480">Re: Familys opinion</a>:
    [QUOTE]Families are so annoying. My father gave us some money for the wedding with "absolutely no strings attached." So far no strings but an aweful lot of F-ing opinions. He had complained that I handn't seen me in my wedding dress yet - no one has. I went shopping by myself. So to get him to back the F off I asked him to come to a seamstress that I'm thinking about using to get a quote so he can see me in it. <strong>Well my SM pipes up and says it's not traditional for the FOB to see the bride in the dress before the wedding and that he just wanted to see the dress out of the bag.</strong> Um, seriously? FFS, the dress looks like crap on the hanger and amazing on me. Why would anyone want to just see it on the hanger.
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    </div><div>I know of a few SYTD episodes that prove this isn't true.  My mom was with me when we found my dress.  I refused to order it until Dad was there to see it.

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  • lenergyrlahlenergyrlah member
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    If you stop telling them about your wedding they won't be able to tell you they don't like your ideas.  That's what I've done with my mom to prevent her from planning my wedding for me.  Of course if you're accepting their money then you have to do things their way :(
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  • cokie216cokie216
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    My mom is like this as well to the point where she was practically insisting that I had the wedding in September when the month of October was the only thing I knew I wanted for sure.  My advice is to pretty much just bear with their opinions and pushiness but make the decision on your own and with your fiance.  Don't take them with you to talk with vendors etc.  When we were choosing our venue I told my mom, politely, that Patrick and I woud like to go on own own to really pick what we liked and were comfortable with.  Of course if your family is paying for the wedding it makes things more complicated.  Is this the case for you?
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  • PattySmith101PattySmith101 member
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    see i know this is gonna sound crazy but i am very jealous of you guys ! i would love it if my dad wanted to be involved in planning ! my mom passed away when i was 17 and whenever i ask my dad to do anything wedding related he says to me " why would i wanna do that? do you need more $ ?" ( he gave us 1/3 of our budget) no dad i just want to spend time with you and its already hard enough having to do all the things i would do with my mom w./o her! thankfully my sister wants to be there!

    the people offering you opinions care about you and just want to be there for you.... dont be so hard on them!
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  • OlichkaaOlichkaa member
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    ya exactly, but the thing is no one is pitching into the wedding only me and my fiance are paying for the WHOLE wedding so far. my mom helped with a littlie like 20 dollars soo far
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  • OlichkaaOlichkaa member
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    no, my family havent helped my mom helped with a couple decorations but other than that nothing.. i have been paying so far. and my fiance is helping.
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  • OlichkaaOlichkaa member
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    Ya i know im lucky that i have my mom. but its hard when she wants it her way and i cant do anything the way i want it. she not even helping me but making me dread planning this wedding. but im sorry for your loss
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