For anyone doing ceremony programs....

spmonk45

Is there any specific etiquette for the "rememberance section" where you put names of those who have passed?  Both of my grandfathers have passed away so I was going to put their names down, but my FI gave me 8 people to put, all of which are grandparents, and great grandparents!! As of now, half the back of the program is full of names!  This is not a problem and I want to do the right thing.. but just wondering if there is a rule of thumb for this?  Should I be adding my great grandparents now..how far back do you go??! THX!

achiduck

Unless he was really close to his great grandparents I would stop at grandparents.

MichKev2012

Are their names being mentioned during the ceremony?  If so I don't know if you need to put them on the program too.  You can just indicate where in the ceremony they will be mentioned.  If you would like them there I think you should put everyone you, your FI, your parents, and your FILs want on there. I don't think there is a rule for this one.

mlperkins12

Both my grandparent and FI's grandparents are deceased.  His father is also deceased.  Since his father has also passed away, we decided just to honor his father in the memorial section and omitted grandparents completely.  FI's uncle died rather unexpectedly this year, we both agreed if we added grandparents we would also need to add the Uncle as well as his father and it was beginning to feel a bit too dark for us on that day.

ericaandtom2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_for-anyone-doing-ceremony-programs?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:2a940d8d-8476-4052-a996-d248040d73acPost:e90c0c65-db6a-40fd-a57b-f35d16a9af57">Re: For anyone doing ceremony programs....</a>:
[QUOTE]Unless he was really close to his great grandparents I would stop at grandparents.
Posted by achiduck[/QUOTE]

<div>Pretend I said this too. </div>

RockstarWifey0912

We had a ton of names as well. I ended up putting a little paragraph of remembrance.

julie279

We are not putting great grandparents. 

We will be listing 10 names (my grandmother, both of my grandfathers, my aunt, my uncle, all of my fiance's grandparents, and his brother).

amyelise25

We are putting white roses on the alter and a note in the program explaining what the roses symbolize (one for each of the people in the rememberance section).  I didn't want anything said about them during the ceremony at all. 

I think it's a very personal matter for who you want included in that section.  I don't think there has to be a rule or a limit.  FI has two people and I have four.  These are just people that have passed that we wish were there to share the day with us.  We both have had other deaths, but we felt that these were the most significant to us.  That was our "philosophy".  You can pick your own.

annanoel21

We are putting my grand parents, aunt and cousin, and his grand parents. Then we are doing a balloon release at the end to honor them.

LoriMc12

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[QUOTE]Both my grandparent and FI's grandparents are deceased.  His father is also deceased.  Since his father has also passed away, we decided just to honor his father in the memorial section and omitted grandparents completely.  FI's uncle died rather unexpectedly this year, we both agreed if we added grandparents we would also need to add the Uncle as well as his father and it was beginning to feel a bit too dark for us on that day.
Posted by mlperkins12[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I am glad to see your response.  I was feeling guilty because we only plan on doing a memorial candle/flower arrangement/note in the program for my mom.  All 8 of FI and my grandparents are deceased so I feel like that would be a bit much to put all of those names on the program.  And I hope this doesn't sound disrespectful to my grandparents but my mom is the only person I am going to sorely miss on my wedding day.</div>