Missing My Mom on My Wedding Day

Rhea0106

Hey Ladies,  
    My mom will have passed 3 years on June 1st of this year. The florist is making a memorial flower arrangement to have at the church in honor of my mom. I was thinking of playing a song at the reception in honor of her. I know on the day of the wedding I am going to be a mess since she won't be there. I have asked my aunt to step in to kind of be there to help in anyway. Is there any other way I could honor my mom at the reception or do you think I have all my bases covered? Would I be over doing it if I played the song and then did something else too? Anyone else going through this? Thanks in advance ladies.

kml21636

Do what makes you happy. Do you have a small item of clothing like a piece of lace or bandana that you can wear under your dress or a charm in your bouquet? I am missing my dad on my wedding day and I too am trying to incorporate everything with out making it into a funeral. I will also be putting my bouquet and centerpiece flowers at his grave afterwards so I can still share the memory with him. Prayers to you and I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom. Wedding planning is definitely a lot harder when you are dealing with the loss of a loved one.

Rhea0106

I am sorry for the loss of your father. It really is hard esp on our wedding day. It really is. I was thinking of making a memorial and putting up pictures of her but again, like you said, I don't want to make it seem funeral like. That is a good idea to have a piece of her, maybe like ear rings or maybe a necklace of hers to wear. Thank you for that idea. I was thinking of playing a song that she liked and resquesting that people dance to that song. I think that would be really nice, ya know?

achiduck

My mom passed away almost 14 years ago and I'm creating a memorial section in the program as well as wrapping her veil around my bouquet. 

kml21636

Like I said, do what makes you happy. Weddings aren't always as joyous as they seem. I've only attended one since losing him and I couldn't do it. I had to slip out of the ceremony because it's too much. I have a necklace that was his that I'm going to put on an anklet chain and wear too. No one will see it, but I know it will comfort me. I am also going to have my mom walk me down the aisle, or one of my uncles. Either way, we will find what makes us happy and at ease on our big days. Much love, 3 your family and guests will understand and be with you 100.

emidle2008

I lost my step-dad, and main male role model, almost 13 years ago. When I was a little girl, I dreamed of him and my biological father walking me down the isle. I know I will miss him like crazy on the big day. So we are doing a memory table, with flowers and nice, framed pictures of our lost loved ones. We are also including a "Note from Couple" in our program to thank our family and friends and will probably include something in there. I will also be carrying one of his handkerchiefs in my dress pocket.

fishinflagrl

I think playing a song in her honor will be touching, not only to you but to others. I think everyone should get up and dance and celebrate her life. This thread has given me some good ideas about what to do for my FI. His mom passed this past November, and dad is in a nursing home and I know it will be very hard on him. I wonder if I could make a pin for him of his mom and dads things to wear.
I dont think waht you are doing is a funeral...its your MOM. I couldnt imagine losing mine, esp not being there on my big day...so make sure she is there with whatever you want to do.