Stressed to the max

RockyNFrankie

Ok yesterday I posted asking how everyone manages their stress. The reason I asked was because I am stressed beyond belief! I am hoping that writing all this out will help me lower my level of stress. Let me begin by saying it is not all due to wedding thing. I never thought I would get this stressed, but I am at my breaking point. I feel like I could legit fall apart at any moment!

In June I finalized the big decision to go back to school to get my masters. I thought I would start small and only take one class. Thank god I didn’t take 2! Well now I am wondering why it never occurred to me or anyone else who knew I was going to sign up for classes that right before the wedding was probably not the best time to start!

I am a pretty high strung person to begin with. I will admit “small” things will “stress” me out, like if I get up late and I think I am going to be late to work it stresses me out a bit, but I have never in my life felt like this before! My class is coming to an end and I have a final paper to write and I cannot concentrate for 5 minutes let alone enough time to write a single page never mine 10-20 pages! I see my grades slipping because I don’t have time or energy or patience to complete the work and that stresses me out even more!

For the wedding, I still have to finish my invitations which I had planned to send out last week and all the little things are killing me! Favors and shoes and programs and alterations and rehearsal dinner and what to wear to the shower and what the etiquette is for this and that and transportation and hair and make up and etc etc! This list never end.

Then my bridesmaid was planning on reusing a dress she had worn to another wedding. I was so excited cause she didn’t have to spend any money!  But she never thought to try it on. Well it doesn’t fit. So we went to davids bridal to get her a dress and the one she wanted could take up to 12 weeks. Clearly that isn’t going to work. So she had to order one that would come in on October 10^th. 9 days before the wedding. So hopefully it fits right!

It doesn’t help when people tell me just relax! Hello!!! Don’t you know me?! You know I can’t just relax. Relax has never been a strong suit of mine. I don’t know how to do that. So you telling me just relax just makes me want to hit you it doesn’t help anything!

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!! I just want it to be October 20^th!

LDubHawksFan

I'm sorry you are feeling so stressed.  I have a TON to still do before the wedding.  For the BM, I'm sure things will work out.  DB usually comes early.  Just take one thing at a time....

cokie216

Make a list and focus on one thing at a time! It will be okay.

mmmendi

How much can you relinquish and reassign?

If you plan - does it help? As in - I am ONLY going to work on my paper from 8-11 tonight, no wedding stuff. Then, Saturday, I will do XXX for the wedding from 3-4 and from 9-10 (or whatever). If that helps, then schedule! The down side, of course, is that if you then miss the schedule - i know first hand how it feels like you 'failed' that part. So, new word "re-calculating" (think old Tom'Toms...)

I think in the end, I'm willing to bet you make it all come together, because you will and that is just what you do. BUT - if you can force yourself to let go of something, or make something a 'this is not a priority. Not having a program won't kill us, or letting so and so do the program won't kill ME' then it may take a little pressure off.

Go write a paper already

thale0924

I agree with mmmendi.  I am also SUPER high strung...I even get stressed when I wake up late on my off days because I am missing out on my relax time! (I know that is contradictory but I can't wind down and I'm convinced FI is going to lock my in a room when I get like that)

I make CRAZY lists and plan things hour by hour as well.  It makes me feel under control and like I can get it all done.  Even my dog/relax time is planned out.  I am taking on a lot at work which makes me too exhausted to get real wedding stuff done.  In that aspect FI and my grandma have come to my rescue really helping me make decisions and taking on tasks that I can let go of.

I know you'll pull everything off!!  I hope your vent helped. Mine usually do!

ericaandtom2012

Take a deep breath, it will all be ok - you just need to have a plan of attack.  Make a list of what you need to do and prioritize them (has to be done today/this week, would like to have it done, and would be NBD if it didn't get done today/this week).  

Set a goal of 3 pages (or some amount of time) on your paper and once you reach the goal, give yourself a "reward" like 20 minutes to spend knotting or doing wedding things.  Make an outline of the major topics you want to cover in your paper first, and start on the ones that seem easy.  As you get going, it will hopefully get easier to continue. 

Good luck!

RockyNFrankie

Thanks ladies. Posting this and seeing your responses has made me feel a little bit better. I made a plan and prioritized things and finally asked for help! FFIL is going to help me with my paper and finishing the invitations!  And FI is just being really supportive, even though he will never understand why/how I get so stressed. He is just the opposite and he never stresses about anything. He always says I stress enough for the both of us and hes probably right.