Disappointed in people

had26

Has anyone else been feeling disappointed by people during this process?  For instance, my bachelorette party is next weekend, Oct. 6th and there were going to be 7 of us going to NYC for the night.  Now three of the girls have bailed just in the last day or two.  Sigh.  Not only do I feel bad for my maids of honor who planned the whole weekend but am very disappointed for myself.  So much for thinking I had good friends!!

Poppy101212

I know what you mean about being dissapointed in people. I haven't had my bachlorette party yet, but with RSVPs I'm not sure how many times I have felt like crying. My own grandfater and uncle didn't even bother to reply. Another uncle very important to me, is out caribu hunting and hasn't bothered to reply. My best friend from high school who I wasn't sure about inviting, but since we have reconnected decided to give it a go, has decided that she has more important things to do.....

People just suck.

Ividian

I'm so sorry you guys are having these kinds of problems  Keep your heads up and remember that you'll be surrounded by friends and family who love you on your wedding day, and you get to go home with your husband afterwards regardless of who does or doesn't show up to celebrate with you.

mercurybebe

I'm sorry you are going through this too...I just posted a long reply in the BP problems thread.  I still can't believe my friend/BM is missing the joint B-Party and rehearsal which are on the same day to accomodate her 3hr drive.  I dont want to make her feel bad but my FI was so pissed she wanted to kick her out of the wedding!  Her son is our RB too.

And yeah...people who declined but couldn't be bothered to reply and when I finally inquire, they have something else...which to ME is pretty menial...to do instead.  But on the other hand I ruined the surprise of someone flying from CA to NY to surprise me by demanding an answer!  LOL  I am so touched she is coming, as well as other people like co-workers and people I dont know that well...but my ex-stepmother can't be bothered?  Because she has EMT recert that night?  I told you about the wedding in JANUARY!!  I am just so hurt...

Ali092011

I was disappointed to have who I considered a close friend decline to come to the wedding without warning or explanation. I had dinner with her a few weeks ago and she made it sound like she was coming, but then she sent her RSVP in "will not attend" with a generic "sorry to miss your special day" kind of message. I know it's not polite to list your reasons for not being able to attend, but as friends, I thought she might at least make up a good excuse. For all I know, she just doesn't like me anymore.

It's hard not to take these things personally, isn't it?

achiduck

Yup, I'm definitely disappointed we had so many declines. I expected about half the amount we got. I'm also really disappointed we had to chase so many of my family members (and most of the WP!!) to send their RSVPs. It wasn't just a matter of if they're attending or not but what they want to eat too.

had26

I have to say that I actually have been praying for more "nos" on the RSVP front!  I think we will be OK but still waiting for a number of people.  I hear what you all are saying though because a few of the declines were close friends. 
As much as we know we shouldn't be upset, it's just one day, blah blah blah.  It is one day but for us, it's the most important day of our lives at this point and to have our nearest and dearest celebrate with us is one of the most exciting parts.