The one that got away!

semay23

Ok ladies, I'd say the most of us have someone from our past that we just wished things could have worked out differently with. (Not saying we don't love our FIs!)

So spill. Who is the one person you still wonder what could have happened if things worked out a little differently? What happened? Was the timing not right? Was there a falling out?

My story: C and I had a fling in high school. (We went to different schools) We'd talk for hours on the phone, hang out, listen to Incubus, and stare at the stars. This carried on for 2 or 3 years. It never amounted to a "real" relationship, but we have still kept in touch all these years. He was a wild child, and I was the goody-goody valedictorian of my class. Took him years to get his act together, and by the time he did, I was 6 hours away. Now I'm engaged to the most wonderful man in the world, and wouldn't have it any other way. But I still wonder what might have happened had the timing been better.

Now YOU go!

schnugglebug

Grew up with R, we dated in grade 1 LOL, and were friends till we were 6 or 7 when his family moved away, met again when we were 13 and dated, then lost contact, met again at 15 and dated lol... then lost each other again till we were 18 and dated again lmao...
didn't work out... met my X husband got married had my son, etc, then we ended up getting divorced as we are so different... and at 28 R and I found each other again... and everyboyd said WELL you are meant to be together... and our families were practically planning our wedding...we dated for a 6-7months...had a pregnancy scare and he flipped out... like really flipped out, obviously not ready for children etc (and I had an 8 year old at the time) he didn't know what to do etc, would freeze up freak out... wasn't very affectionate etc... was just his quirky weird way.

we broke up again and 3 months later found out his current GF was pregnant, how's that for karma, they got married and I could not be happier for him, he is a great father, and I am very proud of how far he has come...

a year later I met FI, and wow I never knew a relashonship could be like this, so happy, so great, so good,  he is deineftly the one I had been waiting for ... my life shall never be the same

R and I still talk from time to time... reflecting on where life has brought us etc...

catwine

uggggh, this is awkward to think about!!

my family was really good friends with D's family while we all attended the same church.  D and I developed little crushes for each other, but nothing happened because we were kids.  We lost touch somewhere around middle school but ended up at the same high school.  I still had feelings for him and it was clear he liked me too.  we never dated or really pursued a relationship, but our feelings were obvious.  i liked him bu he liked my friend. when he liked me, i liked someone else....all very juvenille!  I was so sure D and I wree meant to be, but after spending 4 years of high school pining over him I finally gave up.  He used to act a certain, obnoxious way around classmates and friends that really annoyed me. 
Fast forward 4 years and he is married to a lovely girl...D has turned his life around and is actually quite pleasent.  I'm engaged to the most amazing person and I wouldn't have it any other way!!

lehc723

The guy I dated before FI was a really great guy, but we just kind of fell in to a more-serious relationship than he wanted to be in at the time (he was older than me but behind me in college because he got a late start, and had a lot of college-guy-party-time "oats" to sow, as it were). I don't think we would have worked romantically or as partners, but based on how quickly FI and I got together after I broke up with him, he stopped speaking to me and wouldn't be friends anymore, which was a disappointment. I still wish he and I could be friends. But he thought I was cheating on him with FI (I wasn't) and wanted no part of it.

CFM102012

I don't have one that got away, but FI is the one that almost got away.  We were dating for almost 4 1/2 years when his dad passed away. Between that and the fact that I dropped out of college, he broke things off.  I had realized I didn't want to be a teacher but the college didn't have anything else that appealed to me. I took the quarter off school and got into a different college close to home. I was determined to keep FI in my life. The fact that we have  a whole circle of friends made that easier.  We got back together a little over 3 months after he broke things off and we've been together ever since.  It was the hardest time in my life but I knew he was the one for me and I wasn't willing to just let him go.

mana8503

I don't really have a one that got away.  I guess hindsight shows me how bad all those relationships were, and how I clunged to how it could be.  When FI came along, how it could be was how it was. 

aimeek420

Mine isn't a past relationship, but a very good friend. A and I were good friends in HS, both played in the orchestra together, and he was often at my house spending time with my parents and other friends in our pool. I also dated A's best friend P in HS. 

In college, we were both part in some soap opera level drama--P broke up with me to date A's love interest, who soon after had a viral encephalitis attack and spent the better part of a year in a coma, then another two-three recovering the ability to walk/speak/feed/bathe/clothe herself. Needless to say, that whole mess brought us close together. A was in college in my hometown, 2 hours away from my college, and he then left and went to New England for his internships. We talked all the time and always discussed what it would be like if we were in the same place at the same time, and that we had feelings for each other. Things just never clicked. He started dating a girl from Toronto that his mom arranged for him (traditional Asian family) and I was still at school. He now lives in New Hampshire and enjoys his freedom from Tiger Mom and bachelor life, and obviously I'm engaged.

I think it's probably for the best that it didn't work out, as we are way to similar for our own goods and wouldn't probably killed each other in a relationship (we say this often). We are still very close and text/talk often, and see each other on holidays and make occasional visits out. A's the kind of friend you can pick up where you left off, even if it's been months since I've seen him; he's like a brother. He and FI are close too, despite a very protective, wary initial stance on A's part. A's playing the violin during our wedding ceremony, and we are so excited. He told me he wouldn't have it any other way.

DanaOcNy

I don't have a relationship that I wish had ended differently.  I spent a long time dating guys/losers wondering when my fairytale ending would happen and often referred to this quote to get me through some rough times.

"One day, you’ll meet someone who will make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else"


I think this quote pertains to each and every one of us :-)

ivedonethisb4

If I had to say someone got away it'd be a guy I dated as a senior and he was way too young for me..like 3 years! He was fun though..and made me laugh. When I turned 18 I ended it. I sometimes do wonder what would have been had things been different..he's in the army now and I still worry about him when I know he's overseas. I haven't spoken with him much since he got married though..couldn't tell you where he is now.

Ividian

I actually have two :P The first was a high school thing, and he's the first guy I feel like I fell in love with, but he didn't want to date, although he admitted he had strong feelings for me as well he said for several reasons he didn't think we should date. I didn't have any interest in anybody else for years while I was hoping he'd change his mind, and he never did and eventually I moved on, but still wonder sometimes although I think I was so young it would have been a miserable failure.

The second one was in college, I met M through his best friend, P, that I was dating in college. As soon as M and I met there was a connection. During the school year I didn't see him much but over the summer we saw each other quite a bit and M and I stayed in touch as friends all during P and I's relationship. P dumped me, M found out and called me immediately and was a great friend, would talk to me for hours on end and help me through some really bad stuff. He invited me to spend a week with him, and even asked P if it was 'ok' and P said to go ahead. That week was incredible, he made me feel very special and cared for and like I was the most important person in the world, but we lived 4ish hours away, so didn't make any plans to actually date. When P and I got back to school the next semester we got back together for a few months, and then he dumped me again at the end of the school year. When M found out he wanted to drive to my dorm to be with me, I told him not to. We spent about a month after that on the phone almost every day, exchanging emails, etc. Then he tells me he's going to be in my town for a week and he wants to  see me and we can talk about 'us stuff'. a month before he was supposed to come he told me he changed his mind and wasn't coming. Around the same time I met the first guy I was engaged to and we lost contact. After ex-FI dumped me we sort of got back in touch but not really. I haven't talked to him in 7 years or so, and while I can predict this one also wouldn't have had a happy ending I wonder.

insanityofamom

Just one? :P 

Let's see.... I met S at my first job. I was 17- he was 20/21. He had a young daughter and a crazy girlfriend. We had an amazing connection - I mean, the kind of person you have a ridiculous smile on your face talking about the menial life crap. We had amazing chemistry. When he quit the job due to a conflict, we kind-off stayed in touch off and on. I went to college for a year, and we tried a relationship just as things were crashing with his girlfriend - but things crashed too hard and we never really got a chance at a relationship. I met up with him a couple months back and I admit I wondered if he was  ever going to get his act together and how things would have been different if we had gotten a "real" chance. But even though we hadn't been in touch for over three years, it was like riding a bike - the connection/chemistry was still there - it was so unreal!