MOH Vent (kinda long-ish)

ninaelizabeth3

First, on a side note... I accidently clicked on the September 2012 board instead of ours, and it threw me off completely.. I was so confused for a minute.  *palm to face*

I don't know if anyone remembers me posting about my MOH issues previously (clicky) but I'm annoyed again.  First, not only did I have to pay for the prizes for my shower that SHE wanted to do games for, but now she's telling me she might not even be there.

She has a lot going on, I get that.  She is going back to school for her masters so she is taking a full load of courses, and she just started what seemed to be a great internship.  Come to find out that it's a lot more involved than they orignally led her to believe. 

I was worried before that she wouldn't come to the shower (I know she's not required to, but she's been my best friend since 2nd grade, and it would mean a lot to me).  I would understand if she was going to be away or something, but she was going to be in town, it's just her husband would be away at a family wedding.  He told her she couldn't go to my shower (wtf?).  So fast forward she says she's going to be there.  Now yesterday she texts me about something and I ask her how things are going.  She starts telling me about the issues at work and I feel for her, I really do.  It sounds like she's swamped.  Then she tells me she's worried about making it to my shower.  Why?  Because she usually hangs out with her H's friends, an hour away, on Saturday's, and does homework on Sunday's.  Really?,  Really?  You can't miss hanging out with his friends for one weekend?  He's not even going to be in the same state!  Why do you have to hang out with his friends?!

If you couldn't tell, I can't stand her husband.  He is a pushy, overbearing little squirel of a man.  And that is the understatment of the century.  The reasons I don't like him? I'll provide a few:  He told MOH that he thought it was a pain to hang out with our group of friends because he felt we were a little beneath him in relation to the type of degrees/careers we have.  I work for a Town, FI is a master-tech auto tech.  FI's best friend is also an auto tech at the same company, but has a degree in accounting.  Then at a bonfire we were discussing how a BM's friend is coming home soon.  When MOH and her H got home she said, "I wonder where she's coming home from?"  He told her jail.  WRONG - She's doing a semester abroad in Spain.  So now we're all morons and criminals.  He's just an ass.

mrshall1027

Oh wow.  He sounds like a major ass!  I'm sure he has some influence on why she is saying she can't come to your shower and has to hang out with his friends.  I would be really upset and hurt too.  If I were you, I would be straight forward with her and tell her how you really feel.  That's all you can do in this situation and ultimately, it's going to be up to her what she does about it.  Good luck and so sorry you have to go through this with a close friend.

fishinflagrl

Wow, what a tool. I seriously hate people like that. It's usually those who are the most insecure that are like that. Anyways, I would be completely livid if my MOH went to hang out with her husbands friends and then doesn't come to my bridal shower bc she couldn't switb study days. Even if her H was in town and went to hang with his friends, I would be just as mad. You can't have one weekend away from them and study so you can come to my shower. I would definitely say something to we and let her know it really hurts you. I would demote her to clean up crew at the wedding at this point!! Lol My girls and I joke about this all the time, I was demoted to usher bc I forgot to call one of the girls to let her know we were going to look at centerpieces. Lol Sorry you have to go through this! Hope she doesn't do that.

ninaelizabeth3

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_moh-vent-kinda-long-ish?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:5e3dabb2-5cf1-46a8-b1f5-c129409556fePost:eb773ad0-7003-40b9-8b54-e2273da63eec">Re:MOH Vent kinda longish</a>:
[QUOTE]Wow, what a tool. I seriously hate people like that. It's usually those who are the most insecure that are like that. Anyways, I would be completely livid if my MOH went to hang out with her husbands friends and then doesn't come to my bridal shower bc she couldn't switb study days. Even if her H was in town and went to hang with his friends, I would be just as mad. You can't have one weekend away from them and study so you can come to my shower. I would definitely say something to we and let her know it really hurts you. I would demote her to clean up crew at the wedding at this point!! Lol My girls and I joke about this all the time, <strong>I was demoted to usher bc I forgot to call one of the girls to let her know we were going to look at centerpieces.</strong> Lol Sorry you have to go through this! Hope she doesn't do that.
Posted by fishinflagrl[/QUOTE]

People really demote their WP?? oh my.  haha...