Memorial ideas

tamrahelmer

Hey girls! I've been MIA lately because I'm so busy with school and final wedding details. Sorry! However, I have a question on what you are doing for "In memory of" loved ones. I know a lot of people do candles, but I want to do something different. Are you doing something different? If so, what?

I was thinking about incorporating a candy dish that had hershey kisses in it with some sort of sign. My grandfather was known for his hershey kisses and my family would definitely know it was because of him, but I want to have the sign say something about all of those that couldn't be with us. Ideas?

Edit: We aren't doing programs wither, so I can't include a little saying there.

Mandie_hunnybear

I am doing candlea at the reception but we are doing a baloon release during the ceremony abd we are attaching letter to the baloon which describe our lost loved ones and how important they were to usalong with a contact email so er can hear from the person that finds the letter

aro1589

I'm tying my grandparents wedding bands into my bouquet

Ali092011

I think a candle is the best way to go. It's important to remember loved ones lost, but you also don't want anything that will make guests sad or take away from the joy of the day.

We're having a candle with flowers next to it set on a table for my stepmother. It's important to us, and those who knew and loved her will know what it's for, but mostly it's for FI and me, who will both be missing her on our wedding day.

If you don't want a candle, the Hershey Kiss idea is a cute one. What about a small photo of your grandfather next to the candy jar? I don't think you need a written explanation--like you said, your family will know it's a tribute to him, and your other guests will just be happy there's chocolate. But overall, I'm of the opinion that memorial-type things should be as subtle as possible.

achiduck

We're having a rememberance prayer during the ceremony and the pastor will speak the names of those that have passed away.

ivedonethisb4

I'm putting roses in my bouquet for them. One red for my dad because red roses were his favorite flower. 4 light pink ones for my maternal grandma, grandpa and my aunt that was moms baby sister and the last is for my paternal grandpa. My other flowers that will be mixed with these are hot pink roses, alstromeria lilies and stargazer lilies. My bouquet will be the only one with these in it.

geieran

I agree with Ali in that it should be as subtle as possible. Something about it just seems more special when only the ones who were closest to those lost recognize whatever you choose to do. 

I am doing several things to remember loved ones. First of all, our wedding date is on October 13th - my cousin's birthday. We were really close growing up. He also loved yellow, which I believe is one of the reasons I like that color so much. Yellow is one of our colors. 

We also have dried flowers from the funerals of most of our loved ones. This may seem a little morbid, but the flowers from my cousin's funeral won't last much longer and I don't like the idea of throwing them away. This, to me, is a special way of honoring his memory without having to throw something away that would be another stab to the heart. We also have a flower for my F's brother who passed, my uncle, and a really close friend. They will be mixed in with the petals that the flower girl drops. When I asked for the flowers that we didn't already have, it showed me that it wasn't just important to us. It's important to others as well and it means a lot to them they we are doing this. However, I like the way we're doing it opposed to more obvious ways (like pictures) because then people get more sad and it doesn't matter to others who weren't close to them at all. I guess what I'm trying to say is that this is special without making anyone sad on that very special day.

tamrahelmer

thanks for the ideas girls! I've thrown around not doing anything at all, but I might just put out a bowl of hershey kisses in rememberance with no explanation. For those who catch on, good. Otherwise I dont think I'll worry about it!

mercurybebe

We have a mention in the program and then an engraved bud vase...subtle but there.  I love the balloon idea...may think about that...perhaps just my immediate family while we are doing portraits...

xxbrokendreamsxx

We're talking about having a "In memory of" table(it'll be fairly small) in one corner at the reception with pictures of the loved ones who couldn't be there and flowers scattered around them since our venue doesn't allow candles.

Peledreamsofrain

I wanted to keep it low key too, in order to not make people uncomfortable. My grandfather used to take me on nature walks, and always picked up silver dollar plants for me. They were his favorite, and they are pretty, so i'm weaving some into grapevine wreaths. These will be a part of the table centerpeices and work really well because one of my colors is silver anyway.