Anyone else facing the 1st Parent Meet-Up?

casyme

Any of you October 2012 brides in my boat -- your parents and your fiance's parents will be meeting for the first time at or near the wedding?  Just looking to commiserate. 

Our parents live 2,500 miles apart and have never met, and will be meeting for the first time the day before the wedding.  My dad is a retired cop and he and his wife (my stepmom; my mom is deceased) are small-town, provincial Bible-thumpers.  On the other hand, my fiance's parents are, in short, divorced hippies.  My future father-in-law will probably regale everyone with tales of things he did once while high, or maybe some government conspiracy theories.

I'm going to start drinking now.

LDubHawksFan

I've started to get a little worried about it.  I think it will be fine, but there is a little worry about my family.  My parents are divorced and I have a stepdad (although my mom and he were divorced about 10 yrs ago).....so that will be confusing for people.  Plus, I'm a little worried about my Dad.  He's not the most refined person, so I'm hoping he won't blurt out something crazy.  I feel bad, too, because I'm really not this shallow, but I'm thinking about trying to find a nice barbor out here for him to get cleaned up before the wedding.  A nice haircut and shave....and try to get his hands a normal color.  When I saw him last weekend, they were black from oil.  If it doesn't work out, oh well.....

ETA: The first time they all meet should be at the rehersal

semay23

Oh yes, the first meet-up will be at the rehearsal dinner. FI's parents will meet my dad. FI's family are straight-laced and conservative, and my dad is a liberal hippie with a love of budweiser. My parents are divorced and my mom isn't participating in or coming to the wedding so they won't "get" to meet her just yet.

I think it will work out for the best though. And you know what, if there is tension, they are adults. Let them deal with it. No reason to add something else to stress over on your big day!

reagane02

Our families are spread out too. My mom and my step dad AND my FMIL will be staying with us the whole week. This will be there 1st official meeting. Then on 1 night FI's dad wants to have everyone over to his house for dinner. I'm a little worried because they do have some differing opinons on certain issues, but I expect them all to be adults and mind their P's & Q's. But I think they'll get along for the most part.

Good luck to you.

amyelise25

My parents will be meeting FI's mother for the first time at the rehearsal.  I know that my mother will be fine, but my father might get a little corny for FMIL's taste.  I'm not going to sweat it because between their locations and FMIL's age (88) I don't think they are going to be crossing paths a lot in life. 

minionlover

Our parents have met once before and they didn't exactly give each other the warm fuzzies.  The next meeting will be the day of the wedding.  I am a little scared but there isn't much I can do about it.  I can't really change the fact that they don't like each other.

Kristen627

My first full-family meeting will be a few days before our wedding. Our mothers met when I bought my dress, but we're super spread-out too. He's from the midwest, I'm from the east coast, and we're getting married in California. I also have divorced parents and a step-mother thrown into the mix. I honestly haven't thought much about it, though now that you mention it, I'm pretty pleased that we're getting married in wine country if, for nothing else, easy access to anxiety-ridding delicious wine.

mmmendi

Our parents won't meet until the wedding. At this rate, I probably won't meet his parents before the wedding! He is very concerned that his parents will embarrass him, at least his father. He said he is very coarse. However, my family is not going to judge him for his parents. They know he has chosen to distance himself from them, it really is ok. I think there will be a certain amount of pressure to raise to the occasion. If not, I'm sure life will go on.

insanityofamom

My FI's dad met my mom for a bit (like a couple hours) but this will be the first time that everyone else meets. FI's family is coming into town Friday, so everyone will meet at the rehersal. 

SomethingBeautiful08

My parents met and enjoyed FH's father and his step Mom that live in MI when they visited a few years ago so that I'm not worried about.  I've only met his mother once for a few days on the trip we got engaged on, so she will be meeting my parents for the first time at the rehursal... hopefully, unless her plane gets in late.  On top of that this will be the first time that his mother and father have spent any signficant time together in over ten years, they divorsed somewhere between 25 and 30 years ago.  I'm a little worried about any sort of tension there might be between the divorses, but mostly between her and some of the rest of the family, just because I don't have the closesness of relationship.  At the end of the day I expect everyone to be adults and not to cause intentional tension. 

pengy16

our families will be meeting for the first time at the wedding. the females might meet at my bridal shower since my mom and  MOH who are putting the shower together told me to invite the women from both sides of the family. But either way, thats not til probably next month (MOH knows the day but I dont, the only thing I know was it will be about 3-4 weeks before the wedding).

bkhokie27

This happened at my 1st wedding and everything went fine.  For this wedding, my parents have met FI's mom before, but just briefly.  They haven't met FI's dad and FI's stepmom.  We don't know if they're coming to the wedding.  If they do, it will be interesting for sure.  It will be the first time in 30+ years that FI's mom and brother have seen FI's dad.  Fun times!

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Our parents should meet a few days before and I think it should go fine. I think they have a lot in common. The only thing is both Dad's like to talk so that might be an issue!