QOTD 9/25

minionlover

How about an "open letter" day?  What is it that you want to say to someone? It could be anyone or anything.

achiduck

Dear FI's 23 year old cousin,

FREAKING ask a girl to be your date already and tell me her name! You're holding up my place card printing. The only reason we gave you a plus one was because you were dating someone when invitations went out. But you're so klassy you go through women like I go through glasses of water. Grow up already.

Sincerely,
A bride who is tired of waiting.

Ividian

Mom,

I know everything you do is to try and help me, but you're stressing me out to a ridiculous degree. When I tell you I've made a decision about something, stop pushing me, it doesn't matter if it's isn't what you would do, it's what I'm doing. You should be supporting my decisions not questioning them. I do not appreciate you making me feel guilty that I don't want to spend the morning of my wedding at your house. On my wedding day I need you to be there if I need you, to help, love, and support me, I don't need you second-guessing my decisions, and who I want in the room with me, and when I want to do things, and where I want my photos taken.

Jerk Co-Worker,

F you.

mmmendi

Dear Officer of the law

I know you are overworked and understaffed. However, I am dead serious about filing assualt charges on that punk child that has now attacked my son without provocation twice. Other parents support me. The school principal supports me. Write it up and let me have my day. No, I don't think this kid is going to 'disappear'. No, I don't even think he will have more than minor aggravation of having to actually go to court. Yes, I do think it matters. This child keeps spouting off that 'nuthin' is gonna happen', and its time to lay the groundwork so that it does, or so that he understands life brings consequences at some level. Regardless of THAT child, MY child deserves to know that I have his back. Always.

One Pissed off Parent

P.S. If you can promise this will be one-on-one, and not three boys pummeling my boy like last time - you make it happen and I have no issue giving my son permission to defend himself.

achiduck

Dear SIL,

Reply to your texts already. Radio silence is rude and childish.

PattySmith101

dear have to have the last word fmil,

    i love you dearly and appreciate your help and wanting to be involved in everything! BUT when you email me and i respond in an email you don't need to then call me on the phone ( all happen right after each other) have a 20 minute phone conversation following up with the emails!!! ( i hate talking on the phone so shes lucky i even answered! lol) THEN follow up our phone conversation with another email!!! < seriously 2 minutes after i hung up the phone! />

catwine

Dear Dad, you are not walking me down the aisle becuase you dont deserve it. Since I'm not 'allowed' to walk alone, mom is doing it.  Afterall, she is the only parent that ever raised me and didn't walk out on us like you did.  Oh, and your home wrecking whore is not welcome at my wedding.  If she shows up you will be cut out of my life forever.

mlperkins12

Dear FI,

Thank you for being my rock.  Things have been nutty lately but you have kept it together.  You are the bomb diggity!

Love,
ML

lehc723

Dear Work,

Please do yourself so I can spend the next eleven days daydreaming about the wedding and freaking out and sending emails and whatnot instead of doing work.

Thanks!

Love,
lehc723

mbuckley85

Dear FMIL, 

Please stop insisting that I am pushing FI into doing things he doesn't want to do.  He didn't want to break the stupid glass after the ceremony, but you are making him.  WE do not want a Ketubah or a chuppah so please stop insisting that because we are not having one it is MY fault.  Your 26 year old son was fully aware of my religious preferences when he entered a relationship with me almost two years ago, and my reluctance to accept YOUR religion is why we unofficially saw each other for the four years before that.  I made it perfectly clear to your son how things would be if we were to continue our relationship and he agreed to it.  You annoy him to no end.

So stop doing what you think I'm doing.  Stop with the emotional blackmail and trying to push your son into doing things he doesn't want to do.

~Melissa

PS. See you at temple tonight...and tomorrow.  Because I'll be there just as I was last week for Rosh Hashanah.  I may not be Jewish but I will be there standing by my best friend's side and supporting him.  I won't ask him to convert and we are raising our children Catholic, but I am fully supportive of FI, whether you believe it or not.

amandaorgan

Dear "Replacement" Pastor

Yes, I agree - getting together before the rehearsal is a GREAT idea. In fact, I think it is so great that I have already done it.  Twice.  With our original pastor.  I know it is not your fault that he can no longer officiate our wedding, but I  have told you that my phone is broken, please call FI.  Why do you keep calling me? I had three VMs from you about meeting. Do you know that I am two weeks out from my wedding and I do not have time to work around YOUR limited schedule to meet to "chat about the wedding?" I HAVE ALREADY DONE THIS - talk with our original pastor.

---Annoyed Bride

Dear new hair and makeup team - 

Trial was great.  You guys rocks.  Things like this make me remember that everything happens for a reason.  THANK YOU!

---No-Longer Annoyed Bride

rlr02

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_qotd-925?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:7307b8f1-7c07-492f-909d-05bda9e474b5Post:f1fd3243-b72a-44fc-88d6-93034a4aa81e">Re: QOTD 9/25</a>:
[QUOTE]Mom, I know everything you do is to try and help me, but you're stressing me out to a ridiculous degree. When I tell you I've made a decision about something, stop pushing me, it doesn't matter if it's isn't what you would do, it's what I'm doing. You should be supporting my decisions not questioning them. I do not appreciate you making me feel guilty that I don't want to spend the morning of my wedding at your house. On my wedding day I need you to be there if I need you, to help, love, and support me, I don't need you second-guessing my decisions, and who I want in the room with me, and when I want to do things, and where I want my photos taken. Jerk Co-Worker, F you.
Posted by Ividian[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Amen!!! 

</div>

mana8503

Dear Male CWs,
PLEASE stop PMSing... I'm actually PMSing, and less than 2 weeks before my wedding.  I neither called out for a headache (which I have), nor am I being Mr. grumpypants. 

STUCK IT UP!
Love,
Not your SO!

Dear FMIL,
Thanks for finally getting a dress for our wedding and shoes, this is way better than the jeans and sneakers you were asking to wear.  Also, thanks for asking FI if this is really want he wants to do... because you were on speaker phone and it furthers my assumptions you have grown to not like me, or if it's really that you "wish we lived closer".  If you can find me a job that makes what I make here, we will gladly move. 

Thanks,
Your FDIL who is tired of biting her tongue

PS - if you mention FI getting out of the Army and "wonder how we are making it" I will throw a chair in your face. 

Dear Mama,
I love you!  You've helped me so much for this wedding and in life.  I hope you know how much you mean to me, even when we butt heads. 

Love,
Your Daughter

jessiflower

Dear Makup & Hairstylist...

I know we already did two trials...well...one trial as you forgot your stuff for the first trial.  The second trial was okay, but i dont like "prom" hair...I do not want little ringlet curls...I know you are gifting my hair and makeup, but I am still not decided because I haven't seen the hair I like on me.  I need more time with you and am willing to pay for it.  I think I want to do my own makeup because you have never done my makeup and dont have time to do a trial and thats fine, just dont be upset when I tell you that I want to do my own makeup.  I want you to do my hair, and I want a couple of more trials until we find out what looks good and you can admit that the last hair wasn't great.  I don't know if my fingerwaves are going to work either and thats why I need to see you again...sooon....because if it doesnt work, then we are back at square one and now I'm feeling bad because you  have gifted this to me and I'm feeling like bridezilla and I'm not trying to be...I just think the hair is really important and I should love it.

Your and wonderfull friend and I love you,
Jessica

[Deleted User]

Dear Work, I really do like my job but good luck being without me for two and a half weeks. I'll be enjoying every second of my time off and maybe when I get back you'll have decided on that pay increase you're considering. Make it a good one.

LDubHawksFan

Dear venue coordinator,
When you told me that we could have a family friend be our wedding planners the day of, we took that to heart.  I don't have the cash to now license and insure them since you've decided we now have to have that documentation, or even worse, go find a DOC for several hundred dollars twenty some days before our wedding.  Thanks.

Dear seamstress,
I can respect that you usually don't work on Saturdays, but I really wish you would give me a straight answer and not leave me hanging until the week before my wedding.  I figured chemotherapy might be a good reason to allow me to schedule an appointment on a Saturday, especially since you let me for my first fitting, oh but that was when you were trying to get my business.  Who cares about keeping customers happy! 

Dear friends and family that have not sent in their rsvp,
Get on that!  It's now past due.

pockysquirrel

Dear Paperwork, Please do yourself so I can concentrate on wedding stuff. Sincerely, One Burnt Out Social Worker Dear Seating Chart, Please do yourself. Math and logic suggest that it should not be this difficult to sort 120 people into 12 tables. You are making my life harder than it needs to be. Sincerely, A Frustrated Bride Dear Things Remembered, It should not cost more to engrave words on an item than it does to buy said item. Now I have to rethink all my bridesmaid gifts. I hate you and we're in a fight. Sincerely, No Longer a Customer Dear Mom, Stop telling me that you don't need me to get you a gift for the wedding. All the parents are getting gifts, and you are particularly deserving because you have been supportive and helpful and just plain awesome. You are getting a present whether you like it or not! Love, Your fond but exasperated daughter

pockysquirrel

Dear TK, Is there a reason you refuse to show the paragraph breaks I so diligently include in my posts? This unformatted block of text you've turned my open letters into offends my eyes. : No love, Pocky

aro1589

Dear GM,
I don't know what happened between May (when FI was there for you on your big day) and now (where you refuse to answer his texts, calls, facebok messages, etc) but it's NOT okay.  We are getting married in 32 days.  If you can't afford to be in the wedding or something came up, FI would understand 100%.  It wouldn't end the friendship.  But you know what would end it?  You refusing to talk to FI and let him know what's going on.  I guess we're just going to assume you want nothing to do with FI and our wedding and move forward without you.

still wish you the best,
A.Ro

lv2011

Dear Family,

I invited all of you with your children and spouses and random dates. I invited you because you're my family and you mean a lot to me. And yet, 2/3rds of you have not responded to the invitation. I'm starting to think you don't care about me the way I care about you. It doesn't help seeing that all of Fi's very large family have responded and are coming. But my relatively small family can't even be bothered to tell me one way or another. Add in that we haven't registered anywhere and have said that we want nothing but your presence (not presents) on our day, and it feels like a huge slap in the face that you can't even send in an rsvp in a pre-adressed and pre-stamped envelope.

I guess this means I know where we stand in the future.

Sincerey,
LV

minionlover

Dear Cake Topper,

Thanks for arriving yesterday.  You made my day.  The artist who created you should open an etsy shop because she is amazing.

Lovingly,
Your new owner

Dear suitcase and what is supposed to go in it.

If you guys could just carefully pack yourselves, that would be awesome.  Make sure you don't exceed the weight limit though otherwise I will be mad.

Your time and attention to this matter is greatly appreciated,
A DW Bride

nitecheese

Dear Mom,

I know that we have had our differences, and that you often like to think that I am "just like [my] father", but we're more alike than you care to admit. It is ok for you to be emotional. It is NOT ok to yell at me because you are stressed.  Seriously. Are white, rather than ivory, plates really that offensive?  Regardless, thank you for not mentioning that you think I should join Weight Watchers at any point in the last month.  That's been awesome.  Please keep your type A quirks under wraps until October 21st.  I do love you though, tons.

Your Daughter

Dear FI,

You have no idea how much I love you, but not just for the big, important reasons. It is the little reasons, too.  For example, the fact that you knew I had conferences yesterday and took it upon yourself to do all the dishes, wash our sheets and towels AND order indian for dinner make you the best future husband ever.

Love,

Wifey Squirrel

Dear Students,

Yep. I'm getting married.  I'm glad that you're excited for me.  However, please refrain from mocking the fact that I will be Mrs. English, your English teacher. I understand to coincidence. Let it go.

Sincerely,

Ms. D.

Simply_Caitlin

Dear stomach,

Stop hurting.

-The rest of me.

jessiflower

This thread has made my day..best reading on our October board this week!!!  Its made me smile from the first letter to the last!

Ividian

I agree that this is a good one

hllokttygirl

Dear Best Man, Thanks for leaving your wife, my BM, a month before the wedding. While that in itself didn't bother me, your constant flaunting of your gf all over FB has really began to wear on everyone's nerves. Have some respect for yourself and your wife who you just up and left. Also, your supposed best friend bent over backwards to make your wedding awesome, including giving you a fantastic bachelor party. It would be great if you could step out of your self absorbed world and do something for him. We all know you have this great new carefree life, but there are people who depend on you. I used to love you like a brother, now I just think of you as an asshat. -Me

snuff9861

Dear School work,
 Please stop taking over my life. I do not appreciate staying up til the wee hours of the morning hanging out with you. I have packing that needs to get done by Friday and a seating chart to work on for the following weekend. You are being greedy and taking up way to much of my time. And I miss my friend sleep.

A burnt out nursing student


Dear friends of my parents
We are 11 days from the wedding, which you have known about since February. You were asked to RSVP by last week. An email saying you are planning on coming but have no firm plans yet does not sit well with me. I have to turn in final numbers and need to know if I have to make favours and escort cards for you. Ugh you suck.

From,
Left hanging out to dry Bride

stephanieandderekswedding

Dear Friends and Family who dont like FI,
This is my decision and it is the decision i want to make.  You are not here on a daily basis and cant see all the little things he does for me and thing things he does to make me happy.  So until you can walk a mile in my shoes, keep your opinions to yourself.

Dear Friends and Family who do like FI,
Thank you for all your support.  I know that you dont have to like him but you see him for who he is.  You see that we are happy together and want to be together for the rest of our lives.  Thank you.

Soon to be blushing bride,
SS

[Deleted User]

Dear Hair and Makeup, since I am doing this myself please cooperate and look good the first time!
Dear Dress, please fit on the wedding day. I know you think I'm silly but just work with me.
Dear shoes, please don't hurt my feet too much.
Dear me, you will look great and your arms are not fat!
love me