QOTD 8/10 - TMI Friday

minionlover

Did you have any discussions with your FI about your sexual history?  And were you honest about the # of partners you had previously??

tamrahelmer

We were friends for 2 years before we had started dating, so we pretty much knew sexual history going into the relationship. We were both honest about how many partners we've had.

mlperkins12

I don't think we talked about it much.  I know that I asked FI about his and I think that he was honest with me.  With the roll reversed, I know that FI didn't really want to know.  He wanted to think he was my "first".  LOL

Heath66

Yupp, we both have been completely honest with eachother. We have been together since I was 18 and he was 19, so neither of us have previous partners. 

ivedonethisb4

We've been together since we were 19. We were upfront about it. He's had more parters than me by like 3x my number..but my number is very small..I started having sex at an older age than him. He was 16. I was 18. We started dating when I was 19...so..I didn't squeeze a lot of men into that year..only 2 before FI. One I dated for 8 months and the other had been a friend for a while.

goatlady12

We were both honest about our numbers.  We don't go in depth about our previous sex partners, but we've talked about the things we've tried.  No specifics, neither of us care to here details.

islandmonkey8

Fi & I were very honest with each other in the beginning. We both also don't really care, because we know that it's just him and I now and the past doesn't change or alter that at all.

catwine

he knew I was a virgin when we were just friends.  once we started dating i told him about the other guys i went out with in highschool (but didn't have sex with...we are both still virgins).  he eventually told me he dated a girl before me but wasn't really physical with her at all.

mpjf1001

We've been together since we were 21 so we've been honest about everything. We know #s and who but no details...like who needs to know that!

minionlover

We had the talk and were also very honest with our answers.  Like others said tho, it was more generalities than anything else.

achiduck

FI was a virgin when we met so no need to discuss his. He knows I've dated much much more than him and I offered to tell him my number but he didn't really care to know.

Ividian

We didn't really ask about numbers, we both had been in several fairly serious relationships before we met, but I'm pretty sure his number is bigger than mine. Doesn't really matter to us though.

pockysquirrel

Funny story, that. Safe sex is one of my pet issues, so I'm usually a big stickler for having The Talk with my partners before doing anything, getting testing done if necessary, etc. But with FI, one thing just kind of led to another, and I ended up looking at him after the fact and saying "So, uh, it'd probably be good for you to know that I'm on the pill and I just tested negative for STDs. And you?"

FI and I have a very open line of communication about this sort of thing. Neither of us minds the details - the past is the past. We just make fun of each other and move on.

Alisha9544

Yes we've told eachother everything.  Every embarrassing, ashamed & halarious sexual stories.  We are both very open & don't clam up when talking sex. 

ericaandtom2012

We've been together since we were both 18.  We're each others' firsts (that word looks really weird, I think it's the 4 consonants in a row), and we've talked about previous bf/gfs.  Neither one of us really had much to share. 

lehc723

We talked about it before we had full-on sex, but not too long after we'd started fooling around, and told each other our numbers for everything. Neither were too terribly extensive (we'd both been in long relationships for most of our sexually active time), so it wasn't anything to lie about.

xxjen015

We were both virgins when we got together (we were 18), so we've never been with anyone else. He originally told me he'd been with one other person beforehand because he thought it would make him seem "cool", but it didn't bother me. It came out about a year ago that I was his first, he finally fessed up! lol.

mmmendi

We have had very frank discussions, and I don't think either of us requested numbers.

snuff9861

I have no other sexual partners before FI so my half of the conversation was easy. I knew about his sexual past though. We went to the same highschool. Word get around.

aimee58

I don't think we ever really talked numbers, but we shared stories and talked about it. Neither of us were really into one-night stands, and we've talked about past relationships. We told each other about experiences, just not really numbers.

Poppy101212

FI started out as a 'fun fling' so we were very honest with each other, and probably overshared a little. We also have the same number, so that worked out.

halij52002

We haven't discussed it and don't really feel the need to. The past is the past and the future is what matters. At least we'd like to think so right?!

kimm260

Like most PPs, we have talked numbers but no details.  We actually talked about it before we started dating on IM, lol.

jessiflower

Kinda funny to think about...we have been together for four years and both have been married before when we were young....we both have kids....but were both single for the better part of 8 years after our divorces before meeting eachother...we were both focused on our children and not "looking" when we just kinda stumbled onto eachother....im 33 and he is 40....so we definitely have a whole lot of years behind us in that department...we never talked actual numbers, but he is aware that I have had more partners than him...he was married the first time out of high school, so his number is very low....mine wasn't low, but its never been an issue...we have been very open, but like other girls have said....its not like we talk details or anything, but we have the info that each of us need

Simply_Caitlin

We really haven't discussed much about it.  I told him early on that I didn't want to know and he agreed.  At this point in our relationship I'm secure enough that if he told me how many, it wouldn't be a big deal but I just don't need to know so I don't ask.  It's worked for both of us.  Sometimes I'm curious, but I know if there's a chance I won't like an answer to a question and I don't need to know, I don't ask haha.

mrshall1027

We are pretty open with each other.  No details, but general info.  Neither of us likes to hear about previous people, so other then the initial "talk", we don't really bring it up much.

jenny&will2014

We talked about our sexual pasts. he was vague and I told him waaaay more than he needed to know but he has only been with a few women where as my number is quite higher but i've been in quite a few serious relationships and was previously married. Yet the funny thing is that my fiance is the best i have ever been with by far...sorry tmi

mbuckley85

FI was a virgin and I wasn't, but he knew that. He never asked exact numbers but he knew he wasn't the first. He is the only one that actually meant/means anything to be, both at the time and now, and he does know that. That is all that matters!

CFM102012

We were each other's first and only and we dated for two (years) before we actually had sex. Did lots of other stuff though lol.

tracey525

We talked about it a bit, no great detail. I know his number, but I don't think he knows mine. It's been a while since that convo, and in our opinion, irrelavent now!

Ali092011

We haven't talked about it since we've been serious. When we were casually seeing each other six years ago, we discussed it as a matter of being safe and all that. I have been in two prior serious and long term relationships and he has been married once before, so we knew there was history, but we don't dwell on it.