CAN'T HANDLE THIS!

ivedonethisb4

I swear..I really am so done with this stuff. I am to the point I wish weddings didn't exist. All this stress is unbearable. The closer it gets the more we fight about details and FI wanting to change things that had been decided months ago....throwing stuff in the air when he is trying to change it and I'm simply telling him why we decided on that way in the first place. AND on top of that he ordered a white grooms cake! So now our guests don't have a choice. Its white cake or yellow cake...both vanilla! I told him we can't have 2 with the same flavor and asked him to pick another flavor other than chocolate..nope he went ahead and ordered a white cake. OMG I seriously just want to leave and go to my moms house until this is over. Oh and its his birthday.

Mandie_hunnybear

So sorry you are going through all of this. I cracked a couple months ago and did change the entire wedding! I cancelled the hall, the dj, the rentals, everything! And we got a permit for a park and we are doing dinner at jack astors and mini putting after : doing it this way also aloud us to have a.mini hinnymoon that we were not going to beable to have before...so much less stress!

aimee58

I'm sorry. I had to deal with this the other night too. FI was just like "Why don't we just go to the courthouse and get it over with" the other day. He's since calmed down.

Maybe if he's so stuck on white cake, change the flavor of your other cake or part of it. Also, I'd give him some time off from wedding planning. Even if it's a couple days of just you guys with no wedding talk. That helps us a lot!

julzy

Totally understand.  And  as PP said, FI keeps making the "let's just elope comments."  I would have been fine with that 6 months ago, but invites are out. He makes me nuts sometimes. I wish instead of talking so negatively about the wedding, he'd help make this easier for me and more fun. I want to enjoy this process but it's so hard when the person you love is being so negative.

Again, I totally understand how you're feeling.  The only thing that helped me I think was having a mini breakdown and finally telling FI how much I was being hurt by his comments and that I want him involved but only if that means making this easier for me, not more difficult.  Brides are under enough stress without dealing with a groomzilla.

ivedonethisb4

This whole time he hasn't had an opinion other than whatever is cheapest...and now he wants to change things..like how the reception space will be set up etc.my cake can't be another flavor as its a gift and I didn't get to choose. Which is why I wanted him to pick something different and not chocolate...but I told his mom to tell the bakery lady to just do it chocolate...but not to let him know. I hope they can change the order.

mmmendi

I joke about FI being bridezilla and he is not really that bad. He is VERY opinionated - and very CHEAP!!! Holy cow it is tooth and nail when cost comes up. First the venue, and what a fight it was to find something agreeable. Then, keeping it simple and inexpensive, we went with an afternoon cake and punch reception. I am adding a chocolate fountain that he just cannot live without - he wants to do a full catered affair, we simply don't have the funds (yes, we could save another year, but he doesn't want to wait to make me Mrs). I worked on a personal wording for our invitations, and have been asking him to help get them printed weeks- we finally printed Sunday - and he wanted 'cordially invite you to share in the celebratation our marriage'. Then - he was frustated printing the reply cards, and did the 'why aren't we eloping' bit. We are currently on different sides of 'if we know they aren't coming, why send an invitation?' - so I am sending mine, he isn't sending his!

All of that is to say - I really do understand. It IS stressful. It IS a crazy journey - but it is a temporary leg in the relay. You are so close! Hang in there, and don't sweat the small stuff!