October 2012 Weddings

guest vent

Our deadline was monday and FI uncle didnt send in his RSVP so we figure they arent coming. His uncle contacts him yesterday (day late) to say they want to come and they wanted to know if they could bring their kids. We only sent the invite to him and his wife not to the family. We are already pushing our limit and now you want to add 2 more people to the guest list I dont have room for and have no idea on where to place them? Also we have told everyone no kids so there will be quite a few pissed people because they couldnt bring their kids. Good news is FI told him it was just for him and his wife since space is tight (FI previously disagreed on telling people no kids). Well to add to that, I have never met this uncle, didnt even know he existed until last year (FI and I have been together 7 years) when he got married and he only invited FI brother to the wedding two weeks prior because he needed a best man, so because he didnt turn in his RSVP, I have no idea on what his wifes name is. Right now her seating is listed as Mrs. Uncleslastname. Thats why they needed to RSVP so that I could have the names for the seating chart and escort cards.

 Then to add to that, a friend from college I wanted to invite whose address I didnt have (she has been MIA the past few months since she got married), calls me two weeks ago saying she would send me her address so she could RSVP by the deadline. She sends me her address yesterday, the day after the deadline. Space is already tight, and I told her to send it to me two weeks ago. Now I dont want to send her the invite. 

To add these people is going to cost another $100 for the catering bill, money that needs to go to pay off other vendors, and wasnt in the budget. The reason we are over is because FI family told us right before invites went out that we were required to invite 10 additional people. We originally told the caterer 40 people, but it seemed like it would be around 35 people, now we are up to 44 people...

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Re: guest vent

  • I'm 3days from our wedding & still have people trying to RSVP.  Sorry I know it sucks, especially when space is limited.  Hopefully that's the last of your hiccups though.
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  • edited October 2012
    I have one family (friends of FI) that never sent the rsvp.  My deadline was 9/26.  I found out yesterday that they called my sisters and are going to attend my shower.  Hmmm, I thought that was a bit odd because they would reply for the shower an not the wedding.  I tell FI, he's upset with his friend because they were talking a few weeks back (not asking about a reply) the friend was like oh and we haven't been getting our mail.  Huh?  What is that supposed to mean?  Why would you, just out of the blue, change the subject and say that?   It just sounded odd. 
    Anyway, I send the wife an email and basically said I was worried they never received the invite because I haven't heard from them.  She says, "oh yea, congrats,  we got it.  M (6 y.o. daughter) colored on it.  I'm sooooo sorry.  We're gonna request the day off but we won't know until the week before".  Now I am mad, FI is even more pissed because it all sounds like excuses, he doesn't even want them to come at this point.  I told her sorry, but I have to turn in my numbers to the caterer before that.  Its a little fib but I don't want them to say, yea we're coming and then not show up and were out $300 for them and their 2 kids. That is just something they would do.

    Grrrrrrr!!!!!!!
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