Hi Ladies!
I lurk on the April 2012 boards, I post mainly on the CT boards...but sometimes, only brides going through the same thing at the same time can understand...
I am going CRAZY with FMIL. I generally have a good relationship with her, but she drives me MAD most of the time. She wanted to throw FI and I a Jack & Jill where you had to pay for a ticket, etc etc- I thought it was tacky but it's tradition in their family so I figured I would just let it go and just show up. Luckily, that didn't work out. Next, she wanted to throw me a seperate shower from my MOH's shower because we live too far away (half an hour from each other). she was going to invite people who aren't invited to the wedding to this said shower. I don't want two showers, I just want one shower with everyone together, and I told her this. Luckily, she decided not to follow through with the second shower- but talks ill about me behind my back because of it.
Then, she flipped out at MOH about the guest list because she wanted to invite people who aren't invited to the wedding. MOH said she would "talk to the girls" about it, but decided that this was not okay and said no. So now she speaks ill of me and MOH to everyone about how we wouldn't let her do that (and by everyone, I mean her 14 brothers and sisters, the bank tellers, the lady behind her at the grocery store).
Now, she is obsessing about the rehersal dinner. Okay, fine...it's her thing, she can do it- but she is going behind my back complaining to everyone about how she has to pay for it and this and that. I just found out she's planning a surprise party for FI for his birthday, the day after my bachelorette party, knowing full well I'll be out of town and won't be able to attend. I have heard this from several people. I'm going to be his WIFE for christ sakes...and she's treating me as if I'm not important enough to be invited.
I know she's loosing her son, I know she's just crazy and I shouldn't worry. But with less than 3 months to go, I'm just so stressed out. And another thing? She told me her family "doesn't really rsvp"- and if they decide to come the day of, they should be let into the reception. And told me it would be rude to turn them away.
ARGHHHHH. Vent over. See my next post for an introduction so I'm not just some stranger posting on the april boards
