Fight with FI

bbair89

So, I'm super ragey irritable lately and everything seems annoying and not right and I'm taking it out on my relationship. FI said I didn't sound excited that we were getting married soon and then I told him that I don't like the current state of our relationshp and that it was making me really sad/frustrated....ensue fight/argument/whatever that was. Of course I had no concrete examples of what was wrong, I'm just out of sorts lately and it's affecting everything.  I know that I'm going crazy trying to prepare for a job and finish up wedding stuff at the same time. I also know we've been living at my parent's house for far too long and it's really starting to take its toll (pray that a move is in our immediate future). I just hope all of these bad vibes clear up before the wedding.

CFM102012

Take a deep breath and take some time for just you and your FI. Watch a movie, go out for dinner do something completely NWR. I know the wedding is super close (I'm right there with ya on that) but take an evening where the wedding is not allowed to intrude. Good Luck!

violakat03

I'm like you in that the stress is turning into a really short temper. FI and I have had several stupid fights and afterwards we take a chance to talk it through (we always do this after a fight) and really realize that it's just because of the stress and I'm on edge.

ladydaisy

We have had a lot of stupid arguments lately too and there seemed to be a lot of tension for a couple of weeks. And while I would love to blame it on FI, I really think its me being super sensitive and stressed beyond belief. We finally seemed to clear the air yesterday and acknowledged how crazy the wedding is making us, plus the new business we just purchased and I'm hoping all will be better now.

Iryshcreem

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_fight-with-fi?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:81089941-84c1-47f0-8cd9-dfa5d3f21b9dPost:27b15a2d-5044-42cd-bedb-6225984b7ef9">Fight with FI</a>:
[QUOTE]So, I'm super ragey irritable lately and everything seems annoying and not right and I'm taking it out on my relationship. FI said I didn't sound excited that we were getting married soon and then I told him that I don't like the current state of our relationshp and that it was making me really sad/frustrated....ensue fight/argument/whatever that was. Of course I had no concrete examples of what was wrong, I'm just out of sorts lately and it's affecting everything.  I know that I'm going crazy trying to prepare for a job and finish up wedding stuff at the same time. <strong>I also know we've been living at my parent's house for far too long and it's really starting to take its toll (pray that a move is in our immediate future).</strong> I just hope all of these bad vibes clear up before the wedding.
Posted by bbair89[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm in the same boat.  We moved into my parents house last november to save money for the wedding.  I have a very strained relationship with my mother and we butt heads on EVERYTHING which takes a toll on my relationship with FI because I want him to take my side even if I'm wrong and he won't.  I hope there is a move in both our immediate futures.  Just tough it out a little longer and things will hopefully settle down after the wedding.</div>

mmmendi

FI and I had it out last night. I'm tired, upset and just want him to think about things as 'us' and not think FOR me. We are so close, it is feeling a little it out of control. Nothing that is a deal breaker, but definite frustration! I think we are all looking forward to enjoying our weddings, and then settling in to a normal routine (whatever that is for each of us!)

bbair89

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_fight-with-fi?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:81089941-84c1-47f0-8cd9-dfa5d3f21b9dPost:03f37931-50a0-472c-81d1-f20e8cda4732">Re: Fight with FI</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Fight with FI : I'm in the same boat.  We moved into my parents house last november to save money for the wedding. <strong> I have a very strained relationship with my mother and we butt heads on EVERYTHING </strong>which takes a toll on my relationship with FI because I want him to take my side even if I'm wrong and he won't.  I hope there is a move in both our immediate futures.  Just tough it out a little longer and things will hopefully settle down after the wedding.
Posted by Iryshcreem[/QUOTE]

My mom and I used to be super close. But she's really changed since I left for college and then grad school. When FI an I moved back home after I graduate grad school things were so different. Now we argue all the time and walk around the house basically avoiding each other. She has put minimal effort or help into the wedding and doesn't even seem interested in it.  I could go on and on...but I will spare you

fishinflagrl

The stress of my new job, wedding planning, and just everything is really starting to affect my relationships with everyone. I am just on edge with everything. I know how you are feeling. I am just hoping after the wedding is done and over things will go back to normal. If anything take care of you and your FI first. Maybe do something relaxing for just one day this weekend, go get a massage. Heck! That sounds like a great idea. I just might do it myself. Everything will be okay, deep breaths. :

WeddingGirl88

OMG...I'm so relieved to hear that other people are fighting with their FI. It feels like I have been fighting with mine for the past few month, and especially now. It's like we fight over the littlest things and I hate it. I know it’s the stress of the wedding and everything like that I just wish that he was a little bit more supportive of me and thanked me every once in a while, especially after all of the planning I have done, but he just looks at the negative lately and of course i get upset and take it out on him, and then we don’t speak to each other because neither one of us wants to be the bigger person. I know we will be all better once everything is done, I mean we've been together for almost 11years and have known each other for 21 years, and have made it through everything, so I know this is just another bump in the road, but for right now it just sucks.

Keep you head up ladies. We will get through it.... I hope.

NRod70

I think we're all in the same boat!  I'm stressed out...about everything, not just the wedding.  It's making me short tempered and it effects everyone around me.

We also moved in with my mother last October because she was having some health issues.  I should NOT have done that since we've never had a good relationship.  Too late now! That is really the major cause of our arguements (he calls them "discussions" lol). 

I am just looking forward to having a nice reception and going on our honeymoon!!!  Oh yea, the wedding too. lol