Confession Thursday

fishinflagrl

Whats ur dirty secret?

lv2011

Hon, you do now it's Wednesday. Right?

brainybrunette

LOL!  I thought today was Thursday when I woke up this morning too.  Glad I'm not the only one!

lehc723

I got so excited that this meant it was Thursday.

fishinflagrl

OMG!!!! Hahahahahahaha wow!!! Okay...let's try this again... I'll post a new thread. Sorry!!!!

fishinflagrl

P.S. my dirty secret is that even though I'm brunette, deep down i am a complete blonde!!! No offense to the blondes out there.

achiduck

I confess that I'm pretty pissed at one of my BMs who happens to be my FSIL. I 100% understand that all my BMs have lives and I have not asked them to attend a single appointment, address an invite or do ANYTHING to help with planning. I let them pick their own dresses, shoes and jewellery and am paying for their hair and makeup. She pretty much begged to be a BM and is always texting me telling me how excited she is to be in the wedding and for the wedding, blah blah blah but can't seem to get it together.

The 2 times I've needed my BMs all together I've picked days that worked for every single person yet she always plans additional stuff which means she has to rush off. When we went BM dress shopping everyone agreed on a date, time and that we would all go have lunch together afterwards but she left after 30 minutes in the store to go ice fishing with her BF's friends. When I planned a "get to know you" outing to Niagara on the Lake for a wine tasting and lunch we ended up having to rush back b/c she had to go camping with her BFs friends again.

She offered to help plan the shower with the rest of my BMs and my SM but on Monday when they were all scheduled to meet up and plan it she never showed up. This was AFTER they had to change the time b/c she couldn't possibly get out of bed before noon (Monday was a holiday in Canada). MOH1 who lives 3 hours away showed up, MOH 2 who lives 90 minutes away showed up, BM1 who is a single mom and had to find child care showed up and SM who is dealing with a mom who is moving into a retirement home and her fathers passing showed up. But FSIL? She just "forgot" and then sent me a "OMG don't be mad at me text" Seriously??

She has texted me to ask where her BF will be seated and can I please not seat him with her Dad since they don't know each other very well. Um, I don't have all my RSVPs yet so I don't know where anyone is sitting yet. She also asked that my shower not be on a certain weekend b/c it was her 2 year anniversary and the WHOLE weekend had to be about her and her BF. Um, seriously? And she wanted to know what kind of flowers she'd be carrying like a week after we got engaged. I didn't even have a date or venue at that point!

I know that only job of a BM is to buy the dress and show up sober and clean, but seriously? She asked to be a BM, she offered to help throw the shower and she can't even commit 2 hours for dress shopping/lunch and an afternoon for a wine tasting? FI has always said she's had a selfish streak but I never imagined it would be like this.

/end rant/confession.

mana8503

Fishin - It's my Thursday since I'm off Friday! 

minionlover

I confess that I wish it was Thursday. 

Jasperk23

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_confession-thursday-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:8232e6fe-c2f4-4f69-aee2-b328e9b6113bPost:b87d9a24-09f3-48e2-a88b-4d7c4a2434af">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]I confess that I'm pretty pissed at one of my BMs who happens to be my FSIL. I 100% understand that all my BMs have lives and I have not asked them to attend a single appointment, address an invite or do ANYTHING to help with planning. I let them pick their own dresses, shoes and jewellery and am paying for their hair and makeup. She pretty much begged to be a BM and is always texting me telling me how excited she is to be in the wedding and for the wedding, blah blah blah but can't seem to get it together. The 2 times I've needed my BMs all together I've picked days that worked for every single person yet she always plans additional stuff which means she has to rush off. When we went BM dress shopping everyone agreed on a date, time and that we would all go have lunch together afterwards but she left after 30 minutes in the store to go ice fishing with her BF's friends. When I planned a "get to know you" outing to Niagara on the Lake for a wine tasting and lunch we ended up having to rush back b/c she had to go camping with her BFs friends again. She offered to help plan the shower with the rest of my BMs and my SM but on Monday when they were all scheduled to meet up and plan it she never showed up. This was AFTER they had to change the time b/c she couldn't possibly get out of bed before noon (Monday was a holiday in Canada). MOH1 who lives 3 hours away showed up, MOH 2 who lives 90 minutes away showed up, BM1 who is a single mom and had to find child care showed up and SM who is dealing with a mom who is moving into a retirement home and her fathers passing showed up. But FSIL? She just "forgot" and then sent me a "OMG don't be mad at me text" Seriously?? She has texted me to ask where her BF will be seated and can I please not seat him with her Dad since they don't know each other very well. Um, I don't have all my RSVPs yet so I don't know where anyone is sitting yet. She also asked that my shower not be on a certain weekend b/c it was her 2 year anniversary and the WHOLE weekend had to be about her and her BF. Um, seriously? And she wanted to know what kind of flowers she'd be carrying like a week after we got engaged. I didn't even have a date or venue at that point! I know that only job of a BM is to buy the dress and show up sober and clean, but seriously? She asked to be a BM, she offered to help throw the shower and she can't even commit 2 hours for dress shopping/lunch and an afternoon for a wine tasting? FI has always said she's had a selfish streak but I never imagined it would be like this. /end rant/confession.
Posted by achiduck[/QUOTE]

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</div><div><div><span style="white-space:pre;" class="Apple-tab-span"> </span>I have no advice, but I just wanted to say that that sucks. Especially since you've asked so little and given so much.</div><div><span style="white-space:pre;" class="Apple-tab-span"> </span>Now on to happier thoughts, how was your four-day weekend? Mine was not long enough ;)</div></div><div>
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achiduck

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_confession-thursday-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:8232e6fe-c2f4-4f69-aee2-b328e9b6113bPost:d5d1a3a8-983a-40d9-a184-7bf3b7e7fa33">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confession Thursday : I have no advice, but I just wanted to say that that sucks. Especially since you've asked so little and given so much. Now on to happier thoughts, how was your four-day weekend? Mine was not long enough ;)
Posted by Jasperk23[/QUOTE]

Thanks. Long weekend was good. It was productive and reaxing all at the same time. I came back to work feeling pretty rested. I plan to take the friday off before the labour day weekend too.

mmmendi

Achi that does suck. I am really big about expecting people to do what they say and say what they mean and I would be floored and frustrated with her behaviour!

I hope she mellows out a bit, and doesn't interfere with any of your planning

achiduck

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_confession-thursday-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:8232e6fe-c2f4-4f69-aee2-b328e9b6113bPost:87c4788c-c8ae-4132-8650-8af8cedb0063">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]Achi that does suck. <strong>I am really big about expecting people to do what they say and say what they mean</strong> and I would be floored and frustrated with her behaviour! I hope she mellows out a bit, and doesn't interfere with any of your planning
Posted by mmmendi[/QUOTE]

Me too. It's part of being an adult. She's 25, not 17 so there is no reason she should be behaving like this.

I got a bit bridezilla on her and told her that the a) cannot plan a single other thing the day of the shower b) has to help the other BMs set up and clean up and c) will do whatever the other BMs need her to do for the shower without complaint.

She promised she would "do better." I'm not holding my breath. I told my the BM who seems to be heading the shower planning to just give her something small that won't matter if she "forgets" again.

Heath66

My confession- I am so hurt by my future in laws. Only 3 out of the 21 people from his side of the family have RSVP'd to my bridal shower. Not FMIL, not FGMIL, not FSIL who is a bridesmaid. Only a cousin and 2 family friends. I don't care about gifts, I just want them to be there. 

achiduck

Aw, Heath that would hurt me too. It's my secret fear that even so the guest list for my shower is over 40 that only like 10 people will show up.

PattySmith101

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_confession-thursday-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:8232e6fe-c2f4-4f69-aee2-b328e9b6113bPost:33531637-5adb-46a8-8b89-c86101a89bc8">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]Aw, Heath that would hurt me too. It's my secret fear that even so the guest list for my shower is over 40 that only like 10 people will show up.
Posted by achiduck[/QUOTE]
thats my fear too  and our shower list has like 60 people on it!!!