Wedding gift ??

LDubHawksFan

So I'm going to a friend's wedding in a few weekends.  There are a few of us that went to college together (3 of us).  One of the friends said she would order a gift together and asked what we would like to spend.  I told her probably $70 for me (and FI who isn't going).  She just is chatting with me and said she ordered two things for $120.  I kind of feel like I would like to spend more than $40 for our gift (maybe it's because I now know what a wedding costs!), so what would you do in this case?  Would you just order something else small, but it would arrive just from you?  Or should I just bring a nice bottle of wine to the wedding??  Or should I just let it go?

tamrahelmer

Thats a tough one. You don't want it to look like the other friend is cheap and get another gift and have them find out. Are you invited to a shower? Maybe you can buy a bigger gift for the shower? Or even if you aren't invited to the shower you could always buy something around a shower time and have it shipped to their house saying congratulations on their upcoming marriage. Good luck!

SyAmaya

Hmmm... tough situation. But look at it this way, if all of you are friends you should be open with the people who you're splitting the gift with as they asked and you agreed. Feel free to buy something else if you like though. I probably would give the couple the rest of the money in a card the day of.  I can't think of anyone who wouldn't appreciate that!
Hope my thoughts help, and good luck with your decison!

lepoissonrouge

I agree with PP. The gift can certainly be a group gift but I am sure they wouldn't see anything odd about getting a card from just you and your FI. I would just put the rest of the money you were planning on spending in a card to give them on their wedding day.