My NWR nightmare

mmmendi

May 2011, I resigned 3 of 4 jobs and moved to an apartment - giving up a 4 bed/3 bath home for an apartment closer to my Mom (dad on weekends) and one of my sisters. New school for my 12 year old, 13 months ago he was jumped getting off the bus by three other students. I spoke to the school, it was effective. Until now. The vice-principal I worked with is now gone. Yesterday, one of those boys shoved my son. today, he taunted him and punched him. My son said he wanted to take him on, but was afraid of being ganged up on again. I called the the police.i will file charges.

After all that. My FI received a call from his ex. She wants to dump their troubled 12 year old daughter on us. Sign over custody and walk away.

I am so tired. Wedding planning? I got this. Life? I need reinforcements!

ETA I am scared of suddenly having a troubled teen girl, but embrace the opportunity to give her hope. I am baffled a parent could be so callous. I didn't state that at all, and should have! I always knew that in marrying FI, we would be fighting for her

pengy16

sounds like you have a lot of non wedding worries, I hope everything works out for the best!

I dont understand some people either. My MOH was supposed to adopt earlier this year but the girl backed out when she realized it meant her welfare check would increase, but before that even her mom was trying to give them the older child (2 years old) because she wasnt taking care of her and had no intention of taking care of the baby on the way. Now MOH wifes friend wants to give them her sisters child (She has legal right to her from birth as her mother is a druggie who signed over all rights) because her boyfriend wants to have a kid with her but doesnt want more than 2 kids (she also has her own son from a previous relationship). Seriously? You want to dump another child on someone else because some man refuses to have 3 kids? What happens if she gets prego with twins? hes going to want her to get rid of the son from another man too? As much as MOH and her wife would love to have a child, they realize this is messed up and dont want to get involved in that situation.

aro1589

hugs, Mendi!
you are smart in going to the police.  bullying is NOT okay.  I hope a little scare with the police teaches those punks a lesson!  i get really upset when I hear about kids being bullied

your FI's ex sounds like a piece of work.  sounds like she was only interested in being a mom when it was easy for her.  12 is a tough age.  whatever is going on with her, I'm sure being dumped by her mom isn't going to help her.  imagine what she must be going through knowing her own mother has 'given up' on her

all you can do is be there for your son and FI's daughter.  give them both lots of love.