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islandmonkey8

I feel like the worst FI in the world right now.

Both my bachelorette and FI's bachelor party are supposed to be the 29th. Two weeks before the wedding. Well, FI's BM called today to tell him that he found out the 29th doesn't work for half the guys going to the bachelor party (agreed upon date two months ago btw) because they have a wedding that night. They now want to move FI's party to the next weekend, the weekend before the wedding and he needs to be available all day Sat &Sunday.

I told FI to do whatever he wants because I feel bad, but I'm also pissed. FI is working the whole week of the wedding because he doesn't have any extra time to take off of work. The weekend before the wedding is when we were planning to get done all the last minute things, including packing for the honeymoon that we leave for the morning after the wedding. So now I feel I'm going to be stuck with doing everything we were supposed to do together PLUS everything I have scheduled to get done that week as I was able to get the paid time off.

I'm super upset, frustrated, feeling bad for FI, and angry. I feel selfish saying it but what the hell?! Am I wrong to be pissed?

LDubHawksFan

I feel you.  Our friend is doing 2 bachelor party weekends and they are the 2 weekends before ours.  Luckily FI says he wants to just go to the first because he thinks there will be lots to do that weekend before.  I think you should let your FI make the decision....and since you hopefully have 2 free weekends before that, make a list of all the things you can do together to get ahead so you don't feel overwhelmed and alone that last weekend.

CarolineandDean

I don't think you're wrong to be pissed.  At the same time, I think its important to keep in mind this isn't your FI's fault (not that you make it seem that way, I just know from personal experience its sometimes easier to take out our frustrations on those closest to us).

Maybe just ask that he do everything he can to be extra helpful leading up to the wedding, so that way when you are on your own, it won't seem as daunting.

thale0924

I would be frustrated too!  It took work to get the GM to coordinate the bachelor party the same night as my bachelorette.   However, I agree with PPs make a list for the weekend before (have him accomplish stuff that he can do with out you while you're enjoying your bachelorette party!)

I was feeling overwhelmed and a lack of support from FI, until I realized if I want him to do something I need to spell it out.  Ever since he's had wonderful honey to do lists and it's worked out perfectly!

Cathryn4

THis just happened to me today too! FI's BM asked him what weekends he is available between now and the wedding, which is October 20th, we have a wedding that is a whole weekend thing its in Cape Cod, then another wedding and I work the other weekends so we have a very limited amount of weekends. It funny I just got frustrated about this whole thing, I am like you had sooo long to plan this and you wait until 4 weeks before to decide! WTH! I completely agree with you getting upset because I AM UPSET Too!!!! My advice and this is what I will do... is to ask my bridesmaids for some help if needed during that time!