so sad today

bnu220

!0 years ago today I lost my big brother in a devastating car accident. I have so many conflicting feelings right now. 17 days away from the best day of my life and I am so excited to marry my real life prince charming... but my heart is full of so much sadness right now. I would give anything for my fiance to have met him and for him to be sharing this day with us. And though I know he wil be there shining down on us with  his blessings.... today it is just hard to think about. I never knew one could experience such overwhelming joy and sorrow at the same time. Finding it hard to breath...

Ali092011

I am so, so sorry. I can't imagine losing a sibling. Hugs and prayers your way.

Is there anything of your brother's that you or your FI can carry or have with you on your wedding day? That might give you some comfort. My mom's best friend lost her daughter when her daughter was only 21, and her son's wife wrapped one of her daughter's bracelets around her bouquet on their wedding day. I am actually going to wrap her daughter's rosary around my bouquet so that she is "with us."

Lots and lots of hugs.

futuremrsjdmartin

I understand your pain sweetie. I wish there were words we could all say to make it better but there just aren't any. Know that your fiancee loves you and you are blessed. 

aro1589

big hugs!!  I lost my Grama in January of this year.  It's hurts knowing she won't be there on my big day.  She was so excited for my wedding.

Maybe try to honor your brother some way.  Maybe carry one of his possessions with you down the aisle?  or play his favorite song at the reception.  Just know he will be looking over you and FI on your special day. 

I actually teared up writing this.  this should be the happiest times of our lives, but it's so hard when the people who mean most to us can't be there. 

mmmendi

It is hard not to share monumental occasions with lost loved ones. I am sorry, it breaks my heart for you. FI lost a brother a few years ago, and he hasn't spoken of it through our planning. Reading your post reminds me how important it is for ME to be sensitive to him right now. I hope you have some suggestions for helping soothe the pain

rlr02

My dad passed 9 years ago and its still tough. I completely understand how you must be feeling. And especially lately, I've really been missing him.

I'm having a small patch sewn into the lining of my dress that will say "With me today and always, In memory of (insert name here).  Much like the photo below. It makes me feel like he is part of the wedding in a small way. Sending cheers and hugs your way! 

pennylg

Last weekend was the 5 year mark since my brother died, he passed just a few months before I met my FI. It was an emotional day for me too. It's hard to focus when you wish they were there with you but just keep telling yourself that he will be there with you in spirit and memory. He'll always be there as long as you keep on remembering him and how special he was to you.