Thursday Confessions

fishinflagrl

I hope I got today right, Confession day!!! haha

fishinflagrl

I confess that I have a lot going on in the next 2-3 weeks, and I am freaking out!!! I have way too much going on at one time and I hope everything works out in order. This also means that wedding planning is going to have to wait a while...which isnt good b/c there is just sooo much to do. Ahhhhhhh!!!!! Where is the pillow I can scream into?

lehc723

I confess that I'm fed up with FMIL and FSIL for taking over my bridal shower. They invited a whole bunch of FI's family friends, who I'm not particularly close with (some of them I literally am not sure who they are), because they're of the opinion that every woman who is invited to a wedding should be also invited to a shower. I'm shy and didn't even really feel totally comfortable with a shower to begin with, so now I'm a lot more anxious about it. Plus, despite protestations, I don't believe FMIL is doing it because these people want to be there to celebrate me-- they hardly know me! FMIL wants her friends there because she needs everything to be about her.

Gah. That felt good to get off my chest. I feel bad for whining because it's a shower and it's nice to have it at all and I should just be gracious, and I will be, but this all came out today and it's after other similar disagreements with FMIL so it has me peeved!

mana8503

I confess - I feel like I have wedding brain and that's all I can think about... all the things I have to do, buy, make... and I'm going crazy.  79 more days!

I confess - if my friend doesn't come to my wedding, we aren't friends anymore.  I was her MOH 3 years ago and did everything to make her wedding special.  We drifted apart, and I thought it was because I moved closer to work... but then I moved less that a mile from her apartment - and she still hasn't see the house.  I've been there 14 months now, and invited her countless times, but something better always popped up. When I sent the STDs in Feb she called in March to say it was her weekend to work, but she was going to *try* really hard to make it.  I just got a call Tuesday that she can't make the shower or wedding due to work, but wanted the details to see if she can come late to the wedding.  I haven't called back because my response will still be "don't bother".  7 months is enough time to work something out.  I'm only asking her to come to the wedding and she can't do that.  I think I'm over it.

I confess - I haven't been to the gym since May... I haven't ran since April... but I've kept the 10 lbs off I lost with the 17 day diet.  I think I'm going back on it after my first dress fitting lol.

xxjen015

I confess that I really regret asking one of my BM's to be a part of my bridal party. She's a college friend and we were really close and used to hang out all of the time. One of our friends got married a little of two years ago, I was the MOH and she was a BM and after the wedding and I graduated, this friend stopped calling or texting and made no effort to be a friend. Both my BM and I were frustrated, and now my BM is doing the same thing to me. She makes no effort to hang out or anything. I know she's busy, but I reach out all of the time, trying to make plans that are NWR, but she doesn't know anything anymore about what's going on with the wedding or my life and it's frustrating. I text her and we say we'll get together and I ask "oh, when will work best for you?" and she never responds at that point. It's frustrating because she says she doesn't have time, yet on facebook she's always uploading pictures of her going and hanging out with other friends that I don't know. ugh. 

mrshall1027

I confess that I am really sad and upset about my current relationship with my maid of honor.  Ever since she started dating her new boyfriend, I never hear from her.  She lost her phone about a month ago and still hasn't gone to get a new one, so I can't even call or text her.  All I can do is send her a FB message.  I sent her a really long one earlier today telling her that I feel like she's put me on the back burner and that I miss having her around.  I mentioned that my mom and my matron of honor have been trying to get a hold of her to talk about the bach party and shower and both of them are complaining about not being able to get in touch with her.  Up until about a month ago, I felt so lucky to have the best bridal party - no drama, no MIA people, no complaining.  Now it seems like the one person I thought I could rely on, isn't there at all.

I also just found out that FI's best man is planning the bachelor party and it will cost around $300/person!  I think that's too much and I am concerned that people won't be able to go.  There are several couples that will be invited to both our parties and a couple of them are also in the wedding.  So they have to pay for the bridesmaid dress, the suit rental, and both parties.  That's too much to ask and I didn't expect anyone to pay that much for anything related to our wedding.  I am afraid some people will not go because of the cost and I want the best man to come up with something a little more budget friendly.

tamrahelmer

I confess that I am thoroughly stressed out with things I still have to buy. Up until two weeks ago I was ahead of the game and now I am stressed with how many things I have to buy. I went to go buy the wheat for our centerpeices last week and my ring from a website last week, and they both didn't have them in stock. So that just adds to this stress!

NWR - I work every other week out of town during hte summer months from April-September usually. I am SO over this. It's too hard to leave FI and our little furbaby at home every other week for 6 days. However, I only have one year of school left and will hopefully not be doing this next summer!

lepoissonrouge

I confess that I am a bit embarrassed about FIs efforts to plan his own bachelor party, lol. He is dropping hints and pushing things on his Best Man a little bit, very innocently of course. I think he just thinks he should be doing it. And maybe I am just a little bit over sensitive because TK has made me that way... but je ne sais pas. I don't know.

I also confess that I am obviously brilliant becasue guess what I just realized... I did all of those invites last night and I didn't have FIs mom's family's guest list. Haha, I wondered why I didn't have as many as I thought I would. Only like twenty five short, but still.

cbear215

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[QUOTE]I<strong> confess that I'm fed up with FMIL and FSIL for taking over my bridal shower. They invited a whole bunch of FI's family friends, who I'm not particularly close with (some of them I literally am not sure who they are), because they're of the opinion that every woman who is invited to a wedding should be also invited to a shower. I'm shy and didn't even really feel totally comfortable with a shower to begin with, so now I'm a lot more anxious about it</strong>. Plus, despite protestations, I don't believe FMIL is doing it because these people want to be there to celebrate me-- they hardly know me! FMIL wants her friends there because she needs everything to be about her. Gah. That felt good to get off my chest. I feel bad for whining because it's a shower and it's nice to have it at all and I should just be gracious, and I will be, but this all came out today and it's after other similar disagreements with FMIL so it has me peeved!
Posted by lehc723[/QUOTE]

Wow, do we have the same FMIL?  My FI just told me this morning that FMIL told him he couldn't invite some people to the wedding that we were still on the fence about because they weren't invited to the shower.  Really??

I confess that I get nothing done at work because I want to be doing something related to our wedding at all times.  I'm trying so hard not to involve my friends in my craziness and I just want it to be over so I can start fuctioning/thinking rationally again.

ericaandtom2012

I confess that I am VERY annoyed with my FMIL trying to invite all these random people thatFI hasn't seen in 10-15 years and I've never met to our wedding.  All of her and her husband's cousins.  She claims they won't come (I don't believe that every single one will say no), but that they'll send a nice gift.  I think that's what annoys me most. 

Same for my shower.  She's inviting 4 of her cousins (who I have not met) who won't come but will still send a nice gift.  I hate how gift-grabby that makes me feel!  I also hate that there's the potential to be meeting people for the first time at the shower.  But, she's co-hosting the shower and she's given us a generous chunk of money for the wedding so I can't complain IRL.  

Shower confession: My sister/MOH has been calling me and asking for advice and opinion on shower details like invitations and favors since neither she, nor my mother have ever planned anything like this before.  I have happily given my suggestions because she needed my help (and cared about my opinion), knowing that I'm not supposed to be involved in the planning.  

jessiflower

I confess that I'm worried about FI (thats fiance right?)  I have a hard time with the abrev....he went to doctor yesterday and is having a mri on his knee next tuesday.  May have to have surgery...all because we went camping and he jumped off the rope swing and hurt his knee.  We have 94 days to go and a trip to Jamaica right after the wedding and now he may be looking at surgery!  I've gained about 10 lbs since trying purchasing my dress and am now afraid to try it on..... I can't seem to get my MOH (maid of honor?) to hang out and do wedding projects with me.  When I started making all the flowers out of paper (oragami flowers) I thought at some point when I mastered the flower making process that I would have help.  My FI kept telling me that anything we wanted done was going to have to be done ourselves and that ultimately we wouldn't be able to depend on anyone else and I'm starting to realize that....I'm just a really optomistic person and was hoping to see the best in all of my girlfriends....not so much...on the positive side...I told FI if he has to have surgery on his knee and be off work, then he will have time to make flowers!!!!  I do feel better....Cardio tomorrow  morning...that will help too

Oh...and no one has mentioned any kind of bridal shower or bach party....I expressed the desire to do a JACK AND JILL party because FI and I have been living together for almost 4 years....thinking that at some point there would be mention of any of these events, and I know theres still 3 months to the day left until the wedding.....I don't know...just seems like there would be more effort from our friends and family...

hllokttygirl

I confess that instead of losing the weight I was supposed to, I gained another 10 pounds. Now I am freaking out that I won't be able to get into my dress.

NRod70

I confess that I am ready to strangle my mother and my oldest sister is getting on my nerves.

I'm also nervous about paying the balance of the venue...all I see is big numbers.  lol.

Thank God FI keeps a level head and keeps me in check.

I feel better now. lol.

[Deleted User]

This is a lame confession but I confess I wish I knew if FIs BM was planning him a bachelor party. FIs friends are really spread out and it would be fun for all of them to get together again. Is it rude for me to suggest one be planned? FI has talked about ideas with some of the GM but I'm not sure anything is in the works.

ktelizabeth86

I confess that I had a wedding nightmare last night.

FI and I spent some time last night sealing and stamping invitations (we really did, that's not part of the nightmare). So last night I had a dream about going back to the post office and them telling me that my invitations wouldn't go through the machine and they would actually cost 54 cents to mail.

Obviously, USPS has caused me some serious stress lol (for those of you who remember my previous invitation/postage cost debacle.)

lepoissonrouge

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[QUOTE]I confess that instead of losing the weight I was supposed to, I gained another 10 pounds. Now I am freaking out that I won't be able to get into my dress.
Posted by hllokttygirl[/QUOTE]

I totally feel your pain on this one. I had a year to prep for this wedding and all I did was gain weight. Oops

Poppy101212

I have a few today.... is that alright?

I confess that I wish I would have never asked m sister to be my MOH. I made a strong emotional decision. She is the most useless MOH in history, not that I have asked her to really do anything except come in and get fitted for a dress and she dragged her feet on that, and then thre a fit because she didn't like the shoes that the rest of the girls have chosen. She showed up to my housewarming drunk, engagement party drunk, social drunk and the latest, she showed up to my bridal shower at my FMIL's place DRUNK!

I confess that I am so angry at my mother for basically abandoning me. It seems that she only has time for sister lately. I cannot even tell you the last time that she called me, yet my FMIL calls me every few days just to say hello and chat (I really appreciate it). I remember sitting on my mother's living room couch in my pajamas the morning after FI proposed, lovingly admiring my ring when my mother said "Oh I wish you sister were the one getting engaged".... yea thanks.

I confess that I have been subconciously (to him) trying to talk FI out of inviting some people because after four years of being with him I have no idea who they are.

I confess that right now I could also use a hug.


Wow that felt good. Thanks.

SharEtoBe

I confess that although I think the food will be amazing, I regret selecting the caterer we chose. He is an old friend of FI and isn't a traditional caterer but rather owns a restaurant (it's where we had our first date.) As owner and head chef of said restaurant, he's busy so he's not great with returning phone calls/emails. I had a dream last week that a week before our wedding, he backed out. I know he would never ever do this and everything will be wonderful but he has never done an event of this size and it's really freaking me out!

I confess that I eat, sleep and breathe wedding stuff and I'm super stressed about all the details still left to take care of ASAP. Also, I'm worrying about silly weird little details like, will guests eat cupcakes from the tower before we cut the cake?

I confess that my day today has totally and completely SUCKED! On top of my wedding stress, my boss is out of town so I have lots of extra work stress. Today was an especially rough day. I was just in tears just a few moments ago due to frustration and stress overload.
Ugh

goatlady12

I confess that I am a terrible person!  One of my bridesmaids has developed an eating disorder.  She never eats, compulsively exercises, and constantly talks about weight loss.  She looks grossly skinny, and the only reason I haven't talked to her about it is... she ordered her dress small and I don't want to deal with the drama!  OMG I feel like a monster for being so selfish!
Also, FMIL told me she had a 30% off coupon she was going to use on our registry, and the day it expired.  I peeked at my registry the day it expired and she bought almost half my registry!!  I was super excited!  To my defense she really shouldn't have tempted me to by telling me she was shopping that day!
I confess that I can't stand my job anymore!  I'm sending out my resume the second I get back from my honeymoon in Jamaica!

Ividian

I confess that I worry about my wedding cake. One of my best friends is a great cook and baker. When I was first engaged she said her wedding present to us was to make our cake free. Which is awesome, don't get me wrong. But for some reason I keep worrying that she just won't do it. I'm not sure why, she told me she's already got the two days before the wedding off so she can bake it at my house since she has a half-sized oven at her apartment, and the coordinator at my venue has her phone number and information so she can check in with her about it. I keep telling myself that I'm just being silly, but I can't stop thinking about it.

tamrahelmer

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[QUOTE] I confess that right now I could also use a hug. Wow that felt good. Thanks.
Posted by Poppy101212[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>**HUG** :)

</div>

tracey525

I confess that I've been completely freaking out way too eaisly about my wedding lately. We hit a few bumps this week with vendors either not responding, or taking too long (by my standards) to get back to me on questions. I'm not sorry about it, because it's an importnat day and we're paying THROUGH THE ROOF for their services. I'm just sorry that FI has to hear me complain/freak out about it.

Also, I've been focusing too much on the wedding when I'm at work.

snuff9861

I confess that I have had up to here *put hands over head* with Fi's inability to discuss options concerning our dog. The poor guy (the dog) is having seizures and this morning had one and banged his face off the metal bed rail. Busted it open. The dog is 3 and will be lucky to live to his 7th birthday (St Bernards and other giant breeds don't live long). FI is being really selfish and doesn't think about what's best for the dog.

pengy16

I've reached my breaking point with my bridesmaid and I dont even want her at my wedding anymore. She lives about 1 1/2 hours aways so we dont see each other as much but we try to get together at least once or twice a year. Shes a friend from college that I have stayed in contact with. (1) I went to her birthday party back in March and invited her to go to a pampering day with me and my MOH in mid April (they havent met so it was a get together for everyone to get to know each other). As I was getting ready to go a couple of hours before this, she calls me to tell me she cant make it because she got into a big fight with her boyfriend. I told her that was fine and we can get together some other time. (2) A few days before Memorial day my bridesmaid invites FI and I to hang out for Memorial day, when I ask her the night before to verify what time, she says 'oh thats been cancelled'. So if I hadnt asked and just went, I would have wasted an 1 1/2 hour drive to see her and she wouldnt have been there. (3) Around late april/early may I sent her info about bridesmaid dresses and she starts asking who all is invited to the wedding (its a small wedding mostly family), she was bummed to find out it wasnt going to turn into a college reunion for her. I know she wont know very many people so I told her she could bring her bf and another friend or family member if she wants. I never heard anything back from her about the wedding since. (4) the final straw was when she asked if FI and I wanted to go to the beach and share a place around early June. I tell her yes and asked when she wanted to go, she said either the first or second week of July, so I tell her the second week would probably be best but let me know the plan. Thinking that we are going, FI takes time off work only for me to never hear back from her again. Then on facebook the first week of July she posts pictures from the beach. I still havent heard anything back from her and my FI used a week of vacation to sit at home and do nothing because my bridesmaid flaked out on us. I understand she decided to go a different week but she could have said something, it was plain rude to not say anything and then post pictures online like she never asked us to go. 

Im pretty easygoing but after the beach incident I was ready to drop her as a friend as well as from the wedding. 

I havent sent out invites yet but Im contemplating if I should even send her an invite to the wedding and then hope she doesnt remember the wedding because Im pretty sure she will flake out of the day of the wedding which at this point I dont need the stress of worrying if she will be there or not, I rather just not have her there. Also because of all this I havent asked her if she got the dress (pretty sure she hasnt since she didnt say anything since I sent her the info about the dress a few months ago) or talked to her about the wedding.

jessiflower

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[QUOTE]I confess that I am a terrible person!  One of my bridesmaids has developed an eating disorder.  She never eats, compulsively exercises, and constantly talks about weight loss.  She looks grossly skinny, and the only reason I haven't talked to her about it is... she ordered her dress small and I don't want to deal with the drama!  OMG I feel like a monster for being so selfish! Also, FMIL told me she had a 30% off coupon she was going to use on our registry, and the day it expired.  I peeked at my registry the day it expired and she bought almost half my registry!!  I was super excited!  To my defense she really shouldn't have tempted me to by telling me she was shopping that day! I confess that I can't stand my job anymore!  I'm sending out my resume the second I get back from my honeymoon in Jamaica!
Posted by Seipel12[/QUOTE]


Where are you going in Jamaica?  We are leaving on 10-26-12 (day after wedding) to go to Sandals Whitehouse!!!!!

kimm260

I confess that I had been very worried about one of my BMs ordering her dress.  My MOH and my other BM ordered theres months ago and this one had me really worried.  I sent her a few texts about it and felt really bad about it, even offered to pay for her dress. I was worried that she wouldn't get it in time and wouldn't be able to be in the wedding. But she sent me a message yesterday that she had finally got it!

I confess that I am upset at my sister/MOH for not doing more to help my mom plan the shower.  She asked me to send her the addresses of people to invite and then she sent them to my mom to do the invitations.  She always makes the excuse that she has 3 kids and that is why she can't help with things.  I just don't want my mom to have to plan and pay for the shower all by herself. 

I confess that I am making $80 less a month in unemployment than I did last summer and am worried about paying for bills AND paying off wedding expenses.  

goatlady12

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Thursday Confessions : Where are you going in Jamaica?  We are leaving on 10-26-12 (day after wedding) to go to Sandals Whitehouse!!!!!
Posted by jessiflower[/QUOTE]

We're going to Club Ambiance in Runaway Bay!  I'm so excited!  But we're doing plenty of excursions away from the resort.  What about you?

BMBrinson

I confess that I am very nervous to start my very first nurisng job on Monday. And that I can't wait to finally have a pay check to help FI with the wedding. There are so many little things I could just take care of! I am nervous for my shower next weekend, fo rmy mom and BFF I hope it goes off great and a lot of people come! 

LDubHawksFan

I'm really overwhelmed with the wedding stuff and it's always on my mind.

I am made at my boss for throwing a task on my desk to "squeeze" in tomorrow before a meeting, that since got canceled but he said he didn't want to do it anyway and is out tomorrow.  Can't wait to be gone for a month in Oct/Nov!!

My hair is driving me nuts!  I usually have it chin length but am growing it out.  It's just past my shoulders, but it's been hot as hell and I'm not used to it always on my neck.  Plus it's a lot of full hair, so most mornings I don't take the time to straighten it and it becomes rather fro-ish by lunch!

SomethingBeautiful08

I confess that I'm worried about... well everything, that people will think the ceramony I'm writing will be silly... that the reception isn't "formal" enough... that it just won't come together. I'm trying to take things one at a time and FH has been wonderful, but there is so much that is still so up in the air.

NWR - I confess that my appartment is a disaster area... I haven't done dishes in three days and my living room has my invite stuff, dishes and everything else on the floor. I confess that it is not just because I've been sick, but more just lazy and realizing that since I'm the only one that has to deal with it, since I live alone. 

violakat03

It's not quite Thursday anymore, but here are my confessions.

I'm annoyed with one of my BMs right now. Every time I send out a FB message to my BMs to ask about the dresses, her reply is always "well, things are a little tight right now." Two weeks ago, her family took a trip to Hershey. In a few weeks, they're going to New York. If things are so tight, how are they doing all this traveling? Maybe I'm just being selfish, but if someone asked you to be in their wedding almost a year ago, wouldn't you make it a little bit of a priority to buy the dress? I'm even more worried about her husband, because he's one of our GMs. Who knows if he'll have a tux to wear or not!

Only one of my five BMs has their dress. The others have valid excuses - two of them lost their jobs in the past two months, and one is going in for major surgery next week and is still fighting to get disability.

Speaking of said BM, I'm beyond worried about her right now. She's only 27 and is having to have a pacemaker put in. She had a stroke during the delivery of her second child last year which left her with no feeling to her extremeties on the left side of her body and is having a lot of problems with her heart. Her heartrate is dropping dangerously low as she sleeps. I just want to see her get better and be able to be the amazing mom that she is for her two girls. Her oldest daughter is our FG.

As far as FI and I, I'm terrified we aren't going to be able to pay for everything. We just moved to another state, and it cost a lot more than we had really budgeted. We weren't expecting the deposits for utlities to be as high as they were, or to have to buy some of the new furniture we had to get. Before we moved, we had various family members promise things to us (like a box spring and mattress, dining room table and chairs, dishes, pots and pans, stuff like that) that we found out as we were moving were either broken or missing. I've also discovered that my ex-husband took a lot of the household items I thought I had (mostly kitchen stuff). So we've had to buy a lot of new stuff that we weren't planning on.

Added to that, I ended up out of work for four weeks. I stress fractured my foot at work at the end of May and I wasn't able to get extra shifts after that because I was so limited on what positions I could work while on crutches. At my old job, you could only pick up someone's shift if you were able to work their position, and since there was only one position in the park I was allowed to work, I couldn't get any extra hours and was only scheduled 20-25 a week. Mid-June, I took a week-long vacation I'd been planning for over a year. The following week was my last week at my old job because I was moving, and they decided not to schedule me at all. Then I wasn't able to get hired at my new job until after I was off restrictions, so that was another 2 1/2 weeks. Tomorrow I'm going to get my first paycheck in over a month.

In the mean time, we had to delve into our wedding savings in order to cover expenses, and now I'm very much worried about paying for everything. We're having to cut some things out that are very disappointing (it looks like I'm not getting my dream of a horse-drawn carriage), and DIYing even more things. Luckily most of the major stuff was already paid for before this whole fiasco began, like the venue, the airline tickets for the honeymoon, my dress and the rings.

So, there's my vent. There will be more in the future!