Thank You cards to everyone?

magpie721

Hi all,

Did anyone not receive wedding gifts from all of their guests?  I'm wondering if we are still expected to send thank you cards to those who did not get us anything.  Do we thank them just for coming?  There is a specific guest I'm a bit upset with, and his not giving a gift just added insult to injury.  (He added a female friend's name to his RSVP card despite her not being invited.  We didn't even know of her existence when we sent the invitations.  But we kept our mouths shut and let her attend.)  He gave a card but nothing else... 

Thoughts?

annanoel21

I still haven't sent my thank you cards yet but I only wrote cards to those who came and brought a gift. Whether the gift was off the registry or money. No one just came and had just a card.

mmmendi

Only to those whom brought a gift of some type (including cash). We had about 50 guests, I sent out 9 thank you cards

nataliet02

I believe etiquette states you still send them a thank you card even if they didn't give you a gift. All depends if you follow wedding etiquette.

annanoel21

In Response to Re:Thank You cards to everyone?:I believe etiquette states you still send them a thank you card even if they didn't give you a gift. All depends if you follow wedding etiquette. Posted by nataliet02 To me sending thank yous to people who came but didn't bring a gift is about like sending thank yous to everyone you invited that didn't come and that didn't get you a gift.

DanaOcNy

You should still send a thank you card to your guests who came regardless if they gave a gift or not.  Gifts are not required and they still took time out of there lives to share the day with you.  A "thank you" for coming would be a good idea.

AlanCWalden

I think You should send a thank you card to your guests who came!

photochick2013

How are you keeping up with who just came? What if they didn't sign the guestbook. So many rules! LOL

jlk13

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_thank-you-cards-to-everyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:9fd4ee08-a87c-4667-bd72-4b9d4bfbf67cPost:f59d9db5-0775-43aa-bdd7-588c09f6432f">Re: Thank You cards to everyone?</a>:
[QUOTE]I believe etiquette states you still send them a thank you card even if they didn't give you a gift. All depends if you follow wedding etiquette.
Posted by nataliet02[/QUOTE]

It's just as tacky to not thank a guest for coming as it is to not give a gift. Also, people have up to a year to give you a wedding gift. (I think a year is excesive but lots of people follow this guideline.)

jlk13

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_thank-you-cards-to-everyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:9fd4ee08-a87c-4667-bd72-4b9d4bfbf67cPost:be262938-ff8d-4453-8056-52f3efa5b469">Re:Thank You cards to everyone?</a>:
[QUOTE] To me sending thank yous to people who came but didn't bring a gift is about like sending thank yous to everyone you invited that didn't come and that didn't get you a gift.
Posted by annanoel21[/QUOTE]

HOW RUDE! Your guests may have travelled a long distance, rented a hotel room, and gave an entire day to celebrate you and your new marriage. Are you serious?! Quit being lazy and write your thank yous.

You ALWAYS write a thank you to those that attend regardless if they gave a gift! This is not a backyard BBQ!!!

magpie721

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_thank-you-cards-to-everyone?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:9fd4ee08-a87c-4667-bd72-4b9d4bfbf67cPost:728ac2b3-6c49-42fd-8ee3-d93eddb73235">Re:Thank You cards to everyone?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Thank You cards to everyone? : HOW RUDE! Your guests may have travelled a long distance, rented a hotel room, and gave an entire day to celebrate you and your new marriage. Are you serious?! Quit being lazy and write your thank yous. You ALWAYS write a thank you to those that attend regardless if they gave a gift! This is not a backyard BBQ!!!
Posted by jlk13[/QUOTE]

Yikes.  I was simply asking an honest question.  I've seen varying opinions on this topic, from a myriad of wedding "experts," so I just thought I'd ask a few fellow brides. 

And with respect to the specific guest in question (who I referenced in my original post), he lives just a half hour away and did not get a hotel room.  So he did not spend more than about, what, $5-10 on gas?  I'm not trying to make it about money, but I just feel a bit slighted, seeing as that he wrote in an uninvited guest on his RSVP card.  And based on their behavior at the reception, it seemed as if they were only there to take advantage of our open bar by getting drunk.  I was gracious to them at the reception, thanking them for coming...  I was just wondering if I had to extend myself further by thanking them with a card.  I feel they were the ones who were rude. 

BrittneyRN

You do not send a thank you card to those who didn't bring a gift. Keep in mind though that a gift is NOT required. The reception is your tahnk you to them for attending. The thank you card is for their gift.