October 2012 Weddings

Disappointed

I was at my college friend's wedding yesterday, which I flew half way across the country for. While there he broke the news to me that they "probably" wouldn't be able to come to my wedding because they have 2 more before in oct. I was shocked because it wasn't due to lack of funds. It made me sad because they are choosing to go to others instead. I shed a tear privately, then went out to dance celebrate, but I'm heartbroken that now two of my good college friends aren't coming, even though I've flown to every wedding. I guess it sucks being the last to get married....

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  • I understand, I'm in the same boat, but with family members instead of friends. They all went to my cousin's wedding earlier in the year, but none of them will be attending mine. It is very difficult to step back and not take it personally. I've been telling myself just to appriciate the people who do make it all the more.
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  • I'm in the same boat on two counts!  A really good friend from HS may not be able to come because he is starting a new job in Oct around the same time as the wedding and doesn't think he can make the flight from Texas to Chi.

    Also, one of my groomsmen is doing his rotations for med school and is choosing to use his one request off for his cousins wedding in the same month.  (Although it IS his cousin, it's not a close cousin and he is one of FI's BEST FRIENDS/one of my best friends too...and in our bridal party!)

    SUUUUUUCK.
  • Same thing has happened to me.  The whole wedding experience has been very character-revealing for many people in my life...
  • I had same type of disappointment when we were planning the wedding the first time around. I agree with PP. Weddings seem to bring out the worst. 
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  • LDubHawksFanLDubHawksFan member
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    Yeah, I guess I would have understood more if a) it was because they just had their wedding & I understand how expensive they are, and b) if they weren't having to travel for the other weddings too.  The fact of the matter is they are traveling to other states for the other weddings too.  I'm sure he thought that telling me in person would be better, but really hearing that your wedding is getting snubbed over two others, after jetting to theirs did not make me feel better (it probably didn't help that I had a few beers before that too!  haha)

    Ultimately, I will get over it, but I've been feeling a little down about it all.  I'm happy one friend is coming, and I understand the other can't because they are due a few weeks before.  I guess it just hit me hard when we were reminiscing about all of their weddings before and I realized that mine is the only one everyone won't be at.  I am blessed, though, for all the family and my wedding party that are coming all the way out for it.  It will be a great day regardless.

    ETA: clarifying about the other weddings.

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  • I feel ya! My family asked me to send save-the-dates and hotel information (as in local hotels they can call when it gets closer) a year in advance, so I did. 4 months until the wedding I emailed/called everyone and told them that hotels were filling up fast bc there is a local collage homecoming weekend, and it's a holiday weekend and it's prime leaf peeping season. That's when they all said that they couldn't come because they don't have the money. It was heartbreaking because I tried to get them prepared, since they asked me to, then all said no. Oh well. What can you do?!
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