bridal shower ?

PattySmith101

is your shower going to be a suprise or do you know when it is?

how long before the wedding are showers usually held?

who gets invited? every female on your guest list? or just the ones your closest too?


reason for these questions... i will know when my shower is because my 1 bm lives in fl so i will know when she is coming up! and i will more than likely have to take off from work since the shower will be on a weekend! my sister is asking for a guest list... they were planning on having it in june but now it looks like it will be september...< which seems close to the wedding but also a good thing less time to have to figure out where to store things lol />

SteveAndSara2005

Most showers I've been to were a month or 2 before the wedding. Mine is Aug 4th so pretty much exactly 2 months before. My SIL was about 3 months prior to the wedding. Since your wedding is at the end of October early September would be normal I think.  

Also I don't think there is a guideline on who to invite. I would say invite your closest friends and family, not necessarily every female on your Guest List. I'm having about 45 people... the place we're having it at requires that many. If it were up to me though, I probably wouldn't invite my mom/MIL's friends & coworkers. 

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f you're having concerns about the time frame talk to your BM's, it is your wedding  Hope that helps!   Good luck!

huskerfan246

My MOH is throwing a bridal shower for me, she told me the basics but said how its going to go is a surprise for me.  I gave her a list of people I chose off my guestlist to invite but didn't put all the females on there, simply because alot of them are either out of state or live out of town on the opposite side of the state and pretty sure they won't make it.  She scheduled mine for 6 weeks before the weddding date.

rbehm521

My FMIL and my mom are planning a shower for me but I know about it.  I have a rough idea of what they're planning but not specifics.  It's going to be August 12th.  I think they're inviting 20-30 people, (some of whom I don't know very well but whatever).  I don't have a lot of female friends and I'm an only child, so it's going to be a lot of my fiance's family members/his mom's boyfriend's family.  I didn't even really want a shower but I know my FMIL wants to throw me one so I couldn't say no. I left it up to them who to invite, but it's going to be mostly the women I'm closest with, other than a few. 

Cathryn4

My sister who is my MOH is throwing mine, and I think my mom is helping her.... its funny you posed this.. because my sister asked me for my guest list for the bridal shower tonight. I am inviting all the females that are invited to the wedding. It is about 55 people. I do not really want to know when it will be but my sister convinced me that I am going to want to be prepared and get ready etc. So I think eventually she will tell me the date... I am thinking it will be around June, we have a bunch of summer weddings so thats why I am thinking it will be around then. My sister also informed me that she is thinking of doing my bachelorette party in september because I want it to be beachy and she said thats what she is thinking. 

 You def. do not have to invite all the women of the wedding. 

CFM102012

I know my shower is going to be sometime in August, but that's about it.  My BM that offered to host it can't really work on it much until after her SIL's wedding which is in either June or early July (I don't remember).  It'll be mostly family and other women I'm close to. Plus my one cousin will have just had her baby so if she can come I'll get to meet him.

P.S. Jonesma, your shower is on my birthday!

jonesma204

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_bridal-shower-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:a735097f-6b71-4ca8-b4b5-ac98f6800271Post:c2b61506-0d76-44e7-b59b-93358b9b3b5c">Re: bridal shower ?</a>:
[QUOTE]I know my shower is going to be sometime in August, but that's about it.  My BM that offered to host it can't really work on it much until after her SIL's wedding which is in either June or early July (I don't remember).  It'll be mostly family and other women I'm close to. Plus my one cousin will have just had her baby so if she can come I'll get to meet him.<strong> </strong><div><strong>
</strong></div><div><strong>P.S. Jonesma, your shower is on my birthday!</strong>
Posted by CFM102012[/QUOTE]</div><div>
</div><div>Very cool :)

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PetalPockets2012

My FMIL wants to have a shower up north for the families up there. It will probably be in late summer since it is easier for me to travel then. My MOH is also going to throw a shower locally in probably August or September.

brainybrunette

My shower is not a surprise.  I live 3 hours away from my hometown (where the shower would be), so there's no way to make it a surprise LOL.  I've never been to a shower where the bride has been surprised.  Not much has been planned so far, but my mom is taking the lead on planning it.  My bridesmaids are al students (grad school, college, and high school) so they can't afford to host a shower for me.  FI's mom and aunts are also helping out my mom.  I'm not involved in the planning (I don't think a bride should be), but I'll probably know most of the details.

I think the shower will be in the beginning of August.  One of my bridesmaids goes back to college at the end of August, so we want to have it before then.  Also, beginning of August works for most people.  That'll be about 2 months before the wedding.

All of the female wedding guests are not invited to the shower.  I know my mom's not invited people who live out of town that she knows couldn't make it to the shower.  We both think that it seems gift-grabby to invite someone who you know couldn't make it.  I think the shower guest count will probably be around 40-50 people.