Just an update, I finally reached a resolution with the wholesale website. They were really pushing for a partial refund & me keeping the dresses since they could get caught in customs. I finally got them up to refunding just shy of what my full refund, minus the $65 shipping cost would have been. So I will either be trying to sell the dresses for dirt cheap to help another bride (maybe...) or Goodwill will be getting three dresses.
And my girls have pretty much agreed on a dress at David's Bridal. So basically this whole fiasco cost me about a month's time in wedding productivity, about $80 of my own money, but I'm just so happy for it to be behind us!! Now on to the rest of my multi-page to-do list.....