So way back when we were looking at invitations and wordings I asked FMIL (and kind of FSIL) what they thought. FI's father passed away several years ago. The wording we had (and went with) was that my parent's were inviting (they're hosting) guests to the wedding of me to FI "son of FI's mom and late father". When I asked FMIL she said she would prefer either including her late husband or having no parents names at all. My parents said they'd prefer having their names included on the invitation, hence we included FI's late father.
FSIL just txted me asking why her father's name was on the invitation and why ask their opinion if "I was just going to do what I wanted". I checked with FI several times on if he was okay with the invitations and he said yes. According to FSIL I'm supposed to leave their dad completely out of the wedding. I've asked FI what he wants EVERY f-ing step of the way, especially concerning his dad. She wasn't the only one to lose her father. According to her though, if he doesn't have an opinion he's supposed to check with his family. She's acting like I'm a bridezilla (something I've tried VERY hard NOT to be) and that the whole wedding is about me. It's not all about me, it's just not all about her.
FI is at work for all this so I've been C&Ping the whole convo into a txt with him. I'm shaking I'm so pissed off. Oh and can I add...IT's my F-ING BIRTHDAY