Another bride with bridesmaid problems

julzy

Today marked the two month mark until my wedding and one of my bridesmaids has still not ordered her dress! 

I've contacted her numerous times about it (gently), so has my MOH and mother.  I know money isn't the issue.  I'm not sure what the problem is and at this point I'm not sure what to do. She's been unresponsive about everything wedding related.

How long do I wait before I have to pull the plug on this? She needs to go, get the dress ordered, wait for it to arrive and she'll likely need alterations. 

Ugh, why say yes to being a bridesmaid and then act like this?

AEPerpete

I think the best you can do is wait and see. She has been reminded numerous times by numerous people now, so it's on her. Whether she gets a dress, and stands up with you or not is on her, not you. If she doesn't, looks like she won't be standing up there with you, and you can deal with that as it comes, but luckily it wont make or break your wedding.
Hopefully she gets it soon, so you dont have to worry about it anymore, but I really don't think there is much more you can do.

annanoel21

I've been there. I had to keep on at her til she finally did order it. I hated to seem like I was hounding them but I couldn't wait any longer for them to decide if they were going to get it or not. I set a deadline and told them that was it, if they didn't have it ordered by then they would not be in the wedding. They told us it would take around 10 weeks to get the dresses back.

julzy

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_another-bride-with-a-bridesmaid-problems?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:b73dc0e7-09a3-413b-b81e-17e23168359aPost:c1559735-e2fd-428d-8c55-7032b8563f72">Re:Another bride with bridesmaid problems</a>:
[QUOTE]I've been there. I had to keep on at her til she finally did order it. I hated to seem like I was hounding them but I couldn't wait any longer for them to decide if they were going to get it or not. <strong>I set a deadline and told them that was it</strong>, if they didn't have it ordered by then they would not be in the wedding. They told us it would take around 10 weeks to get the dresses back.
Posted by annanoel21[/QUOTE]

I think this is what I'm going to have to do, set a deadline and be done with it. I'm working on bridesmaid gifts and I'm not going to spend all of this money to have her not get the dress. It's really insulting at this point. I think the deadline will have to be another week or two tops. We're two months away! It's unacceptable. Ugh

annanoel21

You are right! It is unacceptable! I wouldn't wait too long to set a deadline. I would call where you want to get the dress to see how long it will take the dress to get in... then I would set the deadline. I don't understand why they accept being in the wp when they act like this. Good luck! In the end it will all work out :

RockstarWifey0912

If money isn't an issue, there is no reason to wait!  Blah.  I've been hounding my groomsmen to get fitted for their tuxes and finally sent the mass text- they have to be fitted by September 21 or we can't get their tuxes.  We are paying out of pocket for their tuxes too so I will seriously be pissed if they dont get fitted.

Good luck!!!  I hope she comes around

[Deleted User]

Call the store and get the absolute last day they will allow you to order the dress (plus find out rush shipping charge) to get it by your wedding date.  If she does not order with this information, she has removed herself from the wedding party.  I did this with our flower girl and the dress was ordered almost immediately.

schnugglebug

Oh I hear you my bridesmaid has her dress she hasn't brought it to the seamstress yet and there are MANY things that need to be fixed (she picked the dress)
it needs to be shortened or she will trip on it, and her boobs are practically hanging out so it needs to be sewn up in the front a bit... not a lot of work... but she keeps putting it off... and posting when I put the days on FB like 40 days left OH I have to get to the seamstress well YES! finally I replied (on FB) yes Hopefully you get to one soon, or your dress won't be ready and you won't be able to be a part of our big day, and that would make us sad

she got the point, dress went in yesterday lol

shoebie

Shes an adult, if she doesn't get it she doesn't stand there with you the day of..... You have gone above and beyond to remind her.

violakat03

I had to put down a deadline for my bridesmaids too. David's flat out won't order them after a certain date. I set the "must order" deadline as a week before that, just in case. Guess what? Every last one of them ordered it by the deadline! Except for the one that, when I sent out this deadline text, decided to drop out of the wedding completely. That's an entirely different story though.

julzy

I'm so upset.  So I called David's Bridal and essentially, if she ordered the dress today there's a chance it wouldn't come in until October 23rd and that's without alterations.

I just emailed her as nicely as I could be but also forcifully enough and basically said, if she doesn't order the dress in the next week then this isn't going to work out.  I want her by my side when I get married, but it has to be in the dress I picked out.

I already bought a few thank you gifts although haven't bought the bigger gift yet.  So annoying. Hopefully she comes through...