BM might have to drop out

hllokttygirl

A little backstory here: I have a very small BP. My MOH and one BM. My BM is married to FI's Best man, who just basically told her he wants a divorce. Of course, she is devasted and does not know if she can go through with being in the wedding. Totally understandable and I told her to do what is right for her. My day is only one day and she means more to me than that. I am just hoping at this point that she even shows up as a guest. She is awesome and will really be missed if can't come at all.
Question is though..do I try to replace her if she does back out? I feel weird just having a MOH while FI has 3 people on his side.

TheSlowskys

No you shouldn't. It's rude to her and the replacements. Uneven sides are fine.

hllokttygirl

Yeah, that's what I thought. I am just shocked by the suddenness of the split, so my rational thinking isn't there.

BrittneyRN

I agree with PP. Definitely fo not replace her. Uneven sides are fine! Mine will be uneven too.

BrittneyRN

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_bm-might-have-to-drop-out?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:bbc7fd38-54f7-4bd5-9dc9-c25170c133e7Post:eb3827ca-0414-43f6-bc94-51f85b97574e">Re:BM might have to drop out</a>:
[QUOTE]No you shouldn't. It's rude to her and the replacements. Uneven sides are fine.
Posted by TheSlowskys[/QUOTE]



I like you. I agree with a lot of your posts.

ericaandtom2012

Give her some time and don't pressure her about making a decision; just be there for your friend.  There's still a couple months and she might be in a better place by then.  By no means should you replace her. 

shoebie

Absolutly not.  You are 2 months and 2 weeks from your wedding, asking someone to fill in at this point or any point would be just plain rude not to mention a financial burden to them.

LDubHawksFan

Definitely don't replace her.  It's too late not to hurt feelings and uneven sides are totally fine.  Plus maybe she will remain in the WP with some time.