So I contacted my bridesmaid today to ask if she has ordered her dress yet (its from targets bridesmaids collection so it can be ordered last minute), she tells me she can no longer be a bridesmaid or even come to the wedding. She said it was a relative who was sick, but I get the feeling its just an excuse because she doesnt want to do it. She has been super flaky since I told her it wasnt going to be a college reunion for her. I asked her back in March, told her about the dress in May at which time she asked who all was coming from college and i told her it was a small mostly family wedding, then she dropped off the face of the earth til August when she got the wedding invite. She returned the rsvp then asked what her bf should wear but ignored me telling her about the prewedding parties the MOH was planning, also she asked for the dress info again which I gave her. I know she doesnt have to go but she could at least let someone know she cant make it. Instead my MOH tried to contact her and she wouldnt answser so she had me contact her to tell her to contact the MOH since she was planning the parties and that she wanted to know if she can make it or if there is a weekend that would work for her. She finally contacts her and gives MOH her phone # but when MOH tried to contact her she didnt answer and never called MOH back.
I think she should have said something sooner, not wait til I contacted her 2 weeks before about her dress. what if I didnt contact her til the day of waiting for her to show up? She would have probably just not shown up, which I think she was just planning on doing instead of telling me.