heartbreak from my MOH

RockstarWifey0912

My MOH and my photographer have been together for 13 years. They have had their problems, but 3 kids and a house later they're together all but legally married. They call each other husband and wife, the whole nine yards.

Last night was a blow out. Now she's being told, pack up and get out. I have no clue what's going, what happened, any of it. I am more concerned about her, the kids, and where they're gonna go than I am about any of the last minute wedding junk.

That all being said... I am friends with Him because of Her. This girl is my sister from another mister, my bestie, my freaking rock. He and I get along but if I had to choose sides, I pick her. I'm not sure how to go about discussing the wedding with either of them starting the 22nd, there are things she and I have to get done, and I have to sit down and discuss things photography wise with him.

So what do I do? I don't want to come off as selfish when she's hurting. And if its going to be an issue for them to see each other at the wedding, I can find another photographer... its all just crazy right now.

I'm so broken up for her...

achiduck

Giver her a few days and then tell her that unfortunately you have to ask, but what does she think about her ex handling the photography, etc?

I would IMMEDIATELY start calling around and getting quotes from other photographers that might be available for your date just in case. I think b/c you're getting married on a Friday you'll have better luck then if it was a Saturday.

RockstarWifey0912

I have 2 other friends who are photographers as back up. They are both talented and affordable.. I just prefer His work over theirs. Its not even a 'friend' thing, I honestly love his work. So.... yeah. I hate not knowing.

aro1589

terrible situation.  hopefully your friend will understand why you would want to keep him on as the photog.  it would be selfish of her to ask you to find another photog so close to the date.

good luck and keep up posted!

achiduck

Awesome that you have backups in line already.

I also hate not knowing. It's so frustrating. Hopefully you'll be able to talk to her in a few days.

AEPerpete

It's good that you have back ups ready for the photography. Since yo0u don't know all the details though, it is possibly that this is not permanent. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.