Way behind and now stressing

bridgetdejong

I'm super behind and now I keep having wedding nightmares that nothing is done or decorated.  We don't have flowers, limo, hotels, STD or invites purchased or booked.  I'm kind of freaking out.

Suggstions on how to divide and concoqure? I have designiated this weekend as wedding planning weekend but I need to know where to start to figure out what NEEDS to be done and what I can put off a little while longer.

Thanks!

kml21636

Don't feel bad! I am just starting out too! We planned before but unfortunate times made us wait...and I just can't get myself motivated! I am going to tackle some stuff today hopefully. Try to get the big and most important stuff first! Do not stress the limo, worry about your venues and dress first. The little things will fall in place. Best of luck and don't stress yourself!

kml21636

Also some brides can plan at a faster pace than others. Relax and do a little at a time! :

ktelizabeth86

Out of those things I would say STDs and flowers would probably need to be taken care of first.

I understand feeling stressed, but it will all fall in to place. Make a list and check things off. It's amazing how good it feels to check things off a list!

Good luck. 

achiduck

Do you really need STDs? They're no common in my area at all so we skipped them entirely. I've been to over 10 weddings and have never once received an STD, it's not a big deal.

I would tackle flowers first - deping on your budget this can cover some of your decor and/or centerpieces as well.

Reserving a hotel block took me all of an hour to call some hotels, and then review the contact they sent over, sign and send back.

I would try and take care of the limo asap though -those tend to book quickly. Maybe this is something your FI could do?

Try to focus on doing one or two of these each week and it won't seem so overwhelming.

minionlover

I don't think that you are way behind.  As I have said to many who have posted about being behind....we don't even have a venue yet.

I don't think that you NEED to send out STDs to be honest.  I would jump on to flowers and hotels first.

Just relax and everything will come together.

pockysquirrel

Ditto achiduck and Cathy, STDs are totally optional and there's not too much point in sending them out less than six months before the wedding anyway, so save yourself the stress and skip 'em. Breathe! You will get it all done if you stay calm and don't let yourself get overwhelmed.

Ividian

I didn't send out STD's and just ordered my invitations today. As PP said, flowers would be a good start, as would a venue. Good luck!

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See I feel like I'm going too fast and need to slow down a bit. We are just getting going now with 6 months left and there are some things that I think I need to wait on. So I guess what I'm saying is you are fine and things will work out. I have a friend who is getting married 2 months from now and she just went for a  cake tasting today!

getintheboxx

I'm right there with you!!  I feel like we have so much to do.  I am also having wedding nightmares and I have been noticing that I've been either ending the day with hives or waking up with them...ugh

I made a list and I'm just going to make a point to start knocking things off every week based on the importance of what needs to get done.

Good luck and use the boards...they are very helpful!!

EmilyD87

I would say the first thing to do is relax! I was super stressed about a month ago because I thought I was SO far behind. It turns out I was actually ahead of schedule for the area we are geting married. I got the venue, photographer and caterer I wanted and very few places I talked to were booked yet. Figure out how competitive your wedding market is and then look at the To-Do list timelines. I took timelines from a couple sources to get general recommendations. Make your own timeline based on you, your FI, the competitiveness of your local wedding market, your schedule and your sanity. Oh and be realistic. While some contracts can be quick, others aren't going to be done in one weekend.

STD's are optional but if you have a lot of out-of-town guests, they are highly recommended. About 75% of my guests are flying cross-country so I want to give them as much heads up as possible. Most already know but a physical reminder is kinda nice. I'm not even gonna worry about invitations yet since they won't be sent for a few more months.

Also, if you can find room in your budget, a wedding coordinator is a great idea. They can have really great vendor reccomendations and often have deals worked out with other vendors. I'm doing most of my planning but my wedding coordinator is just making sure everything comes together. She also keeps me within my tight budget