Alright, I am going to break down and get some outside opinions on this, and it is also pretty personal and embarrassing, so it’s hard. My sister and I have NEVER gotten along. We are 4 years apart, me being the oldest, and we just were in different phases of life all the time. Since she was 12 or 13 she has been in and out of trouble with drugs. This has gone on for over 9 years now. When I say trouble I mean juvey, drug/alcohol abuse places, rehab, and real jail recently. She moved away for a year and came back about 6 months ago. She was doing really well and I know it would mean everything to my mom that she is my MOH…so I made her my MOH, which was huge for me, but with the contingency that she not do drugs again or I would kick her out. I didn’t want her in my wedding at all, but wanted to try and not regret it later in life if we ever became close. So, she was clean for about 2.5 months, and then got back into the hardcore drugs again. I told her she was no longer my MOH when she was arrested for drugs. She got back on them again, went to jail again, and continued staying on them until just recently when I started looking at BM dresses and told her that she is not invited. She is now in a rehab place, which is a voluntary place…but she was told by my parents she would be kicked out if she didn’t go. So, she is there willingly…but unwillingly really. My mom basically told me if she is not my MOH she will not come to my wedding. My fiancé wants nothing to do with her, my friends can’t stand her. My best friend, and BM, asked her about the bachelorette party and it was things that my sister wanted to do nothing I would like to do. She can’t afford to even help pay for her dress, the bridal shower, or the bachelorette party…anything, she has no job. I feel this is all about her having the “glory” of saying she was my MOH, not that she really cares or wants to support me. What do I do? Do I have her in the wedding with another contingency she stays clean or kick her out? I figured this would be my last attempt, but I have said this over 5 times now..this is the last time, no this is the last time, okay...one more time. So I know she isnt going to take me seriously, b/c she know I will cave again to please my mom. I talked to her counselor and he isnt very hopeful for her. Sad, huh? I was going to tell her that she had to get a job and pay for her dress herself and the next time she gets high..ON ANYTHING...she is out. I know etiquette says you can’t do that…but I am not having her high at any of my parties and especially not at my wedding embarrassing me. Yes, this is something she would do. HELP!
