So now I'm in a panic...

NRod70

I was talking to my sister this evening and she said, "did you send an invitation to mr. X".  I said yes, of course.  She asked if they were mailed the same time as the others.  I said yes, why??  She was talking to her mother-in-law who was talking to mr. X... mom-in-law asked him,  "are you coming down (from MA to NJ) for the wedding?".  He said "I don't know, I never got an invitation".

Long story even longer...I am now in a panic that other people didn't revieve their invitation!!!  I did get a handful of reponses back and a few people have let me know the recevied it, they're just waiting back for approval for time off from work.  But there's still alot of rsvp's that are m.i.a.!!  

I suppose I just need to wait until the response date for me to start contacting people, right?? Now I'm not going to be able to sleep tonight!!

marisolgarcia1

Oh no! When did you send them out?  How many did you send out?  How many have you recieved?

I sent out 136 invitations out on August 10 with an RSVP due date of Sept. 20.  I have recieved 35 back.  People are really slow!  I wouldn't worry about it but I know that won't help your sleep. 

samanthaeisner

It may have been lost in the mail   1 of my mom's friend's shower invite was.  Also, I had incorrect addresses on 2 wedding invites.  It took about 2 weeks for them to come back to my house.  One of them I put 2401 as the house number and it was 2404, so it bounced back as no known address.  You may have inverted a number or something and it will come back to you. 

Don't panic, everything will work out!

NRod70

We're only having 80 guests, most are couples and families so I think the final count that was mailed was around 30.  I received 9 responses.  I just mailed them out 2 weeks ago.  I know that I am worried over nothing but still...

The response date isn't until the end of the month for my 10/26 wedding.  They went out fairly ealry because of OOT guests and I live right outside of Atlantic City and a number of family and friends are casino employees and have to request off pretty far in advance.   *sigh*

NRod70

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[QUOTE]It may have been lost in the mail :/  1 of my mom's friend's shower invite was.  Also, I had incorrect addresses on 2 wedding invites.  It took about 2 weeks for them to come back to my house.  One of them I put 2401 as the house number and it was 2404, so it bounced back as no known address.  You may have inverted a number or something and it will come back to you.  Don't panic, everything will work out!
Posted by samanthaeisner[/QUOTE]

<div>I know it should come back to me, I certainly made sure to put my return address...I guess it hasn't been long enough for it to come back to me yet.  LOL.   Ahhh, I know freaking for nothing!  LOL</div>

insanityofamom

I would call X and apologize and explain that the invitation was mailed out but must have been lost. I would ask him for his address again and double check the address that you sent the invite to. If you have any extra invites, send one back out to him, if you don't have any extras, then I guess you will just have to call him or send him a card - I am not sure what "appropriate" etiquette is here. I would not wait until the postal service decides to send card back - it could take 2 weeks or longer. Your RSVP date is at the end of the month, so you could still send him a new invitation - maybe a handwritten note apologizing and with the details would be a good subsitute for a formal invitation? 

I would try and not panic! Give it a couple weeks, then panic. I mailed my invites out a week ago and I have 1 response. 

ericaandtom2012

I think calling and confirming his address would be best, and if you have extras (and time) mail him an additional invitation.  Yes, sometimes things get lost in the mail, but you cannot assume that for your other missing RSVPs.  You should definitely wait until a couple days after your RSVP date passes before contacting the missing ones.

Try not to worry about it too much - at this point, you can't really do much about it except wait for your RSVP date to pass.

NRod70

Thank you for your input ladies!

Ividian

I had two invites that I know of not reach their destination, I sent another out to both.

amyelise25

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[QUOTE]We're only having 80 guests, most are couples and families so I think the final count that was mailed was around 30.  I received 9 responses.  I just mailed them out 2 weeks ago.  I know that I am worried over nothing but still... The response date isn't until the end of the month for my 10/26 wedding.  They went out fairly ealry because of OOT guests and I live right outside of Atlantic City and a number of family and friends are casino employees and have to request off pretty far in advance.   *sigh*
Posted by NRod70[/QUOTE]

I mailed out 30 invites two weeks ago like yourself and have only gotten back 10 so far.  So we are running around the same amount.  I wish more came in early, but after reading about the early October brides experiences I am now resigning myself to the bulk coming in later.  Although I did give the subtle guilt treatment to a couple of OOT family membersI saw this past weekend.