So, now what?

mmmendi

FI is pretty opinionated. No opinion on dress, but tonight he expresses wear my hair down. Well...I was aiming for up with a few tendrils. Does that count as down? the honest truth is I want us both to be okay with our photos! I have no idea how to post pics, or I would have shared for an opinion. I think I photograph much better with my hair up. What to do?!!!

julie279

I would let him know what you told us - that you feel you photograph better with your hair up.  If he is really that adament about you wearing your hair down though, and if I were you, I'd probably just do that.

shasha5847

You could also have a style so that maybe you could wear it up for the ceremony and then let it down for the rehearsal dinner.  Mostly, I would just talk with him about it.

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can you do half up/half down?

jenny&will2014

I am in the same boat kind of. I had my hair and makeup trial with an up do. he said he liked my makeup (i NEVER wear makeup) but didnt say anything about my hair until later when I torn out all the bobbypins and was left with a kind of poofy but very curly "down do" he could not shut up about how much he loved it. I am a ponytail girl so I figured an updo would be best bc i think halfway through the night my hair touching my face will drive me nuts! lol  as much as I dont want to i might go back for another hair trial to try down dos or half up half down dos.

ericaandtom2012

Honestly, this is your hair.  You're the one that has to wear it all evening.  You should tell your FI that you're wearing it up and it's non-negotiable.  I would HATE to have my hair down because my neck would get so warm and gross from sweating - I'd probably pull it back once pictures were over.  In 10 years, he's not going to look at the pictures see your hair being up, he's going to see how happy he and his new wife were.

brainybrunette

I agree with PP.  This is your decision and you have to be comfortable with the way you decide to have your hair.  FI would NEVER even think about telling me how to dress, do my hair, or makeup and if he did I honestly wouldn't listen and do whatever I wanted anyway.

Kristen627

I have pretty long hair, and my fiance REALLY wanted me to wear it down. I'm terrified it'll fall flat halfway through and I'll end up with weird looking hair. So I'm putting it up to eliminate any variables that would cause me to hate my hair. When I told him, he sort of just looked at me and said, "oh. Ok. that sounds nice. Whatever you want is great." 

I promise you, on your wedding day, he is NOT going to be looking at your hair.

futuremrsjdmartin

FI wanted me to wear my hair down too but I reminded him we're getting married in Oklahom in October....I don't want to look a crazy mess from the wind. That made him think about it and he realized its my choice. Maybe thats a way to go about it since you also know what I am talking about with the wind.